[ SECRET POST #2591 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2591 ⌋

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Comments

[philstar22]

My first thought was something to do with romances. Because all of these tropes show up in those books. Which is really odd in a genre supposedly geared towards women.

Get out if you can, OP. But sometimes you do what you have to in order to eat.

[(Anonymous)]

Fifty Shades of Grey was primarily written for women. Translate that, if you dare.

[philstar22]

I know. I don't get it. There are so many really offensive tropes in the romance/erotica genres. Its so tiring. If maledom is your thing, great, but so many of the supposed heroes of these books are so creepy and the women so bland and passive its frustrating. I don't get it at all, which is why I stick to the few erotica authors I know usually avoid being offensive.

[(Anonymous)]

How dare women have their own taste which is different from yours and not be offended at all.

[(Anonymous)]

How dare someone suggest that continuing the grand tradition of writing abusive or creepy behavior as romantic and normal is offensive!

[(Anonymous)]

How dare people not be offended at what you find offensive!

[(Anonymous)]

How dare people see things by their context rather than froth at the mouth irrationally at every turn.

[(Anonymous)]

Do you see slavery as okay in the context of the Bible as well? I'm sure it can be defended under that context pretty well, yeah?

[(Anonymous)]

Wah Wah I take everything personal~~~ It's all about me~~~

[(Anonymous)]

Apparently, it's kinkshaming to point out that abuse is abuse instead of romance.

[diet_poison]

Ironically you seem to be missing the point that much of erotica caters to one specific taste (i.e. maledom) and it would furthermore be pretty naive to assume that that (especially combined with tropes that many people find creepy, old stereotypes, and rigid gender roles in relationships) doesn't have maybe something to do with sexism in the genre.

[inevitableentresol]

Now you've pointed out that most of mainstream erotica caters to only one single kink, maledom, I don't know why I didn't see it before.

The variety of kink in fanfic is far greater. That explains why I love fanfic yet hate mainstream erotica, because maledom is so not my kink.

So simple yet I never got it before.

[diet_poison]

I honestly cannot tell if you're being sarcastic.

[inevitableentresol]

100% not sarcastic.

For ages I wondered why I found mainstream romance/erotica novels so offputting yet I love shippy fanfiction, and even the crazily romantic ones. I thought romance was just not my thing until I discovered fanfic.

I'm just slow to catch on.

Mainstream romance novels mostly play into a kink I'm just not into. Simple.

[inevitableentresol]

Also, a friend just loaned me a romance/erotica novel (Wild Card by Lora Leigh) and I thought - oh, these books probably have changed, and I love explicit fanfic, this'll be fun.

But it was horrible. So not my kink. I'll never try to make myself read these type of stories again now I've understood why.

[caecilia]

A long time ago I was reading a good book or article all about the "rape is love" thing is rampant in basically all romance novels. It's probably the reason I turned to fandom instead of Harlequin for my romance fix. I think the genre needs a revolution. I think a lot of the self-published and budding erotica authors right now are more aware of this and trying to be different, but there are a lot still falling back on that old formula.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe it's because a lot of people really like the old formula, no matter what you call it?

[caecilia]

I'm not sure if you're the same anon who said "How dare women have their own taste which is different from yours and not be offended at all.", but I hope you're not taking my criticism of something as a personal attack against those who enjoy it. It's fine if people like it, and they don't need my approval or permission to keep on liking it. One of the things that comes up in books and articles about writing is that the romance genre is formulaic (in other words, it's a known fact, and the publisher is in fact looking for stories that fit the formula) and saturated with tropes that I personally object to, and I think we're on the verge of a change. Art changes over time, and I think that's interesting and exciting.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't like that this supposed change sounds largely forced as some people thought their 'being offended' was universal and silenced those that didn't share their ideas. If it's happening, it's a loss for those who are not offended and happen to enjoy whatever you object to.
But hey, that stuff's popular for a reason, so I'm confident by fandom or by canon there's still be plenty of it in the future too.

[caecilia]

Ah. Sorry for the misunderstanding, then. I'm not talking about forcing anything, I just think we're in the middle of a cultural shift. Of course there are still people who like the old things, but I don't think they'll be losing out. If you look at the broad picture of art history, nothing ever goes away. Things just evolve, and sometimes they go back and forth. The way I see it, doing new things and offering fresh perspectives only contributes to art and literature. If this helps to clarify, I'm speaking as someone who is working to be a professional writer, so I study the industry and think about this a lot. And since I love romantic relationships, there's a bit of wishful thinking in here that maybe someday I'll have created something that made an impact on...someone. Even just one person. That probably sounds pretentious but whatever, that's just where I'm coming from. I'm sure in the future, you and other people will still be able to find plenty of things you enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

A long time ago I was reading a good book or article all about the "rape is love" thing is rampant in basically all romance novels.

I'm going to guess it wasn't a recent article. Things have changed a bit since the days of Fabio covers.

[caecilia]

Yeah, like I said it was a long time ago, and I believe it was an article examining the history of romance novels. And that's good to know!

[(Anonymous)]

It was written for women too embarrassed to seek out real porn.

[(Anonymous)]

This may be the most accurate comment on here. :)

[feotakahari]

I've actually seen this crap outside the romance genre. Species Imperative, a great sci-fi series I would otherwise love to rec, has a male lead who's arguably even worse than Edward Cullen, and the plot keeps getting sidetracked so the protagonist can talk about how "yummy" he is.

(One thing to be said for Meg Cabot--she never pulls any of this crap in her romances. It's actually kind of stunning.)