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Unless your friend is in like...the "Real Life Serial Killers" fandom, why should it effect your friendship?

How did it mess up your friendship? Does she like fandoms you can't stand? Ships? What? I wish more of my friends were on tumblr tbh.

I was introduced to tumblr by my friends and that's why we mutually follow each other, but it's getting kind of awkward. One of my friends has a photography blog, and she also reblogs many of those typical pictures, a bowl of apples, sunsets, quotes, etc. The other friend has an artsy blog.

I have an anime fandom blog, and I mostly blog about my femslash ships. I'm a lesbian in the closet, but I feel like I'm getting more and more obvious by the day. They haven't really mentioned it, and I am sort of secretly hoping that they've blacklisted my url. I mean, I don't feel like getting a new blog, but still, I think about this stuff from time to time.

This is the same basic problem that I have. Tumblr is widely socially acceptable, so when people hear I have one we become mutual followers, which means I'm hyperaware about my fandom tumblring being seen by non-fandom friends. I could make a separate tumblr, but one dashboard is hard enough to keep up with as it is.

It's just a big old mess of anxiety and ruined fun, really.

It's really easy to create a second sideblog on your account so you can keep all your fandom separate! That's what I do, and it's a lifesaver. You still have just one dashboard and one account, but you can have multiple blogs linked to that account.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-08-07 22:59 (UTC) - Expand

How does FANDOM affect your friendship? Unless you mean that she got into a fandom and let it take over her life, which negatively affected you.

Idea: get off the internet, get your friend to get off the internet, and go do something non-fandom related that you both enjoy.

It's entirely possible that the OP's friend isn't a RL friend. Even if they are, it's quite possible that even if the OP *DID* do that, the friend would still find a way to keep bringing it up constantly/wouldn't solve the issue.

Ehhh, I once had a now ex-friend act REALLY weird and passive-aggressive when I got into the Green Lantern fandom a few years back. I tried to be mindful of my friends, since I knew not all of my friends were into it. But this person, for whatever reason, just got super tetchy about it and hasn't really spoken to me since. I want to say it's because it suddenly pulled me away from our shared fandom, but tbh I was at a point where I was ready to move on/fall out of the whole thing, so for me it was perfect timing.

I'd be lying if I said it hasn't bothered me, because every once in a while, it does. Ah well.

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Well. Now I'm paranoid. Thanks for that!

Why not just blacklist all the crap you don't want to read about? That's what I do. In fact I have specific tags just so one of my friends can easily block a certain fandom. Real friends make blacklisting easy and keep the tumblr peace.

I'm laughing at all the above "how/why does it effect your friendship?" replies. Ah, over simplistic unrealistic world views. Gotta love 'em.

Tell us more, O wise one.

Shouldn't it be affect?

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diet_poison - 2013-08-06 00:29 (UTC) - Expand

Srsly

This.

You sound butthurt.

It is fandom not your view on REAL life things. You friend likes Game of Thrones and you don't? Blacklist it. Or ignore it. Isn't that hard. One of my best friends from school has a Tumblr that we mutually follow. About 90% of the things she reblogs are not for me. Somehow we have been able to retain our friendship. Crazy!

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Yes... that is fandom for you (including f_s).

Full of clueless people - I nearly said kiddies, but some of the most clueless people I have seen on the internet are not teenagers and have no excuse for their naivete.

Tumblr is kind of like sharing a room with a friend. Good idea in theory, almost always a disaster in execution.

Ha! Glad I'm not the only one who isn't able to share a room with friends.

[Picture is the logotype of the microblogging website "Tumblr". It's the word "tumblr." in lower case, white with shadows giving it the illusion of three-dimensionality and a neutral blue color in the background.]

I REGRET introducing my friend to Tumblr. She dove off into fandoms that have fucked with our friendship. She doesn't know yet, because I haven't told her, but I created a new Tumblr just to get away from her and another someone I only met due to playing around on Tumblr.

We might need a little more info? how did it ruin your friendship etc.

If something like a website can permanently ruin your friendship, you guys probably weren't that close to begin with. Deal with it.

Okay. Um. Wow. Letting fandom get in the way sounds like... really stupid. But hey, sure, okay, it's happening to you. Whatever.

Unsolicited advice time! (So, like, skip this next paragraph if you don't care.)

I'm not sure what your exact problem is so I'm not going to tell you to blacklist stuff because I don't know if that's the problem. So 1) Don't tell her about your other tumblr. It's your breather room for when you need it. Lots of people have multiple accounts and sock puppets. This is yours. She doesn't need to know about all your accounts so who cares? 2) You should tell her that your friendship is taking a hit. Communication and honesty go a long way. She can't try to fix or help anything if you don't communicate with her. On the other side of things, this means you need to listen to her too.

End of unsolicited advice!

Eh, good luck with your friendships.

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