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I utterly loathe my job. Everyone I work with outside of my department (and partially within my department) thinks I'm completely inept and they can do what I do better, faster, and cheaper. They don't listen to my suggestions and force my work to end up looking like garbage, which they'll take all sorts of credit for, until our mutual boss says they don't like it and then honk honk here comes the bus to run straight over nonny.

They all mistrust me for no reason, do not believe I'm a professional and always act as such (even though no matter how furious they make me, I have never once been anything other than a complete professional, something I am completely and utterly serious about) and even though I work overtime every. single. day. and I haven't had a vacation or any significant amount of time away from work in almost three years, I'm lazy, slow, unproductive, selfish, not worthy of trust, stupid, and incompetent. I'm treated either with outright hostility or very thinly veiled hostility or teeth-gratingly obvious passive-aggressiveness by nearly everyone for no discernable reason, especially since I've been treated this way by people I've never even -met-.

Why do I keep this job, you ask? Well, someone has to pay the bills, and right now nobody's hiring in my town for the position I have. So I grit my teeth, get my morning cry out before work, and head in to be beaten up all over again every day.

Honestly? I'd get the hell out. I'd be prepared to take a shittier job, if it meant I wouldn't be harassed/taken advantage of.

Still... I wish you good luck. Maybe someday you can sue your workplace for bullying you.

I am honestly hoping for that, it's just my household has gotten used to my level of income and going backwards will be extremely tough. I even thought about applying to my previous employer even though they pay way less. I think something may open up in a month or so, so I just have to keep my head down until then.

Thank you for not automatically assuming I'm the problem, though. I appreciate it. :)

da

Document everything. Dates, times, incidents, recorded as objectively as possible, stating specifically how they are undermining your ability to do your job. If you can't go to HR in the company, once you've amassed enough documentation (say six months to a year, unless you can retroactively document everything that's happened to you up to this point), go the Labour Board.

Thank you for this. I'll do my best to start keeping track of that from now on. When this first started, I really thought this was just something I had to deal with thanks to my field since it does seem to be a common complaint, but it's gotten so much worse lately.

Now that I've gotten a little of the rage out of my system, I know I'm not in this job for the long-haul, I simply can't be or else I'll lose years off my life from stress. However, before I eventually make my exit, I'm just now finally getting traction with some other people in my department to help put processes in place that will alleviate some of the problems I'm experiencing for whoever comes after I leave. Really, my whole department gets treated like I do, my situation is not unique, and I want to help everyone. I'm hoping to have some quantifiable, reportable processes in place to help streamline the workload and get some of the cooks out of the kitchen so we can do our jobs more effectively. It might honestly be a pipe dream, because people at this place are inordinately resistant to anything resembling change, but I'm going to at least try.

I feel like we need another perspective on your work situation, because honestly, I know a woman who is much the same. The reason she's so distrusted and disrespected at work is because she had an affair with our married boss (he got fired, by the way) and has never completed a project in four years (highly unusual in our department).

So. Yeah. Having a tough time believing you're some faultless victim here, sorry to say.

Fine, you want the details? I'll give you details.

I'm the sole branding manager and graphic designer for a megachurch. I get upwards of 10-15 projects completed a week, and that still leaves 4-5 of the "lesser important" ones to shift to the next week. I have a to-do list that is four pages long with projects that are due in the next three weeks. I work 9 hours a day minimum. I have stayed until after midnight on more than one occasion when projects demanded it (and they usually demanded it because my bosses have zero comprehension of what they're putting their underlings through when they give me 10000000 stupid idiotic unnecessary revisions (like "I want blue here" then "I don't like the blue, you know I don't like blue, change it!") that they give me while in the comfort of their own homes while I'm still chained to my desk). I have been told on more than one occasion that I "give too much" to my job, and my boss is actually terrified of losing me because he knows that all the work I do will suddenly have to find a new home. That still gives me precisely zero leverage because my boss is a spineless wimp and doesn't know how to fight for his department.

I didn't sleep with my damn boss either. Sorry, not everyone is your loose lazy co-worker.

Oh, and I was just reminded of one time that I left at 11 PM and I had to have my SO come get me because as I was walking to my car I realized I was bobbing and weaving like I was drunk and I couldn't get my eyes to focus on anything.

But, please, tell me again how I'm just like your lazy co-worker.

I take it back, you don't sound like my co-worker at all. You just sound like a classic workaholic who is no doubt an absolute delight to be around. Raging bitch is in this year, or so I've heard.

It's nice you at least seem to do your job, though. :)

Yes, because nobody in the history of ever has ever just let the pent up rage flow when they're anonymous. Surely, I am making history as we speak.

Actually, I'm pleasant to a fault at work, it's part of the problem. If I was this raging bitch you claim me to be, I probably wouldn't get half the nonsense I do, but since I'm pleasant and accommodating to their stupidity (because I have to be, what other option do I have), I get shat on instead. And, y'know, maybe the reason I sound like said raging bitch now is because I'm completely and utterly burned to a crisp and extremely tired of it. But I apologize if my harsh tones have upset you.

DA

You're an asshole.

Please tell me you are not in HR, because anyone with a valid complaint must be trying to cover up their own inadequacies amiright? They can't have a valid complaint about workplace harassment, because this one woman one time slept with the boss and was a shitty worker.

Condescending ass has been all the rage for decades, or so I've heard.

"for a megachurch"

There's your problem right there, tbqh. (I'm Christian.)

Tell me about it. *big ol sigh*

This will probably sound cliched as hell but lately I've stopped my frantic PICK UP ALL THE SHIFTS after cashing one of my larger paychecks and instead of feeling the normal relief and happiness I just thought "I wish I could buy a couple of those hours back".

I know you're in a really shitty place socially but I can't help but feel you should be laying some of this pressure at your bosses door.

I'm definitely not blaming you, you don't deserve this kind of hostile workplace and I'm probably completely talking out of my ass but I did have a problem with thinking that behaving professionally was keeping my mouth shut and just taking the blows. But IME letting your coworkers treat you like that only encourages the behavior. Calmly speaking up and letting them know their behavior is unacceptable everytime you're treated this way and holding firm *may* get you a different response.

As for the faster, better, cheaper attitudes you have to deal with have you ever explained your process and what you have to do in painstaking detail or asked for advice you know they can't give?

In any event I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. :(

I really hope you're able to find something better soon. That sounds like a horrible place to work. :/

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