[ SECRET POST #2274 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2274 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I disagree that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Given the choice, I would so much rather never have loved. So much.

[(Anonymous)]

Err, and no, this isn't about something sad that's happened to me recently or anything. Just something I wanted to say in general.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Which means you may well not know what you are talking about.

[(Anonymous)]

"recently"

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's a bit of a grass-is-always-greener thing.

[(Anonymous)]

I thought it was pretty clearly meant as "better" in the sense that it builds character/generally improves oneself as a person. Much like broccoli is better than ice cream.

[(Anonymous)]

Well someone sounds bitter.

[(Anonymous)]

It depends on the circumstances.

[anonymouslyyours]

Have you ever loved anyone? If so, have you ever had a requited love? Because it's a lot easier to say no thanks before you have those experiences, not so much when you do. As much as they hurt sometimes I don't think I could bring myself to get rid of any of the memories. Even the bad ones. And I'm speaking in particular about someone I don't think ever really loved me back. Their feelings never changed mine.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, yes, and I would still rather not have known them at all than have to live with the fact that they're gone.

[anonymouslyyours]

Is this a recent loss? I can't tell if you're speaking of an earthly loss or a rejection, which ime differs the reaction. I don't want to come off as all condescending about how *you* feel but you may still be grieving (either way). I could be wrong but I've been there and came out on a different side eventually. But you know you best and values differ. I just can't imagine ever truly believing not knowing someone I loved is better than having whatever time I did with them in the long run.

[(Anonymous)]

I didn't make the post because of any recent loss, but because it's an opinion I hold that has been germane before in my life, and nobody ever seems to agree. But no, it was never rejection; I had actually never thought of rejection as being relevant to the adage. I'm sure it is for some people, but it never crossed my mind in that way.

[anonymouslyyours]

Huh. I'm just stuck on the thought of someone preferring to live a lonely life devoid of emotional connections and meaningful moments rather than experience loss. Is this an opinion that affects your relationships?

[(Anonymous)]

Really? This goes for everyone you've ever loved? Relatives? Pets? You know it doesn't necessarily mean romantic love right?

[(Anonymous)]

Indeed, and I wasn't talking (solely) about romantic love to begin with. Can't miss what you never had.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Except that you totally can. People are social animals by nature; even the most introverted of introverts needs some human contact and emotional connections. When you see people around you in happy and loving relationships (romantic and otherwise), how can you not miss that, even if (especially if) you've never had it yourself? Never experiencing love of any kind with another person seems so... desolate.

[(Anonymous)]

I do get close to people. I just wish I'd never known them once they leave.

[(Anonymous)]

I can sort of see where you're coming from, OP. A friend of mine was with his girlfriend for 5 years and planned to propose to her before the end of the semester, only to have her say she wanted to break it off and that she needed to live her life alone. She kept asking when he would do it and when he finally planned to, she wanted to break it off.

I don't think anyone is at fault in that situation though. Shit happens and people find out they want different things in life. But I know if I was in my friend's position, one of the thoughts that would be running through my head would be, "I wasted 5 years of my life in this relationship that went nowhere. I could have been with someone else who would have said 'yes'."

[scherrymouse]

This saying has always bothered me - it's true for me in some cases, but not in all. But yeah, that is an unpopular opinion.