[ SECRET POST #2259 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2259 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

How do you unlearn what society (how concrete!) has drilled into your head in regard to sex?

[mekkio]

What are you trying to unlearn?

[insanenoodlyguy]

Based on this completely generic bullshit, I think that what is really happening is you share some aspect society views on sex, but hate that part of yourself because it's been drilled into your head that this part is wrong. Because your non conformity is still based on another group telling you what to think.

You were probably always going to feel that way. Don't scapegoat everybody else, accept that part of yourself and, as long as said part can be something all parties of legal age consent to, embrace it. Ya simpering wimp.

[(Anonymous)]

Well that depends, doesn't it? I mean, would all of the people who think that women should be chaste and virginal and that men should sow their wild oats still think that way if they'd be raised in a society that propagated the opposite view?

[(Anonymous)]

i don't often find your comments noxious enough to comment on, but seriously, for all the dumb shit you say, this takes the cake.

[(Anonymous)]

If anyone knows the answer to this, do you also know how unlearn what "feminists" have drilled into my head in regard to what society has "drilled into my head" in regard to sex?

[kaijinscendre]

Follow a bunch of anti-SJW on Tumblr so you get to laugh at the SJW being made fun of?

[sugar_spun]

Honestly, every time I find places like that, they just go overboard with the ridicule, and they start making fun of legitimate issues and just start conflating SJWs with feminists in general or anyone who supports civil causes.

[dreemyweird]

And now I'm wandering through this recursive chain of various stages of drilling something into someone's head.

I mean, feminists have drilled into your head ideas in regard to what society has drilled into your head, but it is only a thing you drill into our heads, but this, in its turn, is only a thing I drill into your head, and

BSoD

[(Anonymous)]

Oh man, I could use that too, because I totally internalized the "all sex is rape" bullshit of that Women in Anthropology class I took, and I've spent years trying to move past it (with mixed results).

[fenm]

Odd, in all the women's studies classes I've ever taken, everyone rolled their eyes at that "all sex is rape" bullshit.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. I've taken two gender studies courses (that were basically renamed women's studies courses) and I never came across that sentiment o_O I'm really sorry you internalized something like that.

I'm confused, though, because most (not batshit) feminists I see seem to be of the idea that women should be able to have just as much sex as they please without societal or medical discrimination. The belief that all sex is rape seems to run counter to that? Because then in order to stop the raping of women, women would need to stop having sex altogether, which would prevent them from having sex they wanted to have, but apparently they can't even have that because all sex is rape... My brain hurts ._.;

[(Anonymous)]

Throw it all out the window and do what feels right and isn't hurting anybody else /shrug

[(Anonymous)]

Constant vigilance!

[(Anonymous)]

Psychologist here.

It can be a very difficult process to try to unlearn attitudes you've acquired about sex. For some people, the simple recognition that a belief that they have about sexuality is based on an incorrect assumption is enough to change that belief. For others, it isn't so black and white as all that. If you are having difficulty, the first thing I would suggest is talking to someone close to you; hopefully someone somewhat open-minded about sex.

If you (like a lot of people) don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking to about sex, that might make it harder to judge whether or not your beliefs have any amount of truth to them. It also makes it hard to self-analyze when you can't bounce your ideas off of someone else. Don't feel bad about this, though. Tons of people just don't feel comfortable talking about sex to people they know in general. You are not alone on this point.

If that's the case with you, OP, then therapy can provide you with a person who has heard weirder things come out of people's mouths as a daily matter of course. It can also provide you with an outlet to come to terms with your ideas and problems.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck OP. That's a very tricky task you have ahead of you, and it can take years to accomplish even with the very best of intentions.

[(Anonymous)]

Hmm. I believe that you can, but if you're not careful, the results will be unpredictable, especially because your emotions are involved. I suggest isolation and meditation to search your feelings until you find what is true. It may take a long time. :)