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⌈ Secret Post #2660 ⌋

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Comments

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

sorry for the late reply!

i'm a bookworm. I love watching movies and plays, and listening to music. also writing. anything creative really.

i'm also familiar with a lot of nerdy stuff (anime, video games, comics).

so basically i'm just a massive dork haha. :)

the issue with that is that there seems to be a big emphasis on... like, clubbing and drinking and stuff? and i don't really know where else to meet people.

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

is there an anime club on campus? gaming groups? A film studies department that does screenings? A creative writing department that does readings? A visual arts department that does gallery nights? A local comic book store that hosts watching parties for nerdy TV shows? You mentioned it was a small city, but universities often have interest/entertainment/creative groups for various massive-dork pursuits :) I don't know your situation, though, so I don't want to make too many assumptions.

You mentioned your friend -- do they live in the same city? would they be willing to go to some of these things with you? I know it helps with my anxiety to have a "safe" person along in situations where I don't know anyone.

Also seconding the anon below who suggested online communities; it can really help with the feeling of isolation.

Sorry to ramble. I don't know if any of this is useful, ultimately. There are many, many people like you out there; I hope you find some of them soon. :)

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

I'd recommend going back. I know it'll be tough, but think of it like this: the first time you went, everyone was thinking "Who's this? I don't know her." This time, everyone will be thinking "Oh hey, I remember her, she was here once before." So you're going into a LESS awkward situation, which actually requires less bravery. And clearly you've got some reserves of bravery to draw on. :)

Then, once you're there, ask "Hey, can anyone recommend some good movies with queer themes? Something I can actually relate to, not fake like [queer movie you don't like]. Maybe something like [queer movie you do like]? I heard [some other queer movie] is pretty good, do you think it's worth checking out?"

If the person you're talking to says "I don't really watch movies" you just say "That's cool; do you know anyone here who does? I really want to get some recommendations from someone who understands, you know?"

And then you're having a conversation about movies. You have trained your whole life for this moment, young one. :)