[ SECRET POST #2620 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2620 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[My Mad Fat Diary]


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03.
[Stargate Atlantis]


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04.
[Andromeda]


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05.
[True Detective]


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06.
[Samurai Flamenco]


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07.
[Star Trek: DS9]


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08.
[Supernatural]


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09.
[Wild Adapter]


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10.
[The Bletchley Circle]


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11. [ns]


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12.
[Junior Prom - Prelinger Archives Video]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 015 secrets from Secret Submission Post #374.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Have any?

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I have a friend who has a crush on me and I feel kind of guilty about how much of an ego boost it is. It's really awkward whenever he lets something slip about how he's still thinking about me because I don't like him that way and I'm in a relationship with someone else but part of me likes it.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions TMI

[(Anonymous)]

I accidentally ended up masturbating for seven hours without orgasm today. One minute it was ten in the morning and I was planning to go to college at lunchtime. The next thing I knew, it was five in the afternoon and I was sore. I have no idea why I didn't stop sooner!

Re: Nonfandom Confessions TMI

[herpymcderp]

How... how did you not notice how much time was passing? This is completely bewildering to me.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I keep trying to set up a time to have a serious talk with some ex-friends about something important, but every time I think about it and wonder what I should say, I get upset and start crying. It's been so long, they've probably written me off and forgotten about it, but I can never seem to run out of tears and at least try to get it done.

I feel so pathetic.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I wish people would stop telling me about their relationships/sex lives.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[lunabee34]

I am tired of vomit. I am tired of cleaning up vomit. I am tired of holding little people who have vomited. I am tired of being the Mommy today.

VOMIT IS NOT COOL, CHILDREN. NOT COOL. PLEASE TO BE STOPPING DOING THAT.

Thank you.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

My periods have never been painful. My worst cramps are only a mild inconvenience. So my thoughts on other women's periods used to sound like something you'd think could only come from really stupid, insensitive men. "Ha ha, stop exaggerating. How bad can it be?"

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

You say "used to", what changed?

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

My long-term boyfriend cheated on me recently, but I hate the woman he had a one night stand with even more. I despise that she acted shocked that having unprotected sex with a man she had just met lead to her getting pregnant. She's a year shy of thirty. I know I should be angry at him more, but all I can think of is how much of a stupid whore this woman is.

Obvious secret.

TO CLARIFY

[(Anonymous)]

She went on a self righteous rant about not ending up as another 'statistic', as if having random unprotected sex while NOT intoxicated was the best way to go about this.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[bribedwithbacon]

Ouch. That's rough. I'm sorry you had to go through that anon. ):

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[diet_poison]

sorry to be That Person but that does seems to say a lot about your views of women/relationships. :( They are both at fault. Your boyfriend was not prey to the pouncing whore vagina. He made a choice.

That said, I'm really sorry that happened. Cheating is such a shitty thing to do and I can't imagine having to go through it. =(

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Casual/unattached sex makes me really uncomfortable. Not in a moral judgement kind of way, but in a 'the idea of having sex with a near-stranger/someone I'm not in head-over-heels in love with is really creepy and awful' kind of way. This hasn't really been an issue for me for a long time, but in school I had some friends that took it as like a personal insult that I didn't have lots of sex/talk about all the sex I was having. They teased me (mildly enough that I didn't end the friendship) for a few years about how prudish I was, until I moved away.

Now, years later, I'm realizing that part of my anxiety stems from the fact that I feel so old-fashioned and 'frigid' that no one would ever want to go through the trouble of dating me.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[bribedwithbacon]

Casual sex isn't for everyone, and that's okay. You shouldn't be forced into doing something you're not comfortable with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you setting these boundaries and wanting to wait until you love someone enough to partake in intimate sexual relations. Your friends kind of reacted poorly; what they're doing is fine, but what you choose to do with your own body and sex life is also fine. It's terrible they treated your choice like a joke, anon.

Just know that there's nothing wrong with waiting in a relationship. Sex is supposed to be fun, and if you're too nervous about not knowing your partner enough, chances are you won't be aroused enough to enjoy it. So take your time. Go at your own pace. Do not listen to people who are shaming you for going at your own pace. It's your body and your choice.

As far as dating and confidence goes, try to set a goal of finding something positive you like about yourself in the mirror every day. Take some time to pick out a nice outfit you want to wear, maybe even dress up with your hair or makeup if it makes you feel good. Think about one thing you like about yourself, skills or otherwise, at least once a day. Doing this enough will help boost your confidence.

Good luck.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[diet_poison]

Your friends were really being assholes. o.O

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I'd bet your friends were kind of insecure about their own sex lives and were putting you down in an attempt to get some validation.

I didn't run into this much in college for whatever reason, but in grad school I kept meeting undergrads who seemed really sensitive about the casual sex they were having and would get preemptively defensive about it. It's like they were either enjoying the casual sex but felt like maybe they weren't supposed to enjoy it, or they didn't enjoy it but thought they were supposed to be having it anyway because that's just what you do in college. Either way, they'd be unnecessarily desperate to normalize their behavior by lashing out at people who didn't behave the same. (Fortunately, I wasn't a target since I was older and possibly their TA.)

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I LOATHE answering the customer service phone. Most of the people I talk to are idiots of one variety or another, and the nice ones who aren't are too few and far between.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[diet_poison]

Do you work in a call center or...?

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I got hit with a bout of insomnia and spent the entire night lying in bed with my mind racing, unable to sleep.
Then in the morning, I got up and puttered around a bit, and then I went back to bed and finally managed to fall asleep. I slept all day.
And all day I dreamed of various fictional characters getting their throats slit. In graphic detail.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I just don't care if my friends are not friends with each other. Not everyone is going to get along guys, get over it.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it's much more sensible than imagining that all your friends should like one another.

Re: Nonfandom Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Here's mine...

Although I'm very, very pro-choice, I don't like the idea of abortion as anything other than the absolute last recourse. This makes me feel like a traitor to feminism. The thing is that I do believe it's a woman's choice - I just don't see it as something a woman should have at the top of her list of options the way some of my feminist pro-choice friends do. This makes me feel like a bad feminist.

(And this really isn't about religion - I do have religious beliefs, but it's more about ethics to me than anything else. I think God is more worried about people who are already alive.)

possible tw for rape and abortion below

[(Anonymous)]

I am so sick of seeing this 'bad feminist' worry. Show me The One Perfect Feminist. You can't. Feminism has many branches and no two feminists agree on everything. This is pretty common? I don't think anybody really likes abortion. This is why PP clinics give free birth control and other resources for women. Are you a guy? I don't want to assume but it's the way you refer to "a woman" and not yourself. I'm not gonna get all radfem!anon on your ass if you are, buuut, if it is at the top of someone's list, that sounds like a very personal thing and she probably has a reason. Nobody else has lived her life so it's not really anybody's place to judge. I do think it's stupid to have lots of unprotected sex and say "I'll just get an abortion!" (I have known people like this!) But most of us are just thinking "What do I do if I get pregnant from a rape? I have to think of that as a real possibility and be prepared." And if they decide they can't handle going through with the pregnancy that is as you say their choice. You can't stop yourself from having feelings about it, just realize that it's not really about your feelings. If you aren't a guy, same answer really. You don't know what it's like from her perspective.