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Okay, why do some people seem to have no boundaries, no ability to listen, and an endless capacity to be noisy and annoying?

Like, I'll be in the school library trying to do work and one of them sitting next to me will try to start a pointless small-talk conversation. And I'll say I'm busy, and they'll say "okay, I'll leave you alone" and then five minutes later "sooo... what class are you doing this for?" Grrr.

Or the time I was on the train and this guy plopped down next to me, put his arm around me, and went "how you doing?" My friend told him to leave me alone, and he said he hadn't touched me (he had) and I had to move to another seat and then we went to a different train car when the train stopped.

Then there are the ones on the train, usually teenage or young men, with iPods, who sing/rap LOUDLY along with whatever is playing on the iPod. Idiot, the purpose of those things is to make it possible for you to listen to music in public WITHOUT bothering everyone else.

I even saw a group of people with an iPod try to play some music without the headphones on the bus, and get mad that they couldn't make it really loud. It was loud enough that they could hear it, but they wanted the whole bus to. The whole time, they were obnoxious, loud, and rowdy, and kept bugging specific people, like asking some guy to borrow his hat, and talking openly about me when I went up to check that I had gotten on the right bus before it left.

And sometimes they get really offended when I try to brush them off, or yell crap like "ohhh you don't like black people" when I wouldn't walk across a dark empty parking lot by myself to go talk to him (like I would have done that if he weren't black?).

I just don't get why some people have to be so noisy, and feel entitled to other people's time. Like they have no shame.

Some people are assholes for whatever reason. They were never held enough as a kid. They are wired wrong in the head. They were never told, "no." Take your pick.

one time I had to endure a bus ride with the next lil wayne trying to show off his rap skills. loudly. I mean, come on guy. what makes you think anyone wants to hear that.

this is kind of on a different tangent, but my roommate also drives me nuts with noise. I'll be in our room reading for my english class and she'll come in and start talking a lot and asking a bunch of questions and I'm just like...really?? and yesterday night I was trying to memorize a speech for class, which I had told her, and she still made a bunch of noise with her friends (they live next door and the walls are paper thin). it was just rude as fuck and I mean we have a bunch of lounges where you can go to hang out if you're going to be loud.

ugh. people.

My brother does the same thing with me. I'll sitting around the house doing something, often CLEARLY concentrating like playing a video game or reading a book, and he'll just go up to me and start asking me questions and talking to me about random things, like he has no concept that I don't exist primarily to listen to him. It's so fucking annoying. And I want to have a good relationship with my brother (well, I've kind of given up on that for a while, but hopefully eventually?) but that doesn't mean I want to drop whatever I'm doing and give him my undivided attention at the drop of a hat, all the time.

The worst part is, even when I try my best to be as NICE as I possibly can, he goes into Total Dickwad Mode when I say I don't want to talk to him, accuses me of being a jerk, says I NEVER have time for him, etc. I try pointing out that I clearly was doing something (like was reading a book with a clearly engrossed expression, or wearing my headphones ffs) and that gets blown off. And, of course, if he's on his computer or watching a football game and I just want to ask him a quick question, I get a short, annoyed "not now!" often accompanied by a dismissive hand gesture.

The good news is, I think (I hope?) that he's just being immature. He's 21 going on 12, and has been for a while (the going on 12 part I mean). So maybe your roommate is the same way and will grow out of it...perhaps not soon enough to help you, but in the long run it would definitely help her.

Edited 2013-11-06 03:26 (UTC)

I actually yelled at some bitch on a bus because she very loudly kept trying to start a fight with a dude onboard. Which sounds like it's contributing to the problem, but she was so shocked she actually shut up for a minute. Unfortunately not forever, but her stop came up another minute later.

Earbuds help me drown out the noise, but sadly don't save me from all of it. :(

I bought some really big, "fuck off" looking headphones so even if they try to talk to me I can look at them blankly, shrug and shake my head.

ngl I sometimes do this with my ordinary-looking headphones. If someone is pestering me I plug them in and pretend I didn't hear them sometimes (especially if I just sat down a minute or two ago, so it looks like I was going to do it anyway, which is often true) and usually they stop talking to me.

It's the only reason I bought them, I don't have the music on 'cause I'm not a huge fan of not being able to hear whats going on around me on public transport but so far putting them on and staring out the window seems to have decreased unwanted conversations.

It's only been a few months so might just be coincidence. But I'm pretty sure I've been bugged less. I'm cool to give someone directions or say what train we're on but it ends there, no money asking, no conversations no "yo what you doing tonight" shit

I usually do eventually listen to music (or play a game with music or sound, or watch a video, etc.) but yeah, the headphones definitely help. I don't think it's just coincidence.

On the bus I either read or play Pokemon (the latter is more likely if the music on the radio is shitty). But I take a shuttle to my college classes from my apartments; it's not a city bus and it's full of college kids all wishing they had more sleep and coffee. There isn't a lot of interaction going on (though there can be really, really annoying space-crowding and I am pretty uptight about my personal space).

Are you talking about a public city bus or subway? I've heard those can be a lot different. (Sadly, my hometown has a pretty bad public transit system so I've basically never used it. I've used the city transit in my college town, but not often and usually with lots of other students.)

Subway, I live in outer suburbs and commute to the city work. It's not a bad-bad route compared to others but some of the later hours or towards the end of the week it gets unruly and it's also passes by a hospital so you get...interesting...characters.

Then there's the just plain asshole present :/

I really don't like those new(ish) backpacks with the speakers built into the bottom. Sure, they're great for the beach, but not the bus. If you turn them on on the bus, there will be strong Canadian reactions of seethingly significant glances. Then I'll complain the bus driver and he'll make you stop. So long as he doesn't ask the other passengers' opinions first.

Or the people walking around with their smartphones in their hands, "blasting" music? That's what headphones are for. I don't want to hear your life soundtrack, thankyouverymuchbutnotevenalittle.

But then people having excited phone conversations or singing at any level on the bus also bugs me. I'm aware I have a rather skewed view of what appropriate noise levels and sounds should be, so I never really know what's normal and what's over sensitivity.

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