[ SECRET POST #2006 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2006 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 06 pages, 135 secrets from Secret Submission Post #287.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

NS, NF, etc

nf

[badass_tiger]

Oh anon :( *hugs* I don't know what to say, but I hope you manage to get over it. I have the same insecurities, and there's a somebody in my life who I feel is constantly pushing me backwards, but I've found the one person who always pulls me back up. I hope you find your solution too.

Re: nf

[insanenoodlyguy]

Insecurities can be tough things, indeed. NF op, you might want to consider therapy. I realize you might be thinking "these thoughts aren't rational, and embarassing, I never had these things happen to me, how can I tell anybody about how stupid this is?"

Well, from your description, they are irrational, yes. But that's why you need the help. You are an intelligent person who realizes that intellectually this makes no sense, but as you've no doubt also come to realize, that part doesn't always succeed in stoping the feelings. People have had problems with sillier then this. I hope you find somebody who can help you with that.

[(Anonymous)]

i feel like a derp!non asking this but what the heck do NS and NF mean? ._.

[sandor051.livejournal.com]

Not secret, and not fandom.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't feel bad. It took me forever, and I still misread NS as NSFW half the time.

[(Anonymous)]

Their secrets that didn't meet the criteria for being posted with the rest of the secrets, either because they don't count as a "secret", or because they don't really talk about "fandom".

[(Anonymous)]

*I meant "they're", not "their", aiskngndjuhgbujdhn

NF

[majorshipper]

Oh, that sucks big time, OP. I'm so sorry. I hope you find a way to deal with it that makes you a happy and confident person again.

NF

[(Anonymous)]

Makes sense to me at least, it's internalizing what SJWs expect the experience of a POC to be like. A lot of them don't realize that prejudice and racism are not always universal experiences, even among POC, and there's many other factors that go into prejudice. It's something so complicated that blanket statements don't help much. I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope everything gets better.

NF

[countess_k]

I wouldn't say you've been brainwashed, you're just more informed about the word around you. Give it some time. It will most likely pass and you'll be able to handle the knowledge. Being from a small town and never knowing about what happened/happens to other people in the world might be a comforting life, but it also makes you naive and somewhat dumb. Knowledge is a double edged sword. It empowers you but it also pulls you out of your comfort zone and forces you to see things you never thought existed. Once you are over the initial shock and can decide where you stand with regards to that knowledge you'll be a better, stronger person.

Re: NF

[insanenoodlyguy]

This isn't about knowledge, this is about fear. This OP is seeing/fearing things that aren't necessarily there in their personal life. This is a bit more then "upset over the state of the world."

OP might need therapy.

Re: NF

[countess_k]

That's why I said "most likely pass." If the feeling doesn't pass after a while OP definitely should seek professional help.

Re: NF

[(Anonymous)]

This isn't 'knowledge' - OP's been given a whole new set of insecurities because they internalized the PoC experiences that SJWs say most PoC have. Not quite the same thing.

[elaminator]

:(

I'm not really sure what to say anon, but I hope you can overcome these feelings and be happy again.

Not everyone is going to have the same experiences in life, and while it is terrible that anyone has to deal with hate and prejudice, you shouldn't have to live in fear over the possibility that you might experience it.

NF

[saiika_von_maou]

Oh, sweetie. My heart goes out to you. I've been where you are, in a way, and I know how scary and sad it is to doubt yourself.

If it makes you feel any better, I happen to think dark skin is absolutely beautiful, and I simply can't be the only person (white or otherwise) who thinks so.

[(Anonymous)]

I know how you feel. SJ's who rant on about how 'you have to recognise that ALL men ALWAYS have power over ALL women ALL THE TIME or you're a MISOGYNIST POS' are the ONLY people who have ever made me feel lesser for being a woman.

I've encountered a few genuinely sexist men, but I just ignored them. I have wonderful male friends. Every now and again I can't help but remember that SJ's think our friendship is invalid because I'm unequal to them. But mostly I just get angry that those assholes exist rather than being upset. You could try to do the same thing? :)

[meadowphoenix]

Well, some of them are and some of them aren't. Your town might be more on the "aren't" side. And frankly, as long as you are actually being treated well, why do you need to know what goes on inside someone else's head? Pro-tip: negative and positive things about everyone, including themselves. Focus on how people treat you and not their motives for doing so and you might get some confidence back. Seriously. If you start having these thoughts, stop yourself and remember what people have done for you.

But I would like to say that you are now armed with some knowledge if people do start acting a problematic way.

[(Anonymous)]

I had the same problem when I was reading SJ stuff all the time. As well as getting more concerned about the prejudices I face myself, I also found I was starting to see my friends as intersectional categories rather than just as people I loved and that was the really toxic part that made me realise I needed to leave.

Get back to your real life, it's a lot more important.