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⌈ Secret Post #2408 ⌋

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I don't understand tumblr. I've tried, I can't make it work. How do you make friends? Talk to people? How???

I can't figure out the making friends part either. I mostly reblog things and sometimes I message people if they post something that indicates they'd like a personal message. I don't get messages back, however, so I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or that's just how it is.

Most people on Tumblr aren't good at social interaction. Because they don't know you, they aren't sure how to respond and therefore never do. (And then they never know you because they never respond. It's a vicious cycle). Your best bet is to follow people you've met in real life. For example, nearly everyone on my followers list is somebody I met at Comic-Con last year, or at college. (And then there's Wil Wheaton's blog, but I digress.)

Follow people I've met IRL? Oh dear I don't know any other nerds...

My problem too!

I don't get messages back, however, so I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or that's just how it is.

I don't know whether this is what has happened to you or not, but recently, I messaged someone on tumblr complimenting their blog, and didn't seem to get any message back. When I checked their page later on, though, I saw they'd replied a few days before.

There's also been times when I've received messages not in reply to anything, and I didn't get any alerts about this of any kind. Not every time I've had a message, just sometimes.

So yeah, the alerts system is not the best (or maybe I don't have the right things turned on???) and maybe you've had some replies but just not noticed?

In regards to replies: If your username doesn't have dashes, I would try searching the universal tag for it. Most users reply directly on their blog which can get lost, so they tag the post with the username of the person they are talking to. If they did this, all the messages from all blogs who messaged you back would be in your tumblr tag (not a specific blog tag, the one that is searchable through tumblr).

If your username doesn't have dashes, I would try searching the universal tag for it. Most users reply directly on their blog which can get lost, so they tag the post with the username of the person they are talking to. If they did this, all the messages from all blogs who messaged you back would be in your tumblr tag (not a specific blog tag, the one that is searchable through tumblr).

It's...really not complicated? How did you make friends on LJ? Start a conversation with someone, whether through reblogging and making a comment in the text of the reblog/engaging them (they'll see that someone has reblogged with new text on their dash) or sending them an ask. Do it enough times and they'll probably decide they want to see your responses directly on their dash.

I will never understand how people can 'not get' tumblr. It's not fucking rocket science. And I'm not ~some young hip whippersnapper~ either.

Please. Tumblr is not intuitive in some ways. Have some patience. I figured it out all out and it got super easy, but not without a week's pure frustration.

LJ's user interface, for lack of a better term, is 1000x easier to make friends through than Tumblr. On LJ and DW, you can actually hold convos with people without dealing with tons of reblogs to do it.

THIS.

on the other hand, I always felt like I was bugging people on LJ/DW. I don't have that problem on tumblr. If we develop a better relationship, we trade emails.

I feel like I'm spamming the hell out of my few followers on Tumblr, having to keep reblogging to reply. Also, having to re-TAG every reblog now, sucks and is way more work than LJ/DW conversations.

The situation is even worse when I come across fragments of reblogged conversation from someone else, because I often can't figure out who said what, how it started, or where the discussion has gone. It's a puzzle piece floating on an ocean of WHUT.

I have Tumblr and use it some, but I feel utterly adrift and alone there, and there is no sense of clarity or cohesion like there is in discussions here.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-08-07 18:46 (UTC) - Expand

For you.

For me, tumblr was an easier way to reach out. I always felt like the doors were closed on LJ or DW and that people had their clique and that was it.

I'm with the OP on this one but everyone's got different experiences on different sites.

You have to admit it's different than LJ of DW. Here you can have a conversation directly between two people in an easy to read format. To have a comparable conversation on Tumblr, you'd have to reblog something of theirs, they'd have to reblog that reblog with a response and so on. It's not really more difficult, but it's not online conversation like most people are used to.

Edited (It's tumblr not fumblr) 2013-08-06 23:17 (UTC)

It's not any recognisable conversation and it's bloody irritating and time consuming for no good reason.

Actually it is. There are a ton of RP blogs on tumblr having perfectly logical conversations. Regular accounts too. Just because it doesn't make sense to YOU doesn't mean it doesn't work at all for anyone ever.

There are ways to get around reblogging cycles. If you're really interested in having conversations, there are extensions (like xkit) that can make a reply text post that you then tag with the names of those you want to see it (although the tracked tags allow only the first 5 to show up) and maybe with a general reply tag so people using tumblr savior or other extensions can blacklist the term and do not have to see it on their dash.

I suppose the point I'm trying to make is that if you really want to make it work, it is possible, but you have to have the ability and desire to search out a solution.

Re-blogging (even with comments) in no way resembles a conversation, and I and many others will never understand people who think it does.

This does not make people stupid, so knock off implying it does, OK?

Nope.

Start a conversation with someone, whether through reblogging and making a comment in the text of the reblog/engaging them (they'll see that someone has reblogged with new text on their dash) or sending them an ask.

It's really hilarious to me that you think that this mess is in any way equivalent to what all of us are doing right now.

I don't get it. You like or reblog stuff, how do you have a conversation?

tbh the people on tumblr that I consider friends I either knew from somewhere else (old fandoms, or f!s) or met at a convention and traded tumblrs with

sorry

I don't know how to do this either, it just ...one day I realised I had somehow made friends

on tumblr

through my fandom blog that was intended to be friendless.

idk, i don't know how it happened. IT JUST HAPPENED

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