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[The Croods]

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[Elementary]

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[SCP Foundation]

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I'm dealing with a person right now who just has trouble listening to anything anyone says. It's not even that they are being stubborn, it's as if they just stop listening when they aren't talking.

What is this? How can anyone survive like this? What makes these people this way?

I've encountered this before, but never to this extent and it's driving me crazy. No matter what anyone says to this person they just continue on in their assholishness, making everything about them. I really, really don't know how to cope with this level of head-up-ass-ness.

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okay I lol'd

(reply from suspended user)

What was that?

No seriously though, some people have attention deficit problems, and you personally have no idea if that's the case. You assume it's intentional, but it might not be.

ADD does not render people incapable of considering the feelings of others.

Indeed. It only renders them incapable of paying attention in certain circumstances.

Reading comprehension is also something that's spared in most ADHD, unlike what seems to be going on here.

Nothing to be done for it. do not engage.

I've been around one person like that and she wasn't mean or anything but she could not sustain a conversation. Either she was talking or she was gone. so annoying.

I sometimes try presenting information in a different way, i.e. some people are just more visual, and/or like a quick presentation of information instead of a thorough one. In that case, I tend to try making a chart (I know I personally like looking at a chart than listening to people explain things), or just break down the information into tiny pieces and intersperse it throughout the conversation.

Otherwise, I tend to just force the issue, i.e. repeat things until they get so sick of it they listen, sit in silence because "hey, you're not listening anyway, what's the point", etc. - Though that actually rarely happens. If someone is just oblivious rather than stubborn or being an asshat, then just shifting how I say things/present information works.

My friend is pretty much this, and I guess it's mostly from her ADHD but still it really sucks because she goes on and on about how everything is someone's fault and will never shut up about the 7 guys she's seeing but still needs someone to tell her what this text means etc, etc.
And when I finally get to say something about my day she's like "that's nice" and then starts talking about something else. Sometimes I'm even trying to say something and and she starts a new conversation because she has so much going on with her life.
The conversations are almost always about her and almost always shallow.

The mystery to me is how people who are so self-centered have so much going on in their lives. You'd think they wouldn't be able to get on or have so many misadventures.

From someone with ADHD, trust me, that doesn't have anything to do with it. What ADHD will do is cause you to forget something someone told you five minutes ago or make you zone out temporarily during a conversation, it doesn't make you hopelessly self-centered. That's just being an asshole.

If it's at all possible, I'd try to engineer it so I didn't have to deal with this person anymore. If you have no choice... my condolences. When people get to be adults, fixing assholishness becomes damn near impossible.

I don't agree with the "but but but attention deficit disorder!!!" comment. Being ADHD doesn't mean you never listen to anyone, though it might mean you have difficulty concentrating and focusing. At any rate, it's irrelevant. Having ADHD doesn't excuse this person being a dick who refuses to address the poor behavior when it's brought up to them.

when i was bakcig of um chair for a bit aint was making this shound bu ten it stopped@!

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