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Greater Internet F-ckwad Theory:

Normal person + anonymity the internet provides + audience of other anonymous people on the internet = total jerk.

The academic name for this phenomenon is the "online disinhibition effect", and it's attributed to a wide variety of factors, not limited to attention-seeking behavior, lack of consequences due to anonymity, and simple miscommunication/misunderstanding due to the lack of body language and voice for emotional cues.

/wrote an entire report about this for a college communications class

I'll look this up a bit more. Thanks!

I don't know. I think in that case, the person was a jerk to begin with but didn't want to deal with the consequences. A "who you are in the dark" sort of thing. A genuinely nice person is not going to suddenly become a raging asshole because nobody knows who they are.

Even nice people are dicks sometimes, and if a person who's normally nice misinterprets something because of a lack of context, they can become a total raging asshole. (I mean, I hold grudges like nobody's business, so if somebody gets on my bad side, even without meaning to, it's highly unlikely we'll ever have friendly interactions.)

This.

I think Oscar Wilde was prognosticating the internet when he said "Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth."

I mostly agree with it, but like the first anon below me said, there's the fact that only 7% of communication is words alone (which is what you're reading). The rest of it is facial expression, body language, tone, and I think hand gestures. So misunderstanding and our own personal biases (you think the person who told you that you're wrong on the internet is trying to be an asshole instead of speaking unclearly the same way that that random person who cut you off on the freeway was being a jerk instead of actually not seeing you), plus all that other stuff I said in my original comment, gets you somebody who feels invincible, and that seemingly consequence-free environment changes people. I act a different way to my boss than to my family, and differently to the girl I tutor than to the group of high schoolers I just had to give the sex talk to last week. None of that means that I am any more really myself any one of those situations, it just means that the thing I'm trying to get out of those interactions and the way I perceive our interactions changes given the person/people I'm communicating with.

Can someone prove this for their phD? I'd love to read that paper

LOL, you're pretty close. I'm actually doing my senior thesis on communication and how the internet changes it (using face-to-face encounters, Skype, phone calls, and internet chatting). In pretty much every single situation, communication is limited (time and publicity, lack of body language, lack of facial expression, and lack of everything except words). It's actually kind of interesting.

Worst-first thinking. Must jump to the worst case scenario -SOMEONE IS BEING AN ASSHOLE - rather than a possible misunderstanding. :(

That's really cool, I'd definitely read that

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