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Anyone else do this? I went to my grandmother's funeral two weeks ago (didn't know her very well) and had to stay in the back because I kept on laughing. I didn't really find it funny, but all those people crying and looking so miserable just got to me. I was sitting next to my Mom at one point and had to get up and leave because she just burst into tears and I started smiling.

I HATE that I'm like this. People always think that I don't take things seriously, but that's not the case at all. I just can't deal with other people's discomfort (or my own). Also, it's not just crying. Very Serious situations make me crack up. I can't count the number of times I've been lectured or scolded or told something serious and had to hold back laughter.

I can't control it, either. Usually I have to the inside of my cheek very hard while thinking about something tragic (like the death of my father) to calm myself. And even then it doesn't always work.

Anyone else like this? Or know what to do stop?

Yeah, I smile when I'm uncomfortable or awkward. I don't laugh, but the smiling is enough. It's just...I can't control it. I try and then I just look like I'm having muscle spasms or something. I have no idea how to stop it, sorry. But at least you're not alone?

Oh man. Yes.

Yes. I laugh at everything anyway, but especially when I'm uncomfortable.

Yeah, I can get like this when I'm uncomfortable. I guess it's just a reflex some people have as a defense against showing weakness.

I laugh at awkward things. I can normally contain it to appropriate situations though, like movies with my friends. (I will laugh at almost every sex scene and death scene.) I also tend to smile when I'm angry but I do that on purpose because I don't like people knowing I'm angry.

As for advice, I don't really have much. Maybe start small? Go from laughing a lot to only a little, to smiling, to nothing? Cold turkey seems harder. Try to distance yourself, at least in your mind, from the situation.

I think I've gotten better about it, but I used to smile involuntarily when I was under pointed stress. Like when my mom would get mad at me, she would be talking to me very sternly and I would have to fight not to smile. Then she would think I was laughing at her and get even angrier. It was really hard before I figured out how to explain what was happening.

I think it's a pretty common reflex that some people have. I sometimes crack up at really sad things for absolutely no reason. IMO, the best way to stop is to try to think about why you're laughing. It's probably something like an unconscious defense mechanism because you don't want to feel a certain way about something or you don't know what to do, and laughing about it makes it less of a big deal. Or something. I'm no psychologist, just guessing.

I do this too. I hate it. It's gotten slightly better with practice, but it's still an issue sometimes.;;

yes i am like this except even worse because i tell jokes when i'm uncomfortable or sad to make up for the situation!!

I HATE that I'm like this. People always think that I don't take things seriously, but that's not the case at all.

i disagree with these people strongly but i understand your hatred of why you're like this. as i said i am like this too. i think many people do not understand that everyone deals with grief and sadness differently.

it took me a very long time to realize that it is a wonderful thing to be able to find humor in bad situations. if i don't do this then i usually react with anger which is WAY WORSE for me personally and more destructive. i would rather people find me insensitive than worry about me; i suppose it's a little of that, also, which is worth getting over.

at the same time, the people who tell you how to deal with grief and sadness are hypocrites because no one deals with it well. the only way we cope is through our own coping methods, you feel me? it just makes sense. i don't think either of us are wrong, just maybe a little weird. there's nothing wrong with being a little weird, gentle anonymous.

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