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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-01-11 07:31 pm
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[ SECRET POST #2201 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2201 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Monty Python]


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[Umineko no Naku Koro Ni]


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09. [SPOILERS for Arkham City]



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13. [WARNING for rape]

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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #314.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:35 am (UTC)(link)
If someone says they're demisexual, I can no longer respect them.

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(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:38 am (UTC)(link)
*goes to make popcorn*

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(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:46 am (UTC)(link)
+1

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(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:46 am (UTC)(link)
Me too, me too. Demisexuality, or you know most of the human population who doesn't have casual sex?
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[personal profile] chardmonster 2013-01-12 01:50 am (UTC)(link)
...I kinda agree, but it's more of an unavoidable subconscious thing.

Like really? You think you need a special term for actually wanting to have feelings for the people you screw? You think this is uncommon enough to warrant a special name?

It's one of those terms people use to feel oppressed when they're usually quite privileged. Because we as a culture have developed a simplistic worldview where everyone is either oppressed or an oppressor with nothing in between and no grey areas, so the only way to be one of the good guys is to find a categorization that someone, somewhere might dislike you somewhat for, because being a good person isn't good enough.

But you shouldn't stop respecting them, because a lot of them have good intentions. They think if they don't specifically parse it someone will yell at them. Or it just makes it easier to avoid creepers online.
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[personal profile] thene 2013-01-12 02:09 am (UTC)(link)
+1, especially about respecting them and their intentions. Like all identity labels it's a reflection of your culture and there's no point harshing someone's culture on the grounds that the medium of it is tumblr. What do you hope they're going to do, stop using the word?

I feel like, the real problem is that we've swung from being a society that expects all women to be asexual to being a society that expects all women to have the libido of an 18-year-old boy. So the 95% of people (again, this wordculture is mostly specific to women on the internet) who are neither of those things are sometimes a bit at sea and some of them want a word to describe where they are.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 04:43 pm (UTC)(link)
My only issue with demisexuality is the fact that it's not an actual sexual orientation, but rather a phenomenon that masks sexual orientation (ie. it's really damn hard to figure out if you're straight, gay, bi, or otherwise if you only ever experience sexual attraction under uncommonly restricted circumstances).

However, I can definitely say that as an idea it exists, as I was rather surprised to experience it myself. I've identified as nonsexual/asexual since I was in junior high and realized that I was equally unattracted to both girls and boys in general. I shifted into 'I have no idea what the fuck I am' in my 20s because I developed a hypothetical interest in having sex some day just to see what it was like, but still lacked the interest or drive to actually pursue a relationship with anyone sexually or romantically... Then I developed a crush on a friend, and she reciprocated, and I started developing urges for intimacy that started as just a want to cuddle or hold hands and then BAM! Out of nowhere, she became the first person I've ever felt sexual attraction to.

I don't identify as demisexual, though. I still mostly consider myself 'I have no idea what the fuck I am', though, because for whatever reason I feel kind of weird and appropriative identifying as a lesbian when so far it's only one woman that I've ever been sexually attracted to?

It's not really something I bring up outside of conversations like these, though, because I don't really give a fuck about my sexuality beyond knowing that I'm in love with my girlfriend.
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[personal profile] diet_poison 2013-01-12 09:26 pm (UTC)(link)
haha, as someone who probably qualifies as "demisexual" according to Tumblr, I agree. I think it's really silly.

Or it just makes it easier to avoid creepers online.

I never thought about this, huh. Good point.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
It just sounds so pretentious I can't

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(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 01:56 am (UTC)(link)
Agreed.

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[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-12 02:10 am (UTC)(link)
I have a lot more tolerance for that term ever since I saw "demiplatonic". As in "I am only friends with people I like". I actually half-shouted "Oh fuck off!" when I read it.
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[personal profile] thene 2013-01-12 02:15 am (UTC)(link)
AHAHAHAA WAT
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[personal profile] thene 2013-01-12 02:45 am (UTC)(link)
oh god I just want to do that homestuck thing and say friendship is not an emotion ffs.
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Re: Non-fandom secrets

[personal profile] thene 2013-01-12 05:55 am (UTC)(link)
oh my god did you read this entry by the same person?

When I first started to mentally compose this entry, I planned to devote a couple of paragraphs to reassuring my acquaintances that I care for them, even if I don’t consider them friends, and reassuring my friends that that I’m not going to cross their boundaries, whatever associations my feelings might have. However, I have never intentionally used this blog to put the concerns of the beneficiaries of an oppression over the concerns of the oppressed, and this is no time to start.

Wow.

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[personal profile] lunabee34 2013-01-12 02:18 am (UTC)(link)
Ahahhahahahhahahaha. That is special there.

Although I do know an inordinate number of people who are "friends" with people they don't really like (which is part of my current enragening situation).

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 02:19 am (UTC)(link)
DEMIPLATONIC. JUST... NO. GUYS, YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A SPECIAL LABEL FOR EVERYTHING. ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S SHIT THAT APPLIES TO EVERYONE EVER. LMAO.
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[personal profile] insanenoodlyguy 2013-01-12 02:19 am (UTC)(link)
That.... that's a beating. That's when you actually start contemplating whacking somebody in the back of the head.
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Re: Non-fandom secrets

[personal profile] fingalsanteater 2013-01-12 02:55 am (UTC)(link)
Demi... platonic. I. I.

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Though, I'm semi-friends with people I don't like. Those demiplatonics don't know what they're missing.

(You aren't special. Stop it.)

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-12 03:02 am (UTC)(link)
Hey. Hey. I'm plenty special. In fact I'm so special I defy labelling. I'm alabelled.

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Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 04:17 am (UTC)(link)
I stand up for demisexuality whenever I deem it worthwhile (i.e., not on F!S), but even I had an incredulous giggle fit at "demiplatonic". Like, what?

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-12 05:14 am (UTC)(link)
Do people actually use the term demisexual to mean something other than "I'm not like you slutty sluts"? Honest question because I've never really seen it. I think I might even technically fit the description but I don't see a need for the term?

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Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 07:25 am (UTC)(link)
Holy fuck though that FAQ says that demi-platonic means "does not have feelings of friendship for someone unless they develop romantic or sexual feelings for them."

Is it just me or is this a Nice Guy/friendzoning breeding ground?
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Re: Non-fandom secrets

[personal profile] biohazardgirl 2013-01-12 08:17 am (UTC)(link)
Personally I feel the non-demiplatonics should feel more oppressed than the 'demiplatonic' ever should because the 'non-demiplatonics' are the ones putting up with awful people constantly being in their lives for whatever reason.

FEEL SORRY FOR ME LOADS OF MY FRIENDS FROM HIGH SCHOOL ARE NOW LOSERS WAS THE CRY OF THE NON-DEMIPLATONIC.

I'M SO OPPRESSED.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-01-12 09:01 am (UTC)(link)
I was just wondering how it is possible for a demiplatonic to oppress a non-demiplatonic, but apparently according to the cited FAQ, one would do that by not being okay with having someone lurking around who wants to fuck them or court them but won't because they're lonely and want friends?

I don't know, I am GENUINELY confused and that FAQ post is a sea of confusing, confusing words.
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