[ SECRET POST #2241 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2241 ⌋

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Comments

Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)

[forgottenjester]

And some of the people in this thread are why I have always been taught to say this instead:

First you offer your support/condolences/whatever.* Second, you ask, "Would you like for me to pray for you/the situation/whatever?" If they say no that's the end of that. If they say yes then you do. Boom, problem solved. This generally goes over way better. I've had friends who wanted me to pray and others who haven't.

But yeah, context is huge too. You don't say you're going to pray for people who don't believe the same thing you do. That's just passive aggressive bullshit.

*For whatever they're talking about.

Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)

[eaten_by_bears]

That's a lot more considerate.

Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)

[forgottenjester]

I've always thought so. I figure I would appreciate the same thing from someone who's in a different religion from me.

It also tends to open up conversations with people on a larger scale of what they are and are not comfortable with or at least lets them know you're open to that kind of discussion. Such a thing is really helpful because I would hate to think I've ever offended my friends or made them feel uncomfortable. That is the exact opposite of how I generally want them to feel.

Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)

[(Anonymous)]

I really like this. Because it gives me a way of saying 'No, thank you' without having to lie like a hypocrite or risk being a jerk.

It's respectful and kind, and even though I don't share your believes I feel like we could move on from an encounter like that without anyone having been made feel worse about themselves or the other person.

Re: "It offends me when people say they'll pray for me" (redux)

[forgottenjester]

Yeah, it really works for the best of both parties. It also helps me know your boundaries and not accidentally use prayer as an attack or something.

Almost all of my friends are either atheist or of a different religion so it has really comes in handy when dealing with these kinds of differences. So yeah, it really does help build a firmer foundation for the relationship because now we both know that at least both of us are trying to love one another the best way we know how without trampling over each other's feet.