[ SECRET POST #1983 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #1983 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Super Junior, Kim Heechul]


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03.
[Big Love]


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04.
[Hourou Musuko/Wandering Son]


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05.
[Avengers]


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06.
[Legend of Korra]


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07.
[Legend of the Sun Knight / 吾命骑士]


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08.
[Dexter]


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09.
[Nicky Minaj: Starships]


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10.
[FF12]


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11.
[Discworld, Hitchhikers Guide To The Galaxy]


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12.
[Stephen King's It]


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13.
[14 Nights]


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14.
[Raising Hope]


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15.
[Gangs of New York]


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16.
[Tsuritama]


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17.
[Disney's Brave]


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18.
[Borderlands]


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19.
[Legend of Korra]


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20.
[Star Trek: DS9]


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21.
[Spice World]


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22.
[Glee]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 023 secrets from Secret Submission Post #283.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - empty comment ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

01. http://i.imgur.com/umBLk.png

[rhosyn_du]

"When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." - C. S. Lewis

Everyone has hobbies, OP, and some of the happiest and most well-adjusted adults I know are in fandom to some degree or another. I bet if you stop and think about the hobbies your friends engage in, you'll realize they're just as ridiculous and childish as fandom is. And that's okay, because hobbies are kind of ridiculous and childish by nature, because hobbies are just grown-up playtime.

As an aside, everyone I know had trouble adjusting in their mid-20's, myself included. I can't promise it will get less confusing for you, because everyone's life is different, but I can tell you it got less confusing for all of us.

[helenadax]

Of course, you need serious hobbies for adults, such as football, basketball, cycling...

[kallanda_lee]

You know, I've come to the conclusion being "grown up" isn't all that great.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I feel ya. Without fandom I wouldn't have figured out a lot of things about myself, and I'd be a much more miserable person; I ain't droppin' this for nothin', no matter how many years out of college I am.

/oldfan brofist

[lunabee34]

I think people can certainly behave childishly within the context of fandom, but participating in fandom and fannish things is in no way childish. Fandom gives us the opportunity to create and transform, to build relationships and support networks, to cry and laugh and love collectively--none of those things sounds childish to me.

[case]

Man I used to think like oh god if I went out and grew up and got a job and whatever other adult things, I wasn't going to be able to be in fandom any more. But then it was like holy shit, I have money. Holy shit, I can buy stuff. Holy shit, I can buy all the things and do all the things (that I can afford to pay for, anyway) and I don't have to answer to anybody. If I want to play Pokemon instead of watching a football game or something who's going to tell me not to? And if they do, I don't have to listen! Why? Because I'm a goddamn adult, that's why!

[(Anonymous)]

As long as you're not making it an unhealthy obsession in your life, then there's nothing wrong with dabbling in fandom here and there no matter how old you are.

[stainless]

Growing up, I think, means caring less when people judge what matters to you.

[elaminator]

What IS a grown-up hobby though? Like...wine tasting? Why can't you have your wine and cheese whilst reading fanfic? I'll never get this line of thinking. Enjoying TV and movies is pretty much a universal thing and there are very few people who would tell you THAT'S childish, yet if you're incredibly invested in the characters and the worlds they take place in and want to be involved in creating or engaging in new content for those things its somehow silly? I just...don't get it. (The same goes for anime, games, etc, though some people do find those childish. Don't ask me why though.)

And even if it IS silly, what's wrong with that? *shrugs*

[intrigueing.livejournal.com]

Fandom isn't childish. Childishness is determined by how you approach things, not by the things you choose to approach.

Yes, fandom attracts a lot of childish people -- teenagers and adults who haven't mentally grown up. What of it? You don't have to be one of those people.

[cloud_riven]

Bah. If it's not impeding your ability to kick ass at life, why worry about how childish something is. God damn fun repressed judgey folk :U (or they have their own definition of fun whatever)

[(Anonymous)]

Fandom got me through my college years, and ten years later, through my divorce, and now, almost twenty years later, with one parent's death, and moving to take care of the other, to a place where I know absolutely no one. Without fandom, I wouldn't have met three of the best friends I've had for the past thirty years.

Fandom rocks. I don't care what your friends think about it being childish, I needed it in my twenties, and I still need it now.

