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This got long, I'm sorry.

A while back, someone in the community I frequent, he basically admitted that as a kid and teenager he sexually abused his siblings. This is, obviously, horrifying. There was a lot of condemnation of him in the community. I think he still has an internet presence, but he's obviously not welcome where he once was.

For some reason this came back to mind the other day, and... I don't remember the whole debacle very well, but I mean, I have no idea if he ever did time for his crimes, and I don't know if he even can anymore, myself not knowing how long ago it happened. But when someone admits to this online--would calling the police even do anything? Can they do anything? I don't even know who he is in real life, and since his victims might want privacy, or to not press charges, I mean...

At the time I figured someone else would take care of it, and that it wasn't my responsibility, not even knowing the guy, and taking into account how many other people found out about it. But lately I wonder, was I really right to think that? Is there something I, myself, ought to have done? I also know that rape victims aren't treated well by the police, either...

I'm struggling with some serious depression and I don't feel like I'm in a place, mentally, to get involved with anything like this, or to make a sound decision on what to do all by myself, so I guess... that's why I'm asking for advice.

I feel like I ought to name him, but I also don't really want to because for one thing, no one here would know who he is anyway, and for another thing, it might be disrespectful to the people he hurt to discuss the matter in any more detail. And... I don't want anyone to yell at me for bringing this up again.

Calling the cops wouldn't do jack. For one, you don't know where he is, by your own admission, so calling them where he is isn't an option and...well. It's out of your local police's jurisdiction so there's not much they can do with it [doubly so since they don't even know where they'd send the case to - if they'd even do that.]

Also, saying "They said this online!" is a pretty weak claim anyways, tbh, and the fact it was - chances are - years ago, it might very well be past the statue of limitations for where he's from.

tl;dr: Calling the cops wouldn't do anything, even if it would saying "Someone said this online!" is a very, very weak claim unless you've got further proof.

I thought there was no statute of limitations on criminal acts?

I don't know about limitations when the abuser admits to something in the past but there is a limit on how long a victim can delay pressing charges on them in certain cases.

for abuse victims, there is a term called date of discovery. The last time I looked at it, a victim had 2 years to report abuse from the moment they were aware of the abuse. This takes into account repressed memory as well as issues of dependence. The 2 yrs could be extended if the victim was completely dependent upon the abuser for their livelihood or support during the 2 yrs after the date of discovery.

Of course that was a while ago. Things may have changed since then and I'm thinking it was a (US) state limitation and could vary depending on where the offense occurred. That was the reason we didn't pursue; we could have afforded the travel to the state where it happened and couldn't file locally, despite the fact that everyone was local to us at the date of discovery.

....huh? What do you think SOL applies to?

Well, in Ireland it applies to civil cases

Going by my own experience, when you're depressed you begin dragging up all sorts of things you can theoretically feel guilty about that may have been lurking in the back of your mind for ages. So that would be my theory on why you're thinking of it now.

There isn't anything you can do at this point -- the other anon covered why. And I think that since it was in the past when he admitted it, there wasn't a moral imperative to do anything.

If you come across someone claiming to be currently abusing a child, and you're in the US, you could send everything to the FBI's exploited children program.

And if it makes you feel better, the guy might have been lying. I'm not sure why someone would, but then I'm not sure why someone would admit to the truth, either.

OP here... Apparently he's living in New Mexico, but I guess knowing that doesn't change much? I should have expected there's nothing that can be done--everything else I've read has said that too--but it's difficult to accept.

I think your theory's right on the mark. I hear about things like this and I feel guilty, like, maybe I could have done something--even though that's irrational.

Anyway, I do hope he's lying, for whatever reason. It'd at least be better than the alternative.

I'll be sure to remember that FBI thing.

OP adding onto the original TW. I forgot one warning and realized 'CSA' might not be very clear. Sorry.

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[ SECRET POST #2473 ]

tw rape, csa -- what do you do when someone in a dw comm admits to that?

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*** incest, child sexual abuse