[ SECRET POST #2249 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Otoyomegatari]


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03.
[Girls und Panzer]


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04.
[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]


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05.
[Monster High]


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06.
[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]


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07.
[Jackass 3D]


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08.
[Paranatural]


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09.
[Angelina Jolie]


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10.
[Der Ring des Nibelungen]


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11.
[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]


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12.
[Medium]


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13.
[The Americans]


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14.
[The Mindy Project]


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15.
[5Dolls, T-ARA]


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16.
[A Good Day To Die Hard]


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17.
[Harry Potter]



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18. http://i45.tinypic.com/2v0bjpd.jpg
[linked for porn, Spartacus: Vengeance]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 019 secrets from Secret Submission Post #321.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Is it wrong...

[intrigueing]

Is it "wrong"? Huh? How are you supposed to help being attracted to someone? It's not exactly something you can control, and it doesn't have jack shit to do with approving of his views, so how is it wrong?

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

-- It's not exactly something you can control, --

Actually, it is something you can control. What is wrong with you people?! Humans are not mindless animals acting on instinct alone.

Re: Is it wrong...

[world_eater]

Feeling attraction = acting on instinct? Huh?

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Feeling attraction = not being able to control it = acting on instinct.

I disagree, obviously, I think it's just a matter of deciding, yeah that's a bad idea, I'm not going to think THAT ever again, and moving on with your life.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

But you still had the initial "That person is attractive!" reaction. Even if you push it out of your mind from then onwards, the feeling was involuntary to begin with. That's the part you cannot control.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Why can't you control that? You can decide how you're going to act or react to something/someone, unless you're in a life-or-death situation or something. Which attraction isn't.

If I was actively looking to be attracted to someone, I would be. As I am not, it really doesn't register on me if someone is "attractive" or unattractive.

This gets me in a lot of trouble though because I treat everyone equally and try to be friendly to everyone.... and every unmarried person of the opposite sex that I have been friendly towards, have always misinterpreted my being friendly as my being attracted to them. When I really really wasn't.

If they think their own reactions (to my being friendly) are beyond their control and involuntary (it isn't, not if you don't want it to be), then I have even less respect than I did for these people, once I realized they were taking my being friendly to be something it wasn't.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Attraction works differently for different people. yo.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

To the point where for some people they can't even control their own thoughts? I find that disturbing, tbh.

Re: Is it wrong...

[world_eater]

Well gee, I think you found the solution to homosexuality. Think it away.

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

That's really odd - if I was l"looking to be attracted" it probably wouldn't happen. It's something that happens spontaneously for me, or not at all.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt Maybe I should have said "if I was looking for a relationship"? Which I am not, so being "attracted" to people is not something that even crosses my mind when I meet or interact with people.

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

I was never looking for relationship when I actually started having a relationship. Maybe that's the exception in the other extreme,but it's a spontaneous thing for me.

Re: Is it wrong...

[diet_poison]

Can I have that superpower??? 0___0

Re: Is it wrong...

[insanenoodlyguy]

You... don't seem to understand how emotion and desire actually work.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

except not.

Attraction is an instinctive reaction that just happens. It is by its nature uncontrollable. What you can control is whether or not to act upon that reaction.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Not in my experience.

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

Maybe you are some superhuman, but no, I can't.

I can control jumping someone and fucking them senseless, but I can't control whether I have chemistry with them or not.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Define "chemistry" -- what does this even mean and why can't you control it? (IMO "chemsitry" is either an urban myth or an excuse people use to excuse bad behaviour -- especially if they misread "chemsity" where there is none).

So far ITT I have been accused of being a robot and/or superhuman. I assure everyone reading this, I'm not. If I want to not think about something or even someone in a certain way, I won't. Why is this so strange?

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

Seriously, it's not an urban myth. It's when there's a clear attraction between two people. This is usually visible by small body language cues like touching someone a bit longer than friends would, longer eye contact, one or both parties fiddling with stuff nervously.

It's not like an exact science, but it's definitely a thing.

And why would it be an excuse for bed behaviour?

If both parties are single and interested, there is no issue. If one of both parties are involved with someone else, that still doesn't mean you jump each other like animals. I had chemistry with a friend and it's not like I went to have an affair.

What you say is strange to a lot of us because we do not just randomly turn off feelings.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

bed behaviour LOL sorry I'm sorry but I laughed. I am usually pretty conscious of what I do and how I act, so I would tend NOT to do things like touch a bit longer (or at all except in certain circumstances), longer eye contact, etc. precisely because those are the things that are often misinterpreted (and I certainly would not want to mislead the other party....though sometimes the other party has willfully chosen to mislead themselves despite my giving every sign to the contrary after the initial misunderstanding (which in my case, accidentally making eye contact, without even intending to, was what earned me a stalker for four years).

Thanks for not calling me a troll or a moron btw. As I said upthread, it's not a matter of turning off individual feelings, but more of a this is not where my life went, and so it's not an issue (except when others decide to make it an issue). So I don't have those feelings in the first place? Not because I'm strange or anything (though most of the thread seems to disagree) I just don't want a relationship, so I don't see people as anything other than unique individuals. I don't feel spontaneously attracted to random strangers. That seems strange (and like it would be inconvenient) to me.....

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

I believe you genuinely feel this way...it's just probably a good idea to not assume the rest of the world does.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

I do apologize if I made it seem as though I was assuming everyone thought/felt this way, I don't and didn't, though I may not have made that clear. Though the wank (sorry Case) made it fairly clear that no one else does feel or think this way, and that I am several orders of magnitude of horrible or something.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

i seem to be following you around this thread constantly feeling like saying "I AGREE WITH YOU", and i do - dude, you are making perfect sense to me!

chemistry is wishful thinking...you like someone and start to perceive all these little nuances to mean that they must be attracted to you as well

"chemistry" outside of fanfiction makes me lol hard

Re: Is it wrong...

[diet_poison]

lol, ok, stop.

Attraction is a feeling, not an action. You can control your actions. You cannot always control your feelings.

Seriously, this is all kinds of wrong. And it can lead into problematic territory as well.

Re: Is it wrong...

[terabient]

lol

There is a difference between noticing someone has physical features that you personally find appealing and being attracted in the sense that you like them and want to be around them even if find their personalities gross.

IDK what kind of attraction OP is talking about but simply thinking 'Oh hmm that person has features I like' is pretty normal and not worth 'controlling' because it's a completely benign observation.