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[The Most Popular Girls in School]

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[Welcome to Night Vale]

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[Gerard Way and Frank Iero]

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[Mastumoto Jun]

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[Macdonald Hall]

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[Downton Abbey]

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[Generator Rex]

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Echoing that there's a difference between housewife/husband and stay at home mom/dad.

I'm a housewife and freelancer, so your comment pretty much makes me cringe. I work to augment finances as needed but it's all our money, not his and mine. As for choosing to be a housewife, it isn't anything I've ever felt I had to justify but the fact is that I get an enormous amount of satisfaction and contentment in running our household that I don't get from anything else. I love organizing and decorating, as well as creating a welcoming place to live for myself and loved ones. I see nothing wrong with that and certainly don't feel any shame in it. The mere notion of feeling shame for living my dream life and being truly happy is laughable at best.

I'm glad you don't let people get you down, there's such an inclination these days to look down on people who want to be homemakers :\

Well, if you're a freelancer though, I'd say that's different. I'm presuming that does still give you some income and satisfaction, too?

No satisfaction whatsoever. And my meager financial contribution is nothing compared to what I can't/don't contribute at home because I'm "working." I actually feel a lot worse about myself at those times. I particularly hate that dinners become a matter a processed junk thrown together hurriedly or are delivered from somewhere. I resent not having the time to stay on top of things around the house or exercising my creativity. Having to tell a friend that I can't get together to listen to their troubles is outright painful because nothing I do to earn money is worth not being there for a friend in need; I know because it's happened twice.

I regret mentioning that I do freelance simply because this seems to make you think that gives me worth or purpose or value, but I said it because it's just the opposite. It gets in the way of my life, of my home and family and friends and happiness. It makes me feel like I have less worth because it's a fact that my financial contributions to my family are of much lesser value than everything else I do.

Well, I think you clarified pretty well though, so in that sense it's maybe good you mentioned it, because I wouldn't have gotten this from your previous post.

Yeah, I have trouble making things clear when I feel strongly about something. It's all good, though. tl;dr - Some people do have passion for it and find it more fulfilling than paying jobs/careers.

I'm curious as to what that difference is? Or is it just a difference in wording and implications, like "stay-at-home" implies that you're limiting yourself in ways that "house[spouse]" or "homemaker" don't?

Stay at home parents have kids and their days tend to specifically revolve around the children, which often has little to do with the home and more to do with extracurricular activities. House[spouse]-es either don't have kids or their time doesn't revolve mostly around them.

Huh. My mom described herself as a "homemaker" even when she was taking care of my siblings and I full time, when we were younger.

Gotta be honest, I really am not convinced that "running a household" is exclusive with getting a job.

if you're happy and your partner is willing to financially take care of you, by all means, but..

It doesn't have to be, but it can be.

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