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⌈ Secret Post #2031 ⌋

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Need some advice...

[(Anonymous)]

So, I work in basically a customer service/sales kind of position. Part of my job is keeping clients satisfied so they will continue to use the company I work for, and will continue to pay us.

A lot of them are...I don't even know how to describe them. A good amount are perfectly nice, seemingly normal, sane people. A lot of the others are obsessed with my sex/dating life for some inexplicable reason. (And no, the business is not anything even *remotely* sex-related; the questions they ask are *completely* inappropriate.) Today I had a woman tell me her thoughts on/participation in bondage and threesomes, and how many guys she's slept with. She asked me those same questions. I changed the subject, but I get asked similar questions on a regular basis. They make me uncomfortable, but I never know how to answer.

I've gone to my bosses about it, who've said to tell them I don't feel comfortable answering those kinds of questions at work, but I'm afraid I might make someone mad, they won't come back, we'll lose money, and it'll be my fault.

The job is pretty much perfect in every other aspect, so on one hand I feel like I have no room to complain and should just deal with it, but it bothers me, and I really wish I could come up with a response that wouldn't also piss people off and lose business.

Anyone have any advice on how to handle it?

Re: Need some advice...

[biohazardgirl]

That's sexual harrassment and you shouldn't have to put up with it. If your employers know that certain clients are sexually harassing you and they're still making you look after the client anyway, then you should talk to a higher up who deals with sexual harassment exclusively and tell them that you're being harassed and that no one is doing anything about it.

You're entitled to feel comfortable and safe in your work environment, and you shouldn't be forced to work with customers who sexually harass you, even if it makes the company lose money by not working with them anymore.

Re: Need some advice...

[lunabee34]

I want so hard to agree with you (because you are right! everyone has the right to be safe at their work), but I also think fingalsanteater is right. You should be aware of what they're gonna to do you if you complain too much. It's not right, but they might fire you if you refuse to work with certain customers.

Re: Need some advice...

[fingalsanteater]

Do you work for a big cell service provider? (Oh, wait you said the job was perfect otherwise. Nevermind.) My SO used to deal with this kind of shit too. It was part of the job to bullshit to keep customers and keep them happy, no matter if you were playing therapist or talking your favorite sexual position. He would have never complained of any discomfort because that'd get you fired.

I'd don't really have any advice aside from: know what kind of company you work for if complaining can get you fired. You are entitled to be comfortable in your work environment until it hinders the company profits in some way.

Re: Need some advice...

[world_eater]

Hm, but you've told your bosses about it already and they have given you the ok to speak up, right?

Re: Need some advice...

[ooh_mrdarcy]

Just say you're not comfortable discussing about other people's sex lives (or yours). If you need to, tell them it's not them, it's you; they'll leave you alone. If they won't, they're officially socially awkward and you're allowed to go off on them.

You have every right to voice your opinions on this matter - don't worry about upsetting others, because clearly they don't worry about upsetting you. Did they ever ask you if you were comfortable with this sort of thing? No. Did they ever ask you if you wanted to talk about sex? No. They just assumed.

You don't need to complain to get your point across, but you definitely need to set some ground rules.

Re: Need some advice...

[veronica_rich]

Do you deal with these clients in-person? If so, maybe you should ask your company to give you a budget for books and keep a box of "50 Shades of Grey" under your desk. The next time someone gets into this conversation, hand them a copy and cheerfully advise them to enjoy. :-)