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So, I've been out of a job for a while, so technically the only think I'm doing is looking for jobs which is mind-numbingly boring, but if I'm honest that maybe takes 2-4 hours a day, certainly not as much as a job would.

And yet, it seems like I'm always out of time, never manage to get stuff done. I volunteer for the LGBT magazine, and maybe I just do 2-3 articles for them every 2 months, but I just never seem to get it done in time even though that's peanuts to what my work load used to be. My place is a mess, I never seem to get around to cleaning. Everything just feels like it's "too much". I get nervous and stressed even if my Mom asks me to do little things. If I have a todo list a barely manage to do half of the things I planned that day. Honestly I don't know if I'm just stressed, depressed, or bored out of my wits. But it's really hard for me to just get on with everyday stuff.

I would assume the reason to why you are always behind on stuff is because your life lacks structure, when you worked you had to do tasks fast and right now because you would not have time later.

You could try making a time table, with when you should wake up, eat, apply for jobs, clean and so on, then you will have a plan over your week, preferably have a week plan that is the same ever week and stick to it, just remember to plot in breaks.

Have you tried filling your days with more stuff? Maybe exercise or volunteering somewhere like a soup kitchen, taking up a new (or old) hobby or something, that would mean you have work from then to then some days?

At least that is what it was for me, and making a plan over my days at least helped some to keep my life organised, I might be completely wrong and it will not work for you, but.

Anyway, I hope you find a job soon and that your life will be looking more up in that regard at least!

It just seems like doing more (like volunteering somewhere) would make it feel even more daunting or stressful. I already stopped doing one volunteer job because it just got too much (and also, they were ungrateful a-holes). I don't know. I definitely don't have much structure, but I was always chaotic and it tended to work out. i think maybe it's this way because I don' *have* to do anything. I don't feel like any of the stuff in meaningful very much, I guess? I might as well not be doing it, you know.

I understand that, applying for jobs is the most important thing as long as you manage to do that, you are doing what you need to do, the rest will work itself out somehow! You wont die if your house is untidy or if you don't do your laundry every week...

I am the same way as you* and I suck at actually following my plans, though I have a friend whom have some mental issues that have taken up exercise and structured her life a bit more and it helped her a lot, especially working for 45 minutes then taking 15 minute breaks, but people are different and what works for one person does not always work for another person.

*My plan is basically, clean every Sunday get my laundry done at least once a week and go to my lectures (try to read some of my course work), make dinner at an reasonable hour, do the stuff I have to do that comes with owning a cat, read a book a week and call my parents (and other family members) once a week. Except when I have to get stuff done (like assignments) then I sit down and write a detailed plan over my week. I am planning to find a part time job after the Summer holidays so I will be more bussy, because I work best under pressure, the less time I have the more I get done.

I think I work better under pressure, too. It's sad to say, but now I no longer have a boss or parents tell me what needs to be done, I descend into chaos and apathy...

Oh you are so not alone! After 4 years of being my own boss so to speak (Norwegian universities are not really strickt on showing up or anything, as long as you pass your one or two assignments and manage to show up to your exam they don't care) I am getting better, and due fall I will take an extra course to be a bit more busy and hopefully as I mentioned find a part time job.

The first two years of living on my own was a disaster, but having a lot of family members whom don't work (for various reasons) I see that half of them do find a way to fill their days and keep their lives structured, the other half not so much...

This is my life. I just graduated college and it feels like I've become the most lazy unmotivated person ever. The concept of doing something small like going to the bank becomes a giant, Herculean task. Now I have a new part-time job and I'm so exhausted after only a five hour shift.

I'm actually really worried I'll just not handle things once I DO get a job...

Eh. You adapt.

i am in the SAME EXACT BOAT. hell, let me know if you figure it out because I don't know what's wrong with me either...

I'm in a similar boat. I have some medical stuff going on that leaves me with very little energy to do anything, so even leaving the house seems like a huge deal. I'm interning part-time right now, but I can't afford to keep working for free. The thought of having an actual job terrifies me though because I feel like I can't function as it is.

I find it's a lot harder to get things done when you feel like you have nothing to do, even if you have a hugely long "to do" list! What I mean by "nothing to do" is nothing besides that list, like you said, no job.

The endless job hunt certainly doesn't help, either -- I know, I'm doing the same thing, right now. I've discovered unless I'm in school or working, I don't find much reason to get up and out during the day. It doesn't help that all job applications are online now, so there's no point in pounding the pavement.

I've found it helps me to have "work hours." Especially since you regularly write for the magazine, set some for yourself. I made myself an office by making a rule that I'm not aloud to apply for jobs from my apartment: I have to go to a library, coffee shop, anywhere with WiFi and an outlet. I have a start time, end time, lunch break, and business attire. It takes a seemingly insurmountable amount of effort the first week or two, but if you can force yourself through it, it can start to feel like you have intention. Which is really what having a job is, right? Deadlines and goals, and such.

See if there's anything that help you get through it, too.

Op: thank you, that does seem something that might work.

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