[omorka]

Being an adult means paying your bills (rent, mortgage, utilities, car payment, etc.) on time, being responsible for getting yourself where you need to go, supporting yourself and those who depend on you, and having meaningful relationships with other people.

While the absolute worst stereotypes of fandom tend to not meet that model (see also: the recluse living in their parents' basement, never getting a job, and only interacting with people through XBox Live and message boards about games and movies), I don't see anything in there that precludes fandom as a hobby. As long as you don't go so overboard with it that you damage your relationships, lose your job, or fail to meet your financial obligations, I can't imagine why it would be different from any other hobby.

Oh, I'm in my 30s, married, and have held the same job for the last 12 years, FWIW.

[honk]

look, you get one life and one life only. your happiness should be important to you. if the things you enjoy mean a lot to you and they're not hurting anybody else, then who cares what your friends think? do what makes you happy, even if that means enduring weird looks or implications of "childishness." in the end, it doesn't really matter what people think about you and your interests. what matters to you should be what matters the most.

[(Anonymous)]

Fandom itself isn't childish though. It's more like what you do in fandom that counts as childish. Like for example having a full blown rage-y ship war against some random person in the internet about how makkora is ttly kawaii desu and ~otp~ forever and anyone who gets in their way is a whore!!1! is really immature but discussing your ships and disagreeing with each other in a calm manner isn't.

[(Anonymous)]

Call me a sad case but I find fandom much more fascinating than the "real world". With non-fandom people it feels like I can't talk about any subjects but gossip and work and news. They don't seem to have any imagination or passion beyond things that directly affect their lives and careers. With my fandom friends I can have an incredibly deep and meaningful discussion about absolutely anything, and best of all be creative and have fun coming up with our own ideas.

[velvet_mace]

I wonder what isn't a childish hobby. Dress up? Painting? Playing with cars?

[littlestbirds]

I have the same experience, probably the same age as you too OP. I have learned so so much from fandom, and all the friends I shared it with moved on and didn't want to hear it. I also have close friends who don't share any of my geeky interests. I think that has given me a thick skin about these kind of judgments. I know why I like what I like, and I am not going to waste my time being ashamed of my harmless hobbies :)

[ex_mek82]

Honestly, I'm going through that kind of crisis right now myself. =/

So I can totally sympathize.

[badducks]

Boo to people not in touch with their inner child. Sure, you can't be a woman/man-child all your life because you've got to be serious sometimes, but there's nothing wrong with having fandom interests. I'm into video games and I get "the look" sometimes from people who think it's "childish" when I've actually learned quite a bit about being a team player from online games. It's weird lol. Bah, don't doubt yourself. Who wants to be a boring uninteresting person who judges people on their interests anyways? ;)

And I don't miss being a teenager. Things weren't simpler on my end. It was actually quite complicated. More so than nowadays.

[writerserenyty]

No shame in being in fandom and an adult! Lots of people are able to balance doing fannish things and being an "adult;" the guy who runs the site I blog for has a family and a job but still spends a decent amount of time in the Jpop fandom, and I know another woman who does a lot of things in fandom while balancing life and kids.

Fandom is a hobby and a fun one at that, and it's no less mature than a lot of socially acceptable hobbies for adults.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel the same way. I'm still into the Backstreet Boys fandom, but all of my high school friends are constantly saying, "Man, we were so stupid, remember all of the lame things we did back then?" I told them I was excited about all of the good BSB news lately, and they didn't care at all. They almost looked at me like it was sad that I was still into BSB.

[starphotographs]

Anon, you rock! :D

I'm 23 and sometimes worry that I am OH NOES GROWING OUT OF FANDOM FOREVER, but... You know, I just go through "lazy" streaks now and then. It happened when I was a teenager and before then, so I guess it's just something that happens now and then, and them's the brakes and all.

I get annoyed when people make having grown out of an interest as a point of pride, though. It just seems weirdly snooty or something. But maybe I'm not one to comment because I don't really "grow out of" things, just get sick of them.

[la_petite_singe]

I know what you mean. :\ But you're never too old for creativity and chatting with people about shared interests and stuff, and isn't that really all fandom is? Celebrating artistic stuff all together? Ain't nothing wrong with that, and you can't be too old for that.