[ SECRET POST #1981 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1981 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 68 secrets from Secret Submission Post #283.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[unicornherds]

I don't really get this. Why would you announce to fandom anyway? It's not like you absolutely must disclose all facts about yourself to fandom/friends. If you don't want to come out, don't.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, it might be hard to declare your attraction for certain characters without it being obvious that you're gay/bi

[unicornherds]

Huh. Fair point. I probably should never comment on secrets about sexual identity since I just don't get it. I don't understand wanting labels and wanting to announce labels to the world. Like who you like, fan over who you want to fan over, gush about who you want to, and go on with your life. But then, I'm apparently not normal. So there's that.

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds a little like straight privilege. It's super not important to people who don't have to deal with the issue but for the rest of us? It's not about wanting "labels" it's about knowing we're going to be labelled if we don't continually censor our words and behavior and trying to take ownership of it.

[unicornherds]

You're assuming I identify as straight.

[(Anonymous)]

Why I said it "sounds straight". I've definitely encountered your attitude in people who identify as other but usually I get that schtick from straight people.

[unicornherds]

That's funny, because in my experience I get that "schtick" from people outside of the normal labels - ie not straight people. It's usually people who don't fit within the labels - be it gay, straight, bi, woman, man, whatever - that have adopted that particular philosophy.

Suppose it all just depends on who we surround ourselves with and our particular experiences.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe I'm just being defensive but I've had to deal with too many straight people who think I shouldn't "rub my gayness" in their face and it should all be done behind closed doors. Ignoring the fact they can hold hands/kiss/introduce their significant other and no one acts like that's out of the norm but when I'm doing it it's flaunting.

[(Anonymous)]

I always see these as much more of the "fandom" than the "fan" part of fandomsecrets: the OP's worried about what her fandom friends will think if they find out. There's the very real possibility fandom friends will find out and others finding out about your sexuality doesn't always work out great. So it might be easier to jump the gun.

[(Anonymous)]

OP here

Pretty much. Knowing me, something will slip out at some point or another and people will find out, and depending on what fandom and which friends, it could be a disaster.