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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-07-19 06:37 pm

[ SECRET POST #2025 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2025 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Pokemon Special]


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[Avengers/Thor]

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[Two Men in a Trench]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 024 secrets from Secret Submission Post #289.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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[personal profile] citrinesunset 2012-07-20 09:40 am (UTC)(link)
I don't know the details of your situation or if I'm reading this secret correctly, so I could be off-base, but maybe what you want is just to be in a D/s relationship again.

I don't know if you've had other, healthier D/s relationships since your dysfunctional one, but if you haven't, and kink is important to you, then something big might be missing. It makes some sense to start wondering if the dysfunction was worth it to have something you wanted, or if it's part of what you want to begin with. But it's worth finding someone who's a good fit for you and whom you can have a healthy relationship with. You shouldn't need to be in an unhealthy relationship to have your emotional and sexual needs fulfilled.
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[personal profile] nyxelestia 2012-07-20 10:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Based on an above comment, it sounds like the OP was in a BDSM relationship that wasn't TPE/(D/s) or wasn't supposed to be, but became one.

OP, if I'm presuming too much, feel free to correct me. If not: there are Total Power Exchange relationships and 24/7 D/s relationships that are healthy (it sounds like, from your previous comment, you were in an unhealthy TPE or 24/7 D/s relationship. Try taking a look at the differences between the bad relationship you had and other similar relationships that you feel don't fulfill you. Zero in on/list out those differences, and maybe see if you can find a way to work those into a healthy relationship.