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The sf_drama link and the nsfw thread deletion yesterday has me wondering. Have any of you ever experienced a catfish type scenario or been back-stabbed by someone you trusted online? I haven't but that's due to the fact I am a hardcore lurker. I've been wondering how common it is and if you think what happened was due more to your naivety or if there was some serious long-conning going on. Do you have any warning signs you look for or is it more of a case-by-case gut feeling or just a complete shock when it happens?

No and I've been actively online and fairly open for a good seven years. I haven't really made any super good friends in that time, though, just people I chat with.

I haven't because I'm typically a lurker too. Here's an interesting story about some people faking cancer online to get close to a blogger with cancer: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/the-lying-disease/Content?oid=15337239

I once had an online friend who I considered my BFF along with my actual IRL BFF. We were a 'triad' for many years. I had even met her in person once (although she lived in another country thank god), so it seems like she would be legit, right?

Ahaha, no. Long story short, she and I fell out after I refused to believe she was a magical witch with supernatural powers, and then she bullied her way onto a trip to America with my BFF and spent the whole time trying to convince her I was crazy (as well as treating her and her Dad like personal servants).

Luckily, my BFF is awesome and the second she got back, cut off all contact. It was really fucked up though, because I never thought she was that kind of person.

Only other big thing I can think of is that a horribly sexist GM of a game I had played a long time ago tracked me down to accuse me of breaking him up with his girlfriend and stealing his kawaii kitsune OC. That was creepy until he tried to get me banned from a game my best friend was the admin of. Then it was just funny. Don't think that's what you meant, though.

Edited 2013-03-06 02:15 (UTC)

I haven't because I have been burned irl and learned from that

wait... what? *goes to look* Ohhh ew. I saw that last night. Now my memory of those knockers is all tainted. :(
fwiw a++ boobs. Sorry about the dumbshit friend boob owner. And no. I lurk too. Because i'm not fooled by the warm comforting glow of my screen into thinking people aren't the scum they are.

Wait, what happened with that thread? I only saw the first few comments - nothing was wrong at the time...?

same here!

the last comment I saw was the one with a link to the breasts gallery

I missed whatever went on with the delete-a-ton (I do remember scrolling by a very disturbing picture with a "sorry case" subject line; I don't even remember what it was, it disturbed me so much I erased it from my memories right away :0)

http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/767238.html?thread=634914822#cmt634914822

ayrt

Ah, I see! Thanks.

That's... not cool. :/ That does explain why the original comment was so awkwardly phrased. (Like, with zero context!)

Yeah. Because the important part is that you can't enjoy being a creep about someone's boobs. That's exactly what happened.

You aren't denying they were great boobs.

THAT PICTURE WAS POSTED WITHOUT THE OWNER'S CONSENT.
YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO WAS VICTIMISED.
SOMEONE WHOSE PRIVACY WAS VIOLATED AND HAS NO WAY OF EVER ENSURING SHE CAN GET IT BACK. THAT PHOTO CAN NOW LITERALLY HAUNT HER FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.
YOU ARE NOT MAKING AN EDGY JOKE.
YOU ARE DISPLAYING THE ENTITLEMENT OF AN ABUSER.
FUCK YOU

I've been lied to and put into some awkward situations because of online friends, but nothing like what you suggest.

That link was awful. The woman is suffering from a mental disorder. I cannot believe people enjoyed tearing her apart for it.

Yes but I was only like 15 myself at the time and it was pretty minor, in the sense that it was solely concerned with things that were extremely trivial and that I didn't really care about.

It happened to me.

I was targeted as part of a long con, and really got burned at the end, when I tumbled to what they were doing, agitated enough to make the instigators wary of me in the middle of the chaos they were causing, then after I said the wrong thing in a moment of pique near the end of everything (it was totally a Bolivian Army Ending though LOL), they set out to try and destroy my reputation on the Internet. It backfired, however, as the instigators involved have never been heard from again, and I'm still posting away in the same circles I always ran in.

In my case, the warning sign was them saying one thing privately, and then saying the exact opposite privately. The public warning sign was how they tried to steer every conversation towards the topic of the con they were trying to sucker everyone into. The other warning sign was how the chief instigator consistently misplaced their fecal matter, and did mass deletions, popping up days to weeks later with yet another website, if anyone came close to even guessing at the long con they were running. Which went on for about three - four years, and I think they managed to scam quite a few people in the process.

Gut feeling is huge IRL, but incredibly hard to go by on the Internet. Something was definitely off when no one was able to have a conversation about anything, without it being immediately derailed into trying to promote the con, though. They also privately tried to harass and intimidate me via IM, because they were trying to verbally beat me down emotionally to the point where I would just accept the bill of goods they were trying to force-feed me and everyone else.

I assume their thinking was, if they destroyed every ounce of self-worth and emotional independence that I possessed, I would have no choice but to accept their skewed perspective of the world, just to make the verbal harassment/beatdowns stop. I tilt at windmills regularly, so instead I went in the exact opposite direction...which wasn't healthy for me either, but at least I didn't get sucked into their scam? At least that's what I tell myself, whenever it comes back to haunt me. Which it still does sometimes. It was a difficult period, and I'm an adult! (I was an adult when this happened, BTW, so it's not just something that happens to teenagers.) I don't think I would have survived it, if this had happened when I was a teenager.

I'm glad you're out of that. Hugs and well wishes for the future if you want.

Nope.

even with my blunt way of talking and stepping on toes, I haven't. And that's either because they think it's not worth it, I think it's not worth it, or we all just don't give a shit.

I also keep a certain amount of distance from online people. Only my IRL friends do I keep close here online. everyone else, I just sorta hold at arms length.

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