[ SECRET POST #2095 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2095 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 020 secrets from Secret Submission Post #299.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

17. http://i.imgur.com/CoyhI.png

[(Anonymous)]

Obviously, I don't know the exact specifics of your relationship (like, was this one where you'd always talk in private before reviewing?) but you might want to just assume the best. Perhaps your fandom friend (ex fandom friend?) honestly just wanted to get back into the fandom.

As a fic writer myself, I am super guilty of reviewing other people's works before writing fic of my own. I don't do it expecting reviews and, in fact, it's often impossible for those authors to find my work as I post to a locked community but mainly because AAAHHHH SO AMAZING/INSPIRING/AWESOME, PLEASE LET ME SQUEAL OVER YOUR WORKS?

So, yeah, I think you should take it as a compliment! Or at least that your friend wants to either {1} tell you she likes your writing (still) or {2} renew your bonds! :)

[mudousetsuna]

...and it couldn't have been a coincidence that maybe she realized you updated while updating her own, and decided to read it, liked it, and reviewed because she could?

[(Anonymous)]

Old ass fic that had been sitting around for years. No.

[mudousetsuna]

Oh. Oops, fail comprehension on my part. Sorry!

[herongale]

Wow.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe it was an indirect way to get your attention, lady/dude
I mean, does she know of your opinion on "review whoring"?
It could be also a way to open the dialogue, test the waters etc.
Just write an honest comment to her fic and look where it takes you imo.

[(Anonymous)]

I used to. No response. They reviewed tiny old ficlets on several different occasions. It took a few times for me to catch on when and why they were doing it.

[xiaa]

It's really strange how she'd want reviews from you if you're not talking to her anymore. I'd think things would be awkward for her to comment on your fics. She doesn't even ask how you're doing in your life or anything in her reviews? :( that's such a shitty thing to do though.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know her impression of events but my perception when the whole thing first went belly up was that the silence came from her end first. Fics being ignored, emails unanswered, never showing up on the instant messenger we used. That's when it started sinking in that I was being a total cock and problems or no problems, I'd outworn any welcome I might have had. So I apologized and went away. Her reviews haven't felt like an attempt to reestablish real contact and I'm not comfortable being stuck for a 'sure thing' reciprocal review just because somebody might figure I'm so desperate to make amends that I'll be super enthusiastic about it. I was early on. Not anymore. I screwed up but not so badly that I don't deserve to move on.

Sorry to dump all this on you.

[(Anonymous)]

If you did what you say you did, I don't think you have the right to complain about anything. You were obviously the shitty friend and reviews are public and having nothing to do with your history with this person. So suck it up and accept that you fucked up and they don't want to be friends with you anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

I do accept that I fucked up. It's right there in the first line of the secret. I'm fine without the friendship. What I don't care for is being used as a review count booster for the rest of my fandom life for a few months of bad behavior under some really bad circumstances years and years ago.

[(Anonymous)]

Personally I think you're reading way too much into things. Sure, there's always the chance that she did that so you'd review hers, but really it seems ridiculous to think that after years of separation she'd give a damn about your one review. I think you should just let it go.

[(Anonymous)]

I made this secret to let these thoughts out so I can let go. They've been bottled up a while inside and doing me no good. Yes, I likely am overthinking it. My headspace was not good when this all started. The random reviews every couple of years have been unpleasant reminders about those days and I've tied myself in knots wondering what does it mean, what does she want, for too long. But I don't trigger and flashback like I used to. So, here's to exorcizing the past and trying to move on.

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If she is just using you, accept the review and maybe reply kindly. Just don't leave her reviews if you don't want to, out of some twisted obligation. That said, if you are in the mood for her fic and enjoy it, drop her a review.

Also: maybe you could drop her a PM to try and clear things up? She might just be looking for reviews, but she might also be looking for a way to re-kindle things, and is just lost for how to go about it. If anything, you might get some closure (or drama too, I guess).

[(Anonymous)]

I understand how you feel, I've been in a similar situation. If the fact she decided to approach you like this really upsets you then just go on ignoring her and don't open up that door again.

But if you want to try again with her maybe this is a chance to test the waters. If she is just after reviews then yeah what she did was really low... and you should just ignore her if you feel that is the case.

However, looking at it from the other side.... sometimes when someone wants to talk to you again it's hard to find an opening. I don't know the relationship between you guys or how you communicated, but if you were friends through a certain site in the same fandom maybe that is the only way to reach out to you indirectly. Maybe she would have felt it was awkward to just PM you out of nowhere and just left a review to let you know it's okay to talk again since it sounds like she shut you out first.

Though to be honest it does sound like she's review whoring, but it's hard to tell since I don't know you guys.