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...I can't help but think "Why don't you just have a threesome?"

Then I realise that maybe I've been on the internet too long, and that's not a viable option in 'real life'.

Or is it? Does anyone recall a love triangle that was resolved by an OT3? I'm not exactly asking for recs, I'm just curious to see who skipped the drama.

"Why don't you just have a threesome?"

The stupidity of these kinds of comments never fails to astound me.

Then I realise that maybe I've been on the internet too long

You have.

+1

This exactly. If you see two people fighting over a third, the first thought shouldn't "but they could all hold hands?" Because that's not the way it works outside of fandom. Animosity is actually a thing that does not lead to sex most of the time.

That's funny, because the stupidity of love triangles never fail to astound me.

Usually it's because one of the legs of the triangle is not bisexual? (Unless all three are the same gender, in which case, RECOMMEND TO ME.) IDK? Also, by the time you hit the "love triangle" terminology usually there's way too much feelings and jealousy involved to not make at least one of the legs of the triangle unwilling.

There's a webcomic I followed (and need to catch up on) that I'm hoping ends in an OT3. At this point it's mostly "girl likes both guys, both guys like girl, but right now they have to save the world so drama can go suck a dick."

And as dickish as the first anon was, I agree with the sentiment: most people are not poly or into non-monogamous relationships, and just because two people like the same person doesn't mean they'll like each other, or that their crush likes them both equally.

Personally, I just hate love triangles in media because it's just lazy writing. It takes a really talented writer to pull off a love-triangle plot without it being an utter snoozefest. ...Related, this is also a reason why I hate harem/reverse-harem type anime...

What webcomic is this? I might want to check it out.

but can anyone rec me a fic (any fandom) about a monogamous person's failed attempt at poly? specifically because they're into one individual who is polyamorous and already involved with someone else.

this is the one and only plot involving poly i've ever craved.

Ugh, I lived this.

Not a fic, but the webcomic Punch an' Pie had a bit of an inverse, a poly person who couldn't do monogamy, not because she wanted to go outside her partner, but because she was paranoid that her partner wanted more. Might be up your alley.

Because love triangles being solved by OT3 ships are completely ridiculous.

I mean, I have no problem with OT3 in general, but with very few exceptions, love triangles and poly relationships do not have the same dynamics. Also, I find the "everyone is poly! :D" assumption on par with those "everyone is gay and paired off" fics, by which I mean so unlikely as to be jarring and annoying. Most people prefer to be part of a couple when they settle down, and the love triangle as a trope stems from that. If everyone involved was poly, the love triangle probably wouldn't have happened in the first place.

That said, there are a few fandoms that spend some time being attached to OT3s. White Collar is a notable one, and The Avengers has several permutations with Tony/Pepper/Other that you might want to look into.

The movie Splendor by Greg Araki skips most of the drama.

Unless I individually ship each pairing permutation of a/b/c then threesomes hold no appeal for me whatsoever. Using them solely to resolve love triangles seems like a bit of a cop out. Same with fics where the author goes the a/b/c route just because they feel guilty about breaking up a canon pairing.

It's not a viable solution to a conflict, no. But I love situations where the characters are mutually interested in each other, and with some canon love triangles, I like to read about the characters having a dynamic more like that than the one they have in canon. I don't see it as any more unrealistic than a lot of non-canon pairings between characters who are rivals.

Eh... for me it's usually because authors tend to make one side of the triangle an incredibly flat, "bluh-bluh I'm just here to cause drama", cardboard-cutout excuse for a character.

This, usually with added "whoops made them seem better than the other character, time to make them EEEVUUUL".

ARE YOU ME????

I've been of this opinion for a long time, OP; most of my RL friends are well aware of my stance, to the point where it's jokingly extended to many of life's more trivial problems. Out of peanut butter? Better have a threesome! Want to have sex with two different people on the same night, but have limited time/space? Threesomes are more efficient! Bored, with nothing on tv? Sounds like a good time for a threesome.

All joking aside, I've never solved a real life love triangle with a threesome, although I suppose I should qualify that with a 'yet;' there is one situation in my life that may pan out that way.

I mean if you look at individual characters/preferences that might not work out for them. I wouldn't want a threesome as a resolution of an irl love triangle for myself.

Edited 2013-01-20 04:49 (UTC)

I can't think of any, not in canon, though I wish it was more common outside of fanfic. I know why most people can't resort to polyamory as a solution to a love triangle, because it requires everyone involved to accept everyone else, and the defining aspect of a love triangle is that only one person wants to have two different people, the others involved are not in a similar state. What pisses me off about love triangles is that a person who can't decisively choose you in the first place is not a person who deserves you...either of you. Leave that indecisive fucker to go pick which Netflix movie to watch while alone on Saturday night.

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