[ SECRET POST #2632 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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05.
[Twin Peaks]


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06.
[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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07.
[Lily Allen]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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09.
[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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11.
[Frozen]













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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I wonder where all these anons who only meet "stuck-up, traditionally feminine bitches" live because where I am, it's the opposite. I run the gamut of having masculine/feminine interests and I've never had a problem meeting girls with the same interests and almost all of my friends are female. Whereas most of the men I meet are usually jerks with insufferable, offensive opinions or creeps who just want to get in my pants, especially when they find out I like video games. I realize that could be construed as bragging, but it's actually just annoying as fuck since I'm asexual and genuinely want male friends.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. I've tried so many times to hang out with men, and they end up assuming I'm a bit "cute", a bit "novel", like they are indulging me, and then it ends up they want in my pants. Some women would be able to ignore that, or take advantage of that, but it tends to sour me pretty fast. I can spot condescension/othering from ten paces away, even when me and a guy are having a super-deep physics conversation over a bong. Sigh.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Jeez anon, are you me? Because you've described exactly my issues when it comes to befriending men, especially with the condescension. I only ever experience that with dudes and it drives me up the wall. Makes me wonder if that's a common dynamic between most male/female friendships, and if it is, I don't want any part of it.

[(Anonymous)]

Depressing as it might sound: be unattractive. Or just average.

I was kind of an ugly duckling in school, and I could make male friends at the drop of a hat. (They never, ever wanted to be anything more, even when I did.) Then I went through a hot phase in college, and suddenly! Not a single man I met actually wanted to be my friend, even if they approached me to "be my friend" they meant to use that as a backdoor to weasel into my affections and became irate/ditched me "as a friend" if that didn't pan out. Most just didn't even bother with the pretense. After one conversation about video games or comics or sci-fi that was totally fun and interesting, they'd ask me out. And if I rejected them, that was it. They'd never talk to me again.

Which was super gross, and I really started to hate it, and cultivated mostly female friendships after that. But now that I'm older and married (to one of my male friends from back before the "hot" phase) I am ~surprise~ able to make friendships with men again. It's ridiculous. Being less attractive and lonely sucked, but at least men would give me the time of day for any other reason than a potential fuck.

[diet_poison]

I'm really lucky in that not every guy I met has treated me this way, but I can relate to this somewhat. I became way more attractive after high school and meet a lot of guys pursuing my interests (especially YGO) and can't count the number of times I've gotten "You're a chick who duels? Hot!!" and can't see me as a human first. Of course, I have met some awesome people through dueling as well, both male and female. I guess you've got to take the bad with the good...