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⌈ Secret Post #2622 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[(Anonymous)]

I actually do think it's a little immature. It's normal, but it's not mature. I mean, it's one thing if you just have that one close friend who do you everything with, that's your lifestyle and you like it that way. But if you're jealous if your girlfriend has other friends who she has "emotionally intimate" (not sexual) relationships with? I understand it, because I've felt the same way before but... it is still immature.

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[seventh_seal]

Yeah, I recognize the possessivenes of it. I'm not jealous of my gf being emotionally intimate with other people, but I would be jealous/hurt if there was a person she was as emotionally invested into as she is into me. (This sounds a bit like I'm overthinking this, but I'm trying to describe it accurately.)

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Try not to overthink it. Odds are it will never happen and when it does it might be a completely different experience for you. Things are very rarely the way you imagine(d) them to be.

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[(Anonymous)]

This implies that that kind of jealousy is something people normally - and are supposed to - grow out of and I don't think that's the case. Being capable of loving more than one person with equal intensity doesn't mean you're forever incapable of feeling jealousy, and feeling jealous doesn't mean that you won't be able get a handle on those feelings and move past them without causing any harm.

As an adult, you potentially have a lot more riding on your significant relationships (support network, business interests, shared children/property/household) than you did as a kid and I think it's quite rational to be protective of those relationships because of this. The jealousy this can trigger may not be rational, but it comes from a real, understandable place. Maturity is not about never experiencing jealousy ever, it's about how you deal with those feelings.

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[diet_poison]

That is not what they said though? If I had an SO and we were THAT close and he let someone else in his life be close to him to the same degree that I was, I'd be jealous. Maybe not everyone with a romantic relationship is like this, but with me, those kinds of relationships are special and of a particular kind (and I eventually want to get married) and...you just expect that each person is the other's #1. I mean I wouldn't without talking about it but I wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone who didn't function that way. People are just different, I guess.

Re: Can you love more than one person? I can't.

[inkdust]

What you're saying makes sense in terms of intimacy. When OP used the word love, I couldn't agree, but for intimacy, I can definitely see no one being closer than one's partner. I also think there's a difference between, as I mentioned above, a 16 year friendship being significant in someone's life versus making a new friend at work. If my partner had a long-standing close friendship like that, I would expect it to be a priority for them because it's a priority for me. But at the same time, I would definitely expect us both to consider each other the #1.