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⌈ Secret Post #2015 ⌋

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Comments

TMI question

[(Anonymous)]

I was reading a stupid post on tumblr about why women should masturbate for their health that made me mad, and then I started thinking about my sitiation. I literally can not masturbate and I don't know if that's normal or not.

I don't feel anything when I touch myself, not in my vagina or even on my clit. It feels no different than rubbing the crook of my elbow. Objects don't do anything for me either. But I'm very sensitive when other people touch me(i.e. I'm extremely ticklish but I can't tickle myself). If someone else touches me sexually, or even just on my lower belly or thighs, I definitely feel tingly feelings.

I don't care about masturbating, I'm just wondering if this is normal.

Re: TMI question

[anonymouslyyours]

TBH I am not at all confident you can get any kind of helpful advice in this situation from an internet stranger. I know not everyone is in the situation where they can get medical advice but if you are I would highly recommend it.

(It is possible you are stimulated mentally and not physically?)

Re: TMI question

[(Anonymous)]

Nah, I feel ya! Oh wait, that was poorly phrased. What I mean is that I don't feel anything either by touching myself like that, I have to use other means. So maybe it's normal, maybe we're abnormal together?

Re: TMI question

[cloud_riven]

If you don't care for it, then it's normal for you. And that's about all that matters, really.

"Normal for everyone" my ass. When you have folk going around pulling out generalisations about bodies as fact, you end up with folk who don't meet that expectation wondering if they're some kind of aberration to sexy kind. GDI

But if you're asking everyone anyways, for me, just prodding around my body if I'm not in the mood is about as stimulating as a biting a fingernail. Unless you're into nail biting, but whatever not the point. My current partner needs physical stimulation to be aroused though, so it's probably safe to say it's okay and completely fine if we get off on different things.

Re: TMI question

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP

Normal for everyone" my ass. When you have folk going around pulling out generalisations about bodies as fact, you end up with folk who don't meet that expectation wondering if they're some kind of aberration to sexy kind. GDI

THIS. Ugh everytime someone makes those generalizations (which is OFTEN) I feel like something's wrong with me.

Re: TMI question

[ooh_mrdarcy]

agreed

Re: TMI question

[teh_sandwich]

I literally had this exact same problem up until about a week ago. Up until then I got nearly nothing from masturbating, and I currently can only orgasm when I'm doing sexy things with another person. For example I get really aroused when another person messes with my nipples or clit but if I tried to do that to myself I got nothing. I'm still having problems getting sufficient stimulation through my clit while masturbating.

The random thing that changed all of this for me? Attempting to masturbate while listening to music. Go figure.

So you're not alone anon! I wouldn't worry about it too much. (The only reason why I wanted to finally get something from masturbation is because I have a high sex drive and going months with out an orgasm or anything sexual at all fucking sucks. It's like the girl equivalent of blue balls I swear.)

/soooo much TMI guys. Sorry.

OC

[(Anonymous)]

Oh wow...I'm the same way! The closest I've came(ha) to orgasming from masturbating was while I was listening to certain music. The only difference is that my sex drive is pretty low.

Thank you, I don't feel as weird now. :)

Re: OC

[teh_sandwich]

No problem OC! It's definitely been a frustrating road for me, but I've been sooo happy this past week because of that music break through. I hope you'll eventually have your own awesome break through!

I've probably masturbated more times this week than any other point of time in my life. >>;;

Re: TMI question

[vethica]

I don't know how normal it is or not, but I'm exactly the same way, and it seems like other people in this thread are too. So. Not alone. :B

Re: TMI question

[(Anonymous)]

I have pretty much the same problem. The only way I could feel anything is when I crossed my legs. I usually did it at night because it helped me fall asleep. I've never had sex so I don't know what other people touching me does.

Unfortunately, I started a new birth control pill 5 weeks ago and now even that doesn't work. I became "dead" down there right away. That's not an exaggeration. I took the first pill at 2 p.m. and by 10 p.m....nothing. For some reason I can become aroused reading smutty fanfic but I haven't been able to have an orgasm since before I started those pills.

But, yeah, not everyone masturbates, and not just because of religious reasons. It took me a long time to learn how to, and in the meantime I had to deal with other women on a forum I used to frequent declaring things like "Everyone masturbates. Anyone who says they don't is lying." I never spoke up because I thought I was the only one who didn't and didn't know how. Now I wonder how many other people kept quiet because of this loud clique's generalizations. (I remember a girl in college asking advice because she wasn't sure whether she should lose her virginity to her new boyfriend and being thoroughly virgin-shamed by these women.)

Re: TMI question

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, those forum goers suck.

Re: TMI question

[loki]

If you do get turned on, try touching yourself when feeling turned on, fantasising, reading or watching something sexy. Get some lube, take it easy, vary the pressure and the locations. Don't even bother if you're not feeling horny, it might work for some people, but for many women, yeah, you may as well be fondling your elbow. Don't go in for it trying to come, just try to feel pleasure. If it still doesn't work then maybe you're just not wired that way, you're an outlier. Or you never know, one day it might make sense.

If you're not feeling a desperate longing for release through stimulation/orgasm then rubbish, no way is it mandatory for mental or physical health.