[ SECRET POST #1981 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1981 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

OP here

I've seen the Kinsey scale, but it's always intimidated me because I've never been in a relationship with a guy or a girl, and even if I had, I always assumed you were only bi if you were right in the middle of the scale.

[(Anonymous)]

As others have said, there's no "average" or "right" or "wrong" when it comes to these things, and IIRC (though my undergrad psych degree was completed eons ago) Kinsey's work was widened by others to include thoughts and tendencies more than just experience, so it's not seen now as limited a scale as Kinsey had first created. /unhelpful blather

At the end of the day, though, it's about what you're comfortable with and how you wish to act on it. There's no right or wrong answer; there's just life, and it's going to suck as much as it's going to be awesome. I hope the comments you see here help you realize you're not alone, and because I love to give advice even when it's not helpful in the slightest, I'll just say that my (female) partner and I met through fandom eight years ago. She had been married to a man, and the majority of my history had been with guys as well. The majority of our online friends and acquaintances didn't have a problem with it, and though it was hard to tell our families both that we were in a homosexual relationship and that we'd met online (because I honestly don't know which was the bigger stigma at the time), she was included in all the family pictures when my sister married two weeks ago. It's been a hard road to get here, and there are still bumps, but the journey's worth it.

Many hugs to you, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

TBH this entire thread has been amazingly kind to me and my lack of knowledge. Basically; I love everybody in this bar comm. :D

[(Anonymous)]

In my opinion, relationships have nothing to do with what you like. A virgin can know if he or she is gay or not. Whatever turns you on, turns you on. I also don't believe you have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bisexual. Being attracted to one man and one woman at least once in your life makes you bisexual. But if you don't like that, the Kinsey scale is a great way to express roughly how much you're attracted to each gender. 0 means attracted only to the opposite gender, 3 means equally attracted to both genders, and 6 means attracted only to the same gender. 1, 2, 4, and 5 are in between those markers. I believe that anyone who's not a 0 or a 6 is bisexual. I'm actually more pansexual than bisexual, but I prefer to use bisexual because it is an easy concept for most people to understand.

Here's a chart (switch behavior for attraction): http://thealterrealist.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/09-07-kinsey.gif

[(Anonymous)]

See, if I define it by attraction rather than behavior, I'd say I'm at least a 2, maybe between 2 and 3. I've looked at the Kinsey scale before, but it always scared me because I have no "behavior" to draw from, just crushes and "woah, that's hot" reactions.

[(Anonymous)]

That's about where I am, and I definitely define myself as bisexual. The quickest and easiest way to figure out what you like is to read and watch porn, the kinkier the better. I know that sounds like strange and deviant advice, but I'm guessing you're pretty young and aren't quite sure what you like. Maybe you're kinky, maybe you're not. Maybe you only like butch women or effeminate men. Maybe you're into BDSM, maybe cross-dressing gets you off. You won't know until you try to find out. Read slash, femslash, het, genderswap, whatever. You won't know what you like until you try as much as you can.

[(Anonymous)]

I do read(not so much watch, because I'm still living at home and I don't have a private place to watch, lol) plenty of porn, and I am pretty aware of kinks I have(BDSM being a rather large one, actually). And I like them on pretty universal basis. So, ironically enough, I'm pretty aware of my kinks(and thanks to fandom for giving me a name to put with the feelings).
But I'm never adverse to reading more porn for the good of figuring myself out :P