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⌈ Secret Post #2566 ⌋

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[fscom]

09. https://24.media.tumblr.com/c258417ebcd54581990fe487b48128cd/tumblr_mz23adVZkO1rq2vv5o1_500.png

[jaybie_jarrett]

First off, let me just give you a huge hug *hug*

I'm sorry that your family mocked your feelings and I'm glad the movie gave you the inspiration to help yourself. I hope whatever help you seek will help you get better.

[iceyred]

It's good that you got help for your condition. Sometimes you just have to shrug at the naysayers and do what you think is right.

[elaminator]

:( Sorry OP, your family should've taken your anxiety disorder seriously. I'm glad that you're finally getting the help you need, and hopefully in time your family will come to understand and support you. Good luck with everything!

[sootyowl]

Good for you, OP. Glad to hear you're finally getting the help you need :)

[caerbannog]

Aww anon. :( *hug*

I'm glad you're seeking treatment regardless of your family's pressures and I hope it works out for you!

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[bringreligiontothewamwams]

So after 14 years you've finally decided to suck it up and deal with it? If only you'd listened to your family and done that sooner then you wouldn't have been seen as such an attention whore and drama queen for so long.

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[jaybie_jarrett]

WTF MAN?

Panic attacks are a real thing.

OP is not being a drama queen or an attention whore by having a fucking disorder and it's really awful to tell them they are. I know you're a troll and all but just...ew.

MENTAL DISORDERS ARE A THING.

If you're going to be a dick about it , go away. OP doesn't need this shit.

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[bringreligiontothewamwams]

I'm not obligated to be nice to anyone. OP is free to post about her problems, but I'm just as free to not be sympathetic to him.

If they'd been forced to confront this sooner they'd be better already. The OP's problem isn't that her family gave him shit about this, but that they didn't give her a hard enough time and force him to face up to the disruption they were causing earlier.

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[(Anonymous)]

Wow, you're a little bit ignorant. LMAO at your naivety.

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[(Anonymous)]

You're kind of sad tbh

[forgottenjester]

Your situations sucks but I'm glad it's getting better.

[(Anonymous)]

I just don't understand how this kind of "just suck it up/man up" is seen as the mature thing to say to people with emotional problems in some cultures. To me it seems like... "shove your dirt under the rug. There, out of sight, out if mind!"

OP

[(Anonymous)]

To be fair, my parents were both fantastic in every other respect. But they're both in the more physical side of healthcare and have never worked with mental patients or done anything in the mental health field, nor do either of them work with children. I've been like this since the age of four, so I think they assumed it was an attention-seeking behavior I never grew out of. A lot of the comments were along the lines of the thread directly above--"drama queen," "pity party," and the like. It also didn't help that, in elementary school, I had a teacher who reacted to it in a way that I now realize was abusive.

But my parents weren't bad parents.

[(Anonymous)]

In some cases, it does work. I used to have anxiety problems, and what got me over them was sucking it up and doing the thing that I was anxious about and then realizing that in fact nothing bad happened when I did it. Looking back on it, I was basically doing a sort of CBT without even realizing it or knowing what that was.

[(Anonymous)]

What the fuck is it about panic attacks that make people so dismissive? My older sister had them for a rough patch in her late teens, and years later when it was over with her and I was having panic attacks, she would tell me to suck it up. AND SHE'S A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.

My mother was always sweet and supportive to me but I could see her exasperation after a while, and sometimes, rarely, she'd snap at me to "learn to deal with it". Then she hit menopause, started getting panic attacks and gave me a fully apology. So that was satisfying.

I lost most of five years of my life to panic attacks and am still (hopefully, pray for me) recovering now. I needed chemical help, there was something physically wrong with me. And you need to keep that in mind, OP, if anyone is ever dismissive of you. Say, "I'm sorry, the chemicals in my brain and my nerves aren't functioning well. I PROBABLY INHERITED FROM YOU, MOM."

[(Anonymous)]

It's actually very difficult for a carer to draw proper mental lines between involuntary behaviour and ordinary behaviour that happens to be troublesome. Nobody's behaviour is perfect, after all, and it's easy to get the two mixed up. Caring for someone with a mood or behavioural disorder is very stressful and can mean making a lot of sacrifices, and the temptation to blame those problems on the dependent is extremely strong. It isn't right, of course, but nobody is perfect.

I can't speak to your individual situation, of course, but this is my experience, at least.

[(Anonymous)]

Does menopause bring on panic attacks?

(Asking because I'm not yet menopausal...but I have had a few anxiety attacks in the past.)

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh. So sorry you had to deal with that, OP, but so glad for you that you're taking the steps to get help! Panic attacks suck. (And people who don't believe them are even worse.)

[sarillia]

Congrats OP!

Even with a supportive family it can be incredibly hard to reach out for help. My mom has anxiety issues herself and has been nothing but supportive ever since I started getting help for my problems and I still hid them for years and years.

Good luck with your treatment!

[cassandraoftroy]

I'm glad that you're able to get help now, and I'm sorry that your family were such shits to you about it for so long. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad for having panic attacks or make you feel like they're not a real problem - whether it's your unsympathetic family or assholes on the internet. I wish you well. :)

[(Anonymous)]

Panic attacks fucking suck, OP

I hope you find good coping mechanisms that work for you!

I really depend on a playlist of like, five Russian 90s songs, personally. Translating to music helps switch my brain from panic to calm, that and a weighted blanket.

(And when they let me try anti-anxiety meds, those were beautiful, but they opted against prescribing them to me because of my other meds, which they hoped would work better. So don't be afraid of medication, it does help.)

[(Anonymous)]

Hugs for you, OP! <3 I'm a bit lucky in the sense that my mom suffers from clinical depression (which is obviously not a good thing, but she has medication and is much better now) so I've never had to deal with the worry of not being taken seriously. I know this kind of reaction isn't rare and it must've been really hard to live like that. Good on you for getting help, and I hope you feel better soon!

[saiika_von_maou]

Elsa and her song really inspired me, too, as someone suffering from anxiety, so I can totally relate. And I'm so glad she could inspire you too. :3

[(Anonymous)]

*hugs* congrats for getting the help you need. Dealing with mental illness is hard, and an unsupportive environment makes it even worse.

I'm mentally ill myself, and Elsa's story, and that song, really struck a chord with me. The whole angle about being isolated for your own good (even though it's actually for the good of others), "conceal, don't feel", being the good girl and not upsetting people... yeah.

Good luck with treatment!