[ SECRET POST #2059 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2059 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 045 secrets from Secret Submission Post #294.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[celestinenox]

I am cisgendered female. My best friend is a cisgendered male. Everyone assumes we're together, or that we will be. I can't stand it, because why can't we just be friends damn it? Also, why does everyone have to be in our business? What we are or aren't to each other isn't anyone's business but ours.

[chanterofelegies]

Well, yes. These things are annoying. But I've never seen a fs secret about a male/female pairing with this disgusted attitude that they're being paired up and why can't they just be friends.

[(Anonymous)]

Hang on, fandom pairings or real live people pairings?

For fandom pairings, I think I remember someone saying they hoped they never made Clint/Natasha canon, because they preferred them as platonic BFFs. This is not recent, but I understand there was some vehement opposition to romantic Mulder/Scully. Unfortunately, people are more likely to be ranting at the source creators, as far, far too many of the close male/female friendships on the screen actually turn into a romance in the source material. The fans don't have to make it up, it's thrown at them.

For real live people pairings, you can rant for three hours about how you wish people would stop assuming you're screwing your opposite-sex BFF, and no one will conclude you are anti-het. It's not a secret. If you want to rant about how you wish everyone would stop assuming you're screwing your same-sex BFF, you had better do it very carefully, or it will come off as anti-same-sex. People who want to express their frustration without being careful might choose to present it anonymously.

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed.
See, you're both cis, of opposite sexes and - as I assume - both hetero or bi.
That means you can make babies together and that means you will sooner or later be lovers. You can't fight heteronormativity (yet) and that sucks ass.

I'm having the same issues but slightly reversed.
Nobody believes my girlfriend and me are a couple until we'd be seen making out (something we're not doing in public because of homophobia and that sort of shit).
So wherever we go people just assume we're besties. Even if we tell them we're together, some guys just won't fuck off.

One time this one guy followed my girlfriend around on campus and hit on her constantly.
Even when he saw us exchanging a little kiss or holding hands he'd assume we were straight because a lot of straight girls do that to each other nowadays (and that's okay), but it seriously pissed us off.
Had my girl been with a dude he'd been all "oh, sorry, man! Didn't know she was with you".

Somehow people always want "proof" that we are legit in love with each other (most of the time by watching us having sex... which is another disgusting and objectifying thing we have to deal with in this "lesbians are truly straight hookers who'll let you watch and join if you just offer enough money or beg hard enough" society)