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⌈ Secret Post #2660 ⌋

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Comments

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

oh anon, I'm so sorry to hear that :(

Your story gave me a flashback to the one Student Gay & Lesbian Alliance meeting I went to as a freshman in college. Everyone was incredibly extroverted and everyone seemed to know each other. It was so awkward and I felt so mousy and boring that I decided to stay in the closet forever because I was obviously too dull to be really bi. Totally optional hugs are here for you if you want them.

I don't really know what advice to give you. Sometimes awkward situations get better if you go back, and sometimes they don't. If you connected with one person there, it might be worth going back to see if you connect with him again. You might also find that you have an easier time being yourself in spaces that are queer-friendly, but not lgbt-specific.

What are some of the things you like to do?

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

sorry for the late reply!

i'm a bookworm. I love watching movies and plays, and listening to music. also writing. anything creative really.

i'm also familiar with a lot of nerdy stuff (anime, video games, comics).

so basically i'm just a massive dork haha. :)

the issue with that is that there seems to be a big emphasis on... like, clubbing and drinking and stuff? and i don't really know where else to meet people.

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

is there an anime club on campus? gaming groups? A film studies department that does screenings? A creative writing department that does readings? A visual arts department that does gallery nights? A local comic book store that hosts watching parties for nerdy TV shows? You mentioned it was a small city, but universities often have interest/entertainment/creative groups for various massive-dork pursuits :) I don't know your situation, though, so I don't want to make too many assumptions.

You mentioned your friend -- do they live in the same city? would they be willing to go to some of these things with you? I know it helps with my anxiety to have a "safe" person along in situations where I don't know anyone.

Also seconding the anon below who suggested online communities; it can really help with the feeling of isolation.

Sorry to ramble. I don't know if any of this is useful, ultimately. There are many, many people like you out there; I hope