[ SECRET POST #2111 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2111 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

15. http://i.imgur.com/8R1mq.png

[insanenoodlyguy]

Try the internet. You can probably find somebody to share this with.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh man, I know exactly what you mean.

Don't really have anything supportive to say, but... I'd totally appreciate it, if you felt like throwing some recs my way!

[(Anonymous)]

I can totally understand your reasoning, but I wonder if you share this with any of your online friends, where it's still anon to some part? Or with really nobody else?

I myself write a lot of stories you've described.. and it was difficult for me at first to write about those things, especially to share them with the 'public' of the internet. After some time though I cared less and enjoyed it even more, mostly because of other people who enjoyed it too and talked with me about it. I mean I'd never openly admit to my coworkers i.e. to write porn, but sharing it with the fandom is a lot of fun. Also I wouldn't do everything that I've written about in my personal life - bc some things are pretty extreme, but I like to imagine them nonetheless.

I think it's great that you leave prompts and inspire writers! May I ask which fandoms you talked about? I'm always looking for new inspirations :)

[(Anonymous)]

I think a lot of people have similar issues, anon, and not even just in fandom. Fantasies and kinks are a pretty personal thing, and the thought of sharing them with people can be pretty uncomfortable, especially if it's something that doesn't seem to be particularly mainstream or that you're afraid of people looking down on you for. That's part of the reason why anon fic memes are so great, since they do give you the chance to explore those sides of yourself.

So, it's perfectly okay to not want to share with people (and to not want to do the things you enjoy reading about in fic irl - I'd wager the majority of people feel the same way). If you do want someone to talk to about it, though, you might think about either feeling out your friends and seeing if any of them might be into similar things, or even creating a sock account where you can interact with people with similar interest on memes without having to use your actual name. Whatever you decide, though, just know that you're definitely not the only person who feels that way.

[(Anonymous)]

the very few BDSM fics i have read really excited and opened my mind, but then i considered that i can't know the validity of what these people are writing - as in, to what extent their stories are 'realistic'*, so i had to step away from it all because i didn't want to be filled with misinformation on something that was starting to make sense to me (does that even make sense?)

*the last BDSM fic i read scared the fuck out of me. it was nothing but sexual, mental and physical abuse (with kidnapping just for kicks!) that was trying to come across as 'romance'. quite frankly, it disgusted me

[maverickz3r0]

If there's abuse it's not BDSM. BDSM watchwords are safe, sane, and consensual. If people mislabel abuse as BDSM (which people do a lot), that sucks and they need to stop.

[citrinesunset]

Some BDSM fics are very unrealistic compared to what BDSM is in real life. But I don't think that makes all of them invalid, necessarily. For a lot of people, BDSM can be a way of consensually exploring fantasies. Like, I say I have a punishment kink, but that doesn't mean I want to be "really" punished against my will. I like the idea of playing it out with a partner. But a lot of fics approach BDSM more from a fantasy perspective.

It can be annoying/creepy when people write things like abuse and portray it in a romantic way. But on the other hand, I can see how someone might enjoy the fantasy of being kidnapped and abused without thinking that that's okay in real life. If they translate that kink into their real life relationships, it will ideally involve a lot of trust and consent, and will probably be milder and safer.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey it's ok. My fandom activities are mostly solitary too. I didn't talk about this stuff for years until I found out some of my friends are into it. I actually think sometimes it's best if you don't meet too many of the ultra hardcore fans. It's kind of embarrassing and ruins fandom for me. As people are fond of saying, your mileage may vary so if you really want you can try to find other people with similar interests at conventions. Honestly though, the best people I've found to talk to about fandom were friends I shared other interests with.