[ SECRET POST #2296 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2296 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

17. http://i.imgur.com/hDhz1Sy.jpg

[insanenoodlyguy]

Nope. Grow up.

Oods are good that something else in your life is or was shit. Figuring out/admitting what that was will probably give you a lot more power over it.

[(Anonymous)]

>Oods are good

There's a joke in there somewhere...

[(Anonymous)]

'Nope. Grow up.'

noods (oods?), the fearless worm-eating, ass-kicking bear grylls of fandom; the rational stiff upper lip of the secrets

i sang as they sawed it off & took them head on!
~~~~/stand/, geeks of the west!
*brrrrr*
(that's those tiny wings on your icon going into overdrive C:)

[(Anonymous)]

loll found the perfect noodle video

because he's our own lord flashheart
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6CnAsdQiGzs

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry you feel so down. Sometimes I feel stuck in the past too, because things seemed better then. The only thing I can suggest is to find a new passion. You'll never be able to recapture the past, but if you have something new that makes your life sparkle, then you can at least remember it fondly.

[orangescones]

I feel sad when I think of my current fandom dying as well and worry about finding a new one, but I remember that's how I felt about my last fandoms that died... and that I did end up finding new ones. It's okay that you keep yourself going by thinking you'll wake up someday like Sora since just keeping on keeping on can be hard, but maybe you can try to find a new niche. Then you can look back at your old fandom fondly instead of with sadness and a deep longing to reconnect to those days.

In any case, good luck!

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, OP!

I went through something that sounds similar to what you described, only a little earlier. It was a fandom that fundamentally defined my middle-school years, and when personal issues threw me out of it in high school, I wanted nothing more than to go back to the "good old days" when I could just be a part of the activity, talk to people who I thought understood me, and glee over the characters. It didn't help that my real life during that time was awful - clinical depression does that to you - and that I obsessively attached myself to the memory of my favorite characters to feel sane.

But things change. You might not think it will now, or that you'll ever get over the loss of that part of your identity, but eventually you'll find another thing, or group, or friend to call your own, especially if you start to notice all the things that have changed about your life since 2009. It took me almost four years and a shift in life circumstances to overcome my attachment to that fandom, and although I do still remember that period of time fondly, I can look at it more objectively and see both its draws and its flaws, and no longer feel that the best time of my life was in the past.

I don't know your personal circumstances, of course, and I hope it doesn't involve clinical depression, but if you can, ask yourself why you might be so dissatisfied with your current situation that the only thing you can feel alive about is the memory of good times long past. It might be hard to let go and try to find new things that make you happy, but it's possible (as far as I can tell), and you might feel better for it in the long run.

(and I promise it's not a betrayal of the characters you used to love. If they were your friends, they wouldn't want to see you not going on to live because they weren't around, either.)

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, don't know what to tell you except get another hobby. Life is not going to up and smack you in the face with its dick, it doesn't give a shit if you die and rot away in the gutter. Find a reason to live. No one else can do it for you.

If this sounds singularly unsympathetic, well...

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, it does.

Why did you even bother posting this? Do you actually think it's going to help?

[(Anonymous)]

Not-AYRT

Depends on the person, doesn't it? I personally find it helpful.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I usually would agree with this kind of message to just suck it up... But I think you're just being insensitive for the sake of being insensitive. Please, take your snark and leave. I'm sorry you feel this way about life.

[(Anonymous)]

Lol, I love the condescension inherent in feeling "sorry" for someone else's views. If anything I'm generally insensitive because I'm just not extremely patient with things like this. If one has got a problem, as far as I'm concerned you should do something to either change your situation or, failing that, especially if you're stuck somewhere that that's impossible, your perspective and how you approach it. So much of life is a mental game.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, well I guess I just read OP's post differently than you did. The vibe I got from it was that OP was still moving forward (I mean...you obviously have to), but just FELT like a part of them was missing/stuck and they finally figured out why.
I mean, deep down you may be able to be like oh well, I just have to move on...but I think there will really always be a part of you that misses those times (aka nostalgia).
Still, I don't think you had to say it quite like that/didn't have to share it in that way even if you DON'T have patience for it. No one ASKED you to comment on this like that and I'm sure that that doesn't really help OP with anything. It doesn't matter that you don't have the patience for it because not everyone is like that. In fact, you could've made your own secret about how you hate secrets like this. I just don't think it was constructive at all and felt more like bashing just for the hell of it. Anyways, that was my two cents.

[(Anonymous)]

op, i was you

turns out i had depression

please get help :(

[(Anonymous)]

Are you aware of what depersonalization/derealization is?

They're very common symptoms of anxiety disorders and something I've been struggling with for years. It sounds a little bit of what you're going through.

Depression could also be a cause.

Try to find something, anything, to put your interest into and be passionate about, and if all else fails, try looking into more professional help.

[(Anonymous)]

I was the same way about a different fandom, and now I'm getting treated for severe clinical depression. You should figure out what it is that is stopping you from enjoying your life, and make some changes or get some help to do so. Life doesn't wait for you. You don't want the next 4 years to pass in the exact same way, do you?

[fuchsiascreams]

I sympathize, OP, though my reasons are completely different.