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⌈ Secret Post #2323 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I totally get that, OP. I don't want those kinds of moments either. People always nag me about sharing b/c "internalizing" is bad, but if I want to do that, I'll do when I damn well want to and not b/c you nagged me into it. Also, I don't want to talk about it b/c then it's real. What may not have bothered me before will most likely bother me now--i.e. I won't think about it, then I'll "share" it, and then I'll get upset, moody, angry and have trouble dealing w/it then, when I didn't when I was not "sharing" it.

[(Anonymous)]

i.e. I won't think about it, then I'll "share" it

Are "sharing" and "ignoring" really your only two options of dealing with upsetting things? o.O

[(Anonymous)]

Who said I'm "ignoring" it? A lot times what doesn't upset me upsets the person I'm sharing it with. They get upset and make a big deal about something I regarded as nothing, inconsequential, a (very) minor irritant, and then get upset about that I'm not upset. Well, not until they get upset. Then I get upset/mad that they're upset usually. I don't like drama. Sometimes, I can see their point and sometimes that'll upset me, but usually the whole situations/whatever is long past and getting upset now is pointless....b/c of this whole cycle I don't usually share things w/people. It's just not worth upsetting my peace of mind. It's lose-lose. I can work things out by myself.

Sometimes it is something that is upsetting to me and the other person doesn't regard it a big deal and tells me to get over it. Not what I'm looking for. I want empathy, they want me to shut up. Makes me sorry I shared. Also, makes me mad/angry about all the time I've listened to them rant about their problems for hours on end and they can't listen to me for 5 minutes w/o telling me to shut it/calm down. And if they do get upset, I usually end up having to calm them down b/c I don't want to deal w/their drama. It's lose-lose. I want to be the one calmed down tyvm since I'm the one it happened it.

I do sometimes talk things over w/very trusted friends, but mostly they've fallen by the wayside for the most part due to rl (kids, moving away, etc.). Sometimes I post online to see what people suggest if I think I need an outside perspective, but I usually don't. I draw, write, and can get my feelings out, perspective on it, that way usually.