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[ao no exorcist]

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[Leverage]

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[Doctor Who, Sherlock]

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation]

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[Frozen]

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[Big Bang Theory; warning for suicide/depression]

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Anyone try to meet people online? I've been experimenting with it lately - being gay in a small town makes it hard to meet people, and I'm not the bar/club type anyway. I've been mostly looking at OKCupid, since it's free and seems like a really positive website overall.

Anyone else tried it? What scares you away from a profile or message?

I'm a lesbian, age 24, and among the gay profiles I have to say, the college age "I'm interested in social justice!" profiles scare me the most. Not that in theory that's bad, I just have this paranoia that you're not actually gay, you're just a "lesbian until graduation" or whatever. lol but that's probably another issue.

I met my girlfriend on OKC.

I noticed that the girl/girl side of the site seems very "we'll start out seeing if we make good friends and then if something happens from there that'd be cool too" based on my experience. Could just be me though.

I called myself a feminist in my profile but I didn't require that from the people I messaged, just as long as they didn't go on any anti-feminist screeds.

I have to say that I find the "lesbian until graduation" idea pretty offensive but I suppose if you're worried about that then you're better off staying away from the women who trigger that in you and not inflicting those worries on another person.

Other advice to anyone who uses these sites: try to start a real conversation when you message someone. Not just a "hey", but something that shows that you actually read their profile and share some interests.

Hi, I'm also a small town lesbian. I made a friend on OkCupid once who is kind of just my acquaintance now, but at the moment my profile is deactivated and I'm not really looking. From what I can tell the lesbians and bi women in my area never message each other (and I mean, a lot of women say in their profiles "why doesn't anyone message meeeee?" which is usually why I don't message them). Even though the questions aren't totally accurate I've found that bothering with anyone less than a 90% match is a waste of time; they usually have morals that clash with mine and that's a big deal to me. Out of the ones that are 90% and above, I would say I'm intimidated by women who are my age but highly professional, educated and experienced. But I message them if they seem nice.

I am very old-school when it comes to internet dating. I actually had a couple different boyfriends I met through MUDding back in the day. Does something like that exist now? Text-based games where you can chat and get to know people instead of doing the online dating profile thing? (Assuming you'd be interested in such a thing, of course.)

I met a girlfriend on okc and slowly started to realize that she was kind of a psychopath. do yourself a favor and cut them loose when you notice anything that could be a red flag instead of waiting it out and trying to find good qualities that balanced out the horrible ones. basically, as long as you're not a naive moron like me then you will probably be fine

I've gone on a few dates from OKC and dated someone I met on there for a few months. I haven't gotten many creepy messages. As I'm a woman looking for men, I'm afraid I can't help with much with what the woman looking for woman atmosphere is like.

What I look for in messages is an interesting opener that seems like they at least glanced at my profile, not just a generic message they send to anyone. A simple "hey" isn't very attention grabbing. It helps if they ask a question or something that can lead into conversation.

I look for similar interests in a profile, and if I like what I see, I'll check the questions they've answered. It's a good way to head off certain stuff early on.

Have you ever tried the phone app "Wing Ma'am"? You can download it to your phone and it's completely free. It'll be able to tell you the LGBT events in your area, and who is already in their service that is around the age you want to date, along with other useful information. I'm not single now, but if I was, I'd be all over this thing.

http://www.wingmaam.com/

I tried dating someone online once. They turned out to be a spacestation, though. Photoshop is crafty!

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