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So I've been living with my parents for about two months until I move out of state for grad school. They currently have a guest (who is a few years younger than me) staying with them for about 3 weeks. The guest and I share a bathroom, and she brought all of her own toiletries and everything. She doesn't wear makeup and is from out of the country.

I was at a friend's house for most of the weekend, and when I came back, there was a smudge of lipstick on the frame of the bathroom mirror. The smudge is an exact match for my favorite Fall color (a wine red). At first I thought that maybe she has the same color (but this is her first time in the US, so IDK how she would get that same lipstick). And then I noticed there was a chunk missing out of one of my eyeshadow palettes and one of my lipliner pencils was broken.

I'm pretty sure she's been trying on my makeup. What do I do? I feel awkward confronting her about it, since she's my parent's guest, but still. I'm going to spend most of tomorrow disinfecting all the makeup in my bathroom cabinet.

Don't leave it in the bathroom and lock your room. Then check and make sure that's the only thing messed up/missing...and yeah. I'd at least ask - not confrontational like but 'Hey, do you know how my pencil got broken?' If you're lucky she'll fess up and you can point blank ask her not to it again [and explain why since that *will* help], if not...well. At least you know not to leave stuff you don't want her to use where she can get to it.

Throw out the makeup, you can't disinfect it. Then purchase a cosmetics bag at the dollar tree big enough to hold all of YOUR toiletries, and keep them stashed away in a dresser drawer in your bedroom or closet where the guest would actively have to snoop to find it. Grab bag in the morning, bring it back with you when you're done. Plus, all your toiletries will still be together in one neat package after the houseguest from hell leaves. Also, if you leave the house for extended periods in the future, you can grab it and go.

Don't bother confronting her about it, that will just make things awkward. Work around her without making waves, everybody wins.

I wouldn't even bother confronting her but if your do, come at it from the angle that you care about her. (Even if you don't.) Tell her that using someone else's makeup can cause infections and stuff. Tell her also that you weren't going to say anything but someone not as understanding as you would pitch a fit because it's rude and you don't want her to get in trouble. Then she knows for other people for next time. Act completely understanding. If she denies it then just say you don't care who did it, you just noticed she didn't have any makeup of her own and thought you should teach her a bit about it. Act really sweet even if you don't feel like it. You come out looking good.

Now onto your makeup. Throw it out. As the anon above me said, you can't disinfect it. Get some sort of bag to put your new makeup, that you're going to have to also buy, in. Hide that bag in your room until she's gone.

When she's gone, tell your parents so that next time they can keep an eye on her.

Edited 2013-07-19 00:59 (UTC)

Perhaps talk to your parents about the stage your belongings were left in, and ask if they can speak to your guest about it. If she's their guest then she might not respect you if you confront her.

Also, seconding throwing out the makeup - but first take photos of the state you found them in, so that you've got the evidence it went wrong. Finally, follow the precautions recommended by others.

Not sure why everyone feels it necessary to go through your parents. She may be their guest but it's you two sharing the bathroom and if you're both adults I'm pretty sure you two can handle it on your own. It is, after all, possible to approach her directly without being confrontational or antagonistic. Just politely (but firmly) ask her if she's tried it and ask her not to again. Personally, I'd rather someone came to me directly.

Otherwise, I'd just echo everyone else - decontaminating makeup is hard, so get pics, throw it out and keep any new makeup in your bedroom.

Fourthed on throwing it all out.

There is no way to completely sterilize makeup. Bacteria colonies have grown to 10x the size they began at 2hr even when kept in an ideal, bacteria-discouraging climate (thus why food at buffets get changed out at 1h30 or 1h45). They multiply and spread fastest in liquids and gels.

It sucks and it's a good chunk of change to replace it all. But it's the only way to ensure you're not using contaminated products.

Then keep anything you don't want someone else using in your room. It sucks and it shouldn't work like that, but if you don't want to confront her you have to keep it stashed away.

Good luck.

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