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⌈ Secret Post #2007 ⌋

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It's hardly unusual to have to compromise on something like this, and fake enthusiasm for the sake of someone else's feelings. Don't view it as watching a crappy Spiderman movie: view it as watching something that your friend is looking forward to, and try to see the movie through her eyes.

Don't, for the love of comics, turn it into a negative bitchfest in which you unload your negative feelings on a depressed friend. Stick to positive or neutral comments. Try finding "interesting" things about the movie, like the way scenes are shot or whatever, so that you can make a positive comment (I typically find even the worst Hollywood films on general release have interestingly shot scenes or effects or an actor really going for it or an interesting idea).

Try switching on the bit of your brain that laughs at stupid things. Also, your friend probably really needs validation right now, so let her know that you had a fun time and are glad she asked you along.

And if you must bitch about the film, remember that you can come on here as an anon and spew every negative thought, without your friend being hurt.

OP

Not an only child, but my brother and I tried to pick films that both of us would enjoy, and when it was one that one of us would get a lot more out of than the other, the one who didn't enjoy it much would get to pick the next time. My depessed friend won't even give things a try. I know that I actively dislike Spider-Man - and I think I probably know him better than her - but she loves vampires and won't give Hellsing a try, adores Tomb Raider and won't try Uncharted, and despite claiming to like good films, made me watch three Indiana Jones films and then TALKED ALL THE WAY THROUGH THE LONGEST YARD. If she didn't pick it apparently it can't be interesting. Which wouldn't bug me so much if her interests hadn't atrophied some time around 2002.

First off, Indiana Jones is fucking awesome.

Second, stop being this girl's friend if you don't want to be. I mean, you don't even sound like her friend, you sound like you can't even stand her. And that doesn't make you better than her, that makes you a shitty friend.

DA I was gonna say this too. Maybe the OP should rethink their relationship with this friend and re-evaluate the give and take of it. It sounds like both sides are unwilling to give. I get having shitty friends that don't want to try new things, complain about stupid shit and have some interests that drive me up the wall when they talk about them which is all the time. I took a step back and changed the status of the relationship from friend to acquaintance. They're fine in small doses, but any more than that we will eventually clash on some matter or interest. And we used to get along great, but people change and interests and opinions change.

OP

I know it's all been take for years. I'm just trying to stick it out so she can get through this and move on with her life. I know she's not a shitty person underneath everything, but she certainly has been a shitty friend constantly since I came out to her several years ago. But this isn't really the place to have this conversation. I know it's an issue and I'm doing my best to be a good friend to her until she gets it together. But yeah, I mostly wanted to talk about how great Gerber comics are and how wicked it would be if someone made a Heroes For Hire film.

Assuming she ever gets it together. I think you need to reevauate this friendship, before you end it... and not in a dignified way, but a screaming rant she might never have seen coming cause she obviously isn't picking up on all of this. Being there for her doesn't mean you hide your feelings on everything.

Also, while a Heroes for Hire movie would be awesome, I'd hope Iron Fist and Power Man got their own movies first. Hell, Iron Fist's Cities of Heaven Tournament could probably be a great triology if done as a follow up once the characters were introduced.

I really want to see a live action bride of nine spiders fight. I won't lie.

Not OP, but this sort of thinking between people only really works out if both can be open minded and willing to try things for the sake of the other. When you're in a situation where you're willing to give something a chance, but the other person won't for you then all that's going to happen is you'll feel resentment for doing something you know they wouldn't do for you. Not all people are like that, but I'd say most are. And it's only fair for there to be some give and take.

The OP's situation sounds like from previous posts that even if they gave in and sat and watched Spiderman that if the roles were reversed their friend wouldn't. It would be a gamble. They could go watch it and it might not be so bad and they could enjoy it. Except if they go watch it and it's complete crap they'll blame their friend for wasting their time. Sometimes in those situations it's best to go with the sure winner and avoid the movie altogether.

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