[ SECRET POST #2259 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2259 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

13. http://i49.tinypic.com/fa7mgg.jpg

[visp]

Meh, TV fantasy isn't reality - everyone's got a few fictional characters they'd switch teams for. If it's that hard for you to come out to family, stop stressing it, and wait until you actually start dating someone that makes your "bi-ness" obvious. That way you don't have to have the TV discussion at all - just be like "well, I really like this person and I'm dating them, so I guess I'm bi."

[making_excuses]

So you have to date and/or have sex with someone to know which sexuality you have, or alternatively you have to date someone of the same sex before you should come out as bisexual, or should s/he just come out as gay then to remove all confusion?

[visp]

None of the above. Simply that if s/he is really hesitant to come out to his/her family, why bother with it until it actually would be an issue? It has the added bonus of making the conversation easier.

[sagelazarus]

The fact of the matter is that people often have a more fluid sexuality when it comes to media and fictional characters than they do in their "practical" sexuality. I'm not saying that it pertains to OP, but it may, and it may be pertinent for them to develop some Real World attractions first before going down that road.

I have had a few female attractions in the media, but I'm never attracted to the actresses. I am a homosexual man. I have Bisexual Character Tendencies. There is, for a lot of people, a disconnect between People and Characters. (Also when I think of the female characters I'm interested in, they're always somehow shifted imperceptibly to be male)

So OP should be true to themself and their feelings but perhaps shouldn't embark down a particularly stressful road without need.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think discovering your sexuality because of a TV show is weird. It was Katie Cassidy's portrayal of Ruby on Supernatural that made me realize I'm bisexual (or rather, allowed me to come to terms with it). I mean, that's the thing about TV shows. They're not always *just* TV shows. Sometimes they mean more. There's nothing wrong with that.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, I don't think it's weird. People get epiphanies from all sorts of things.

[la_petite_singe]

Hey, whatever works. People disagree quiiiiite strongly over this one, but personally I love the way Dean seems to have come to realize that love is more about the individual and your experiences together rather than gender.

[ghostofcairo]

personally I love the way Dean seems to have come to realize that love is more about the individual and your experiences together rather than gender

Oooh, really? What happened? I'm way behind on the show but that sounds really interesting!

[la_petite_singe]

Well, I mean, nothing extremely specific; it's not officially canon that he goes both ways or anything, but I have this whole long screed that I've been meaning to post on Tumblr or something, but basically I think S1!Dean would've reacted strongly to the idea of being romantic or sexual with a dude, because that's the society he lives in and he had all these traditional ideas of masculinity or whatever (largely from John, I'd think), but now? Now that he's literally been to Heaven, Hell and Purgatory, I cannot imagine how anything as trivial as gender 'norms' and the parameters of sexual orientation and stuff could matter much to him anymore. I think one of the big themes of the show is how the boys are basically all about saving & protecting humanity, and yet they're really really increasingly distanced from it and can't identify with most people in a normal way because of everything they've been through and seen. So on the one hand it's awesome that Dean's moving away from caring about society's dumb rules, and on the other hand it's actually quite sad. And we've also seen really remarkably strong scenes of love between Dean & Cas (and Sam, of course, but it's a different kind of love) and I think it's just all about gray areas now. There's a really good essay (way better than this one >_____>) going around Tumblr about how the writers really do seem to be suggesting that Dean is bisexual or slowly realizing that he is or whatever and why, and it's awesome.

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[ghostofcairo]

Ahhh, ok. I've seen stuff like that floating around for a few years now (I even remember a "Dean is bi" essay as early as S4 although back then all the "evidence" or whatever was based on his and Sam's relationship) but I wasn't sure if it'd become canon or not since the last time I'd actually watched the show. Would you happen to have a link to that Tumblr essay? It's been awhile since I've ventured into the fandom so I haven't seen it.

I've never been a huge Dean/Cas fan I kind of hate to out myself as one of them but...I've always been more of a Dean/Sam girl myself. I swear I'm not one of the psychotic ones, though! :p but it still sounds like a really interesting direction for the show to go in. I need to get caught up soon!

[(Anonymous)]

psst don't be afraid of being a Dean/Sam girl

[ghostofcairo]

Haha, well, I'm not necessarily afraid of it so much as I just know it's not really a popular pairing anymore. (I could be wrong since I've been out of the fandom for so long but from what I can tell it seems like most of its fans have disappeared.)

[inkdust]

Not any weirder than any of the other ways to discover your sexuality.

[vongroovy]

That's not a weird way to come to an understanding about your sexuality. It's not like there's any one way the realization is supposed to come to everyone, and I'd imagine media plays at least some part for a lot of people. For me it was seeing Kate Winslet in Titanic. I'd been kind of "la la la ignore ignore ignore" at any hint that I was something other than straight for years, but that was the point where I couldn't deny it to myself anymore.

Even if you still feel weird about the TV thing, remember that coming out doesn't mean you need to justify your sexuality to anyone by telling them exactly how you came to the realization. Say whatever you're comfortable saying.

[(Anonymous)]

Aw... look at that old school Dean/Cas. I remember watching that scene and adoring Cas already and no one knew if he'd be around more than 6 episodes. Nostalgia.