[ SECRET POST #2249 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Otoyomegatari]


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03.
[Girls und Panzer]


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04.
[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]


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05.
[Monster High]


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06.
[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]


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07.
[Jackass 3D]


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08.
[Paranatural]


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09.
[Angelina Jolie]


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10.
[Der Ring des Nibelungen]


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11.
[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]


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12.
[Medium]


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13.
[The Americans]


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14.
[The Mindy Project]


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15.
[5Dolls, T-ARA]


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16.
[A Good Day To Die Hard]


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17.
[Harry Potter]



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18. http://i45.tinypic.com/2v0bjpd.jpg
[linked for porn, Spartacus: Vengeance]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 019 secrets from Secret Submission Post #321.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

...to be attracted to someone who has/probably has awful views? I wouldn't date them or sleep with them, or anything, I just think they're attractive, and they most likely have some nasty and completely loony opinions.

Not a celebrity, BTW. Just some guy.

Re: Is it wrong...

[intrigueing]

Is it "wrong"? Huh? How are you supposed to help being attracted to someone? It's not exactly something you can control, and it doesn't have jack shit to do with approving of his views, so how is it wrong?

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

-- It's not exactly something you can control, --

Actually, it is something you can control. What is wrong with you people?! Humans are not mindless animals acting on instinct alone.

Re: Is it wrong...

[world_eater]

Feeling attraction = acting on instinct? Huh?

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Feeling attraction = not being able to control it = acting on instinct.

I disagree, obviously, I think it's just a matter of deciding, yeah that's a bad idea, I'm not going to think THAT ever again, and moving on with your life.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

But you still had the initial "That person is attractive!" reaction. Even if you push it out of your mind from then onwards, the feeling was involuntary to begin with. That's the part you cannot control.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

except not.

Attraction is an instinctive reaction that just happens. It is by its nature uncontrollable. What you can control is whether or not to act upon that reaction.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Not in my experience.

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

Maybe you are some superhuman, but no, I can't.

I can control jumping someone and fucking them senseless, but I can't control whether I have chemistry with them or not.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Define "chemistry" -- what does this even mean and why can't you control it? (IMO "chemsitry" is either an urban myth or an excuse people use to excuse bad behaviour -- especially if they misread "chemsity" where there is none).

So far ITT I have been accused of being a robot and/or superhuman. I assure everyone reading this, I'm not. If I want to not think about something or even someone in a certain way, I won't. Why is this so strange?

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

Seriously, it's not an urban myth. It's when there's a clear attraction between two people. This is usually visible by small body language cues like touching someone a bit longer than friends would, longer eye contact, one or both parties fiddling with stuff nervously.

It's not like an exact science, but it's definitely a thing.

And why would it be an excuse for bed behaviour?

If both parties are single and interested, there is no issue. If one of both parties are involved with someone else, that still doesn't mean you jump each other like animals. I had chemistry with a friend and it's not like I went to have an affair.

What you say is strange to a lot of us because we do not just randomly turn off feelings.

Re: Is it wrong...

[diet_poison]

lol, ok, stop.

Attraction is a feeling, not an action. You can control your actions. You cannot always control your feelings.

Seriously, this is all kinds of wrong. And it can lead into problematic territory as well.

Re: Is it wrong...

[terabient]

lol

There is a difference between noticing someone has physical features that you personally find appealing and being attracted in the sense that you like them and want to be around them even if find their personalities gross.

IDK what kind of attraction OP is talking about but simply thinking 'Oh hmm that person has features I like' is pretty normal and not worth 'controlling' because it's a completely benign observation.

Re: Is it wrong...

[nan]

It is not wrong. If they're pretty, they're pretty.

Re: Is it wrong...

[fingalsanteater]

No.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on the views.

Re: Is it wrong...

[diet_poison]

Extrapolate...?

Re: Is it wrong...

[greenvelvetcake]

How exactly would you control that sort of thing? Your brain knows he's not a good dude, but you can't just switch off "I think he's attractive."

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Since when? I don't understand this comment. You can switch off whatever thoughts you want, if you have enough presence of mind and willpower to do so. I pity you if you think you are at the mercy of your own thoughts, instead of the reverse.

Re: Is it wrong...

[greenvelvetcake]

Really? You can just switch off thoughts, like that? Never get a song stuck in your head, or keep thinking about something you don't want to? You might be a robot.

The condescension is noted, but not necessary.

Also, it's not thoughts, but physical attraction we're talking about here.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

Okay I will own that I was a bit harsh upthread, I didn't intend for it to be condescending, I apologize. I'm hardly a robot, but yes, I can switch off thoughts, if I don't want to think about something....I don't? Why is this so strange? I find the reverse to be strange, tbh.

Re: Is it wrong...

[(Anonymous)]

As long as you don't have some kind of horrible internalized views that are actually in line with this person's, anon, I don't see that it matters. Sexy comes in many flavors, and some of them taste like shit.

Re: Is it wrong...

[charming_stranger]

No. You and your nether parts don't have to agree on whether someone is nice.

Re: Is it wrong...

[kallanda_lee]

You don't choose who you're attracted to...you do choose what you do with that attraction.

Re: Is it wrong...

[eaten_by_bears]

Meh. You can't help who you're attracted to.