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Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

It feels like I constantly have anger just under the surface these days. The slightest thing can set me off, and I will stay angry for way too long over little things. This is not helped by the fact that I am a cashier.

I am living at home with my parents and brother post-graduation, and will be until at least May, maybe August, depending on how my plans work out. I can see them getting frustrated with me, and I know I would be frustrated with me in a reversed situation. It just feels like everything pisses me off and I cannot find a good way to get it out.

I am a very introverted person, so my solutions for this sort of thing used to be to take a fair amount of time by myself. I have never missed dorm living more than I do now.

Kind of just needed to ramble, but if anyone has advice, send it my way.

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure if you'll like it, but I've found reading Marcus Aurelius's Meditations/To Himself to be a good way of calming down and finding the root of my anger. I think that's what's important: finding why you're pissed off, then either treating the root or realizing that it's an irrational feeling.

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

What anon above me said.

Try to bring rationality into the irrationality that are emotions; being angry is not a conscious reaction, but by trying to bring conscious thought into it (why am I angry? is it something I can do? what will I get out of being angry? what could I ruin or who could I hurt if I stay angry like this?) and the process of thinking through it can help you calm down, and hopefully make it better

That you are constantly angry is worrying and way beyond my scope, so if it's a possibility, seek counseling/anger management from a professional

These are people who study how to help in situations like this one

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

...I feel you anon, more than you know. I wish I had good advice, but seeing as I'm still angry all the time, I'm not the one to ask.

Although it feels good after a long day at work to go hide from family and play a bunch of video games for stress relief. :P

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

Music is my cure. It's the only thing that keeps my family alive some days. I've learned to avoid certain songs/beats because they just make the anger boil, but anything too slow will sometimes have the same effect for me.

I also used to go for a run and that helped a lot. I didn't think of it straight away because I can't run anymore and these days physical activity is something other people do and it has nothing to do with me. But if running isn't your thing, maybe just a walk would help? The exercise and the alone time were really cathartic. And I could kick any rocks or tree trunks that were just begging for it since I couldn't do that to my family.

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

DA

If it is bad enough that you're worried you'll take it out on your own flesh and blood, anon, then I hate to tell you this, but it's likely that you will (or that you are already, in other ways, and you just don't recognize it).

You know you have a problem, so all respect to you for acknowledging that, but the fact that you're still kicking rocks and trees is Not A Good Sign. Might I suggest (and you're free to tell me where to go for telling you this anonymously on Fandom!Secrets), that you look for something that will alleviate even the need to kick rocks and trees? Because that is not healthy either and it really does still pose a risk for your family.

Re: Capacity for Anger

[(Anonymous)]

I would say it helps to take walks. Exercise helps release stress and will allow you to manage your anger better. I know because I have had problems with anger and mild violence and exercise, even if it's just walking around outside for a while will do wonders for you. You don't want to keep cooped up inside if you can help it, otherwise your feelings might just fester. Taking walks in a shopping mall work too, that way you can get away from your family for a while.