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This girl on my facebook friend's list has gone militant vegan/vegetarian/anti animal abuse activist and has started reposting really disturbing pictures of dead animals. I hide them and am seriously considering unsubscribing from her (we're not that close but I do like reading her status updates every now and then), but I wondering if I should speak up? Like, "Hey, those photos are really disturbing and they aren't going to convert anyone who isn't already a vegetarian/animal-lover. Quit it you're being gross." Or something like that.

What do you think?

Depends on if you're willing to get into an argument with her. People who get inflammatory on Facebook tend to be looking for a straw man to fight with, and the chances of her just saying "oh ok" are slim to none.

mte.

I think you should say something. Might not end well, though. Also, I think there might be an option on facebook to be able to unsubscribe to people's posts so they don't show up on your wall, but you're still friends with them. Maybe try that if they don't want to stop posting those pictures?

You should say something but don't go attacking her. Something like "Hey, could you not post pictures of abused/dead animals? I find it very upsetting."

If they come back trying to argue that showing dead animals will somehow convert people to be veg* you could come back with a simple "I don't think this helps your cause." Or "This does nothing but upset me." I just wouldn't start calling her gross or attacking unless you want to get into an argument or debate with her.

Ugh, I know that feel. My boyfriend and his mother are both my FB friends and they are both, yep, you guessed it: militant vegetarians. I probably see 10+ graphic animal abuse pictures per day. I'm not FB savvy enough to know how to get rid of it without them knowing, though.

If you hover over the picture or whatever you'll see a little menu icon in the corner. You can "hide" the picture with an option to Hide All from that person or just that one image. When you do this, and when you "unfriend" someone, they don't know about it. No messages are sent.

Ugh, sorry. As a vegetarian I always feel like I should apologize for those people's existence and point out that most of us aren't like that.

I'd say mention it because yuck, but be prepared to be attacked for mentioning it. Vegetarian who try and get convert-y about it usually have a persecution complex a mile wide, and get wicked judgmental.

Also, it probably violates Facebook's terms of service, so you probably could file a complaint.

I hear you. I'm a vegetarian too and I dread telling people because they may think I'm like that. (That and they always want to know what I eat.)

tell her right the fuck off.

animal abuse is an awful thing but ffs i don't need to see dead cats all up in my fb, posting your outrage on fb doesn't solve anything, if these people want something done then they should get up off their ass and do it themselves instead of propagating shock-value pics on the internet

i don't know what i hate more: "oh my god look at this mutilated animal" posts, "oh my god disagreeing with my politics makes you evil" posts, or app requests

You should unfriend her. Living around militant vegan/anti-animal abuse activists because my apartment was within walking distance of PETA head quarters, all you are going to get is an earful for asking her to stop it. As in, "I'll stop when animal abuse stops. Someone must speak up for the defenseless. blah, blah, blah."
If you are willing to hear this and know that you are just going to keep on getting disturbing pics, then go on, tell her. If not, unfriend her. You are not going to change her. She's on a mission. You're not. Again, I speak from experience. Oh, god, do I speak from experience.

Agreed.

Also, you've made me curious. Was your experience in any way like the self-riteous passive-aggressive note writing vegan roommate?

No. Not like that. Just that in certain parts of Norfolk, VA, you wouldn't want to be caught wearing a fur coat or a leather jacket. Or else you would be caught wearing a fur coat or leather jacket splashed in paint, a mouth stuffed full of anti-fur/leather pamphlets and your ears ringing from screams about what a horrible piece of filth you are. Remember this is the city that is home to PETA where they created a campaign to rename fish, "sea kittens" in hopes that people could not bring themselves to harm kittens. Logic is out the window and emotions have set camp.

Re: Should I Bother to Say Something

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Re: Should I Bother to Say Something

mekkio - 2012-09-20 02:52 (UTC) - Expand

when i was in high school there were a few militant types who hung around and harassed other students. this one really short little fucker one day had the audacity to grab a hotdog off my tray -- a hotdog i paid for out of the exactly $20/week i got for lunch those days -- and stomped on it in front of me, then yelled MEAT IS MURDER. the staff did nothing.

well, i did something.

i stood up.

i towered over him. i'm not the biggest guy ever by most standards but this little turd drop was tiny compared to me.

i gave him my meanest death glare, and pointed towards the lunch line.

5 minutes later i now have two hot dogs.

the only thing people like that kid understand is intimidation.

Edited 2012-09-20 00:43 (UTC)

Hey, at least your belly was extra full that day. It was a nice trade off.

Awesome. Good for you.

I would say something, and if she continued to post it knowing that it made me uncomfortable or got aggressive with me, I would defriend her.

It's not okay to post graphic stuff like that without concern for how your followers feel about it.

I'd probably say 'yeah do not want to see this everytime I go on FB' and unfriend or at least hide her. Pointing out that it isn't going to help her cause is true, but might end messy.

Reminds me of an anti-abortion group on my campus last year....

If you call her gross she'll probably be pissed of and will act out by posting more pictures. If you're gonna talk to her about it(and I'm not sure you even should tbqh), make sure to be succinct and non-aggressive on what you say, tell her how you see her point of view but how you feel posting those pictures to get an reaction is ineffective and all. You probably can come up with something better than that, idk.

Try and say something, but I think she would just cause a flame war with you. In my opinion, hit and run. Make a post detailing what is wrong with her recent posts and unsubscribe the moment it's posted on her page (or) the flames start smellin'.

Edited 2012-09-20 00:24 (UTC)

I would unsubscribe. Seriously, vegan/omnivore debates can get as nasty as evolution vs. creation debates, or pro-life vs. pro-choice. No one ever changes their mind, and everyone goes away angry.

Can't you just ask her via PM to maybe link to the pictures instead of showing them directly? Then you don't have to see the disturbing images, and can in turn scroll by her rants. That would be the most non-confrontational approach.

Yeah, do not call her gross and do not DEMAND that she stop. There is no way to look good doing that, so definitely no "Quit it, you're being gross!"

My suggestion is to send her a message saying your uncomfortable with those photos, ask her if they're going to be a regular, frequent thing and mention that if that's the case, it's nothing personal, but you're going to hide her posts from your newsfeed (which should have the same effect as defriending without seeming as callous and you can still check out her wall if you're curious.)

Unsubscribe. You're just asking for FB drama if you speak up. A childhood friend who I haven't seen since I moved away when we were 15 was always putting up anti-abortion or ultra conservative stuff, and I'm fairly liberal. I wanted to tell her, "Hey, um, don't want to be a jerk, because I know everyone is entitled to whatever opinion they have, but Facebook is not the time or place to talk about abortion." My sister talked me out of it. She was like, "Unsubscribe. You don't want to bring on any Facebook drama."

If you, for some reason, should want to keep her on, look for the Unbaby Me addon for Chrome. It works by keywords. I don't care about friends' kid pictures so I replaced all the keywords with various terms for animal abuse and it cuts down probably 90% of the stuff.

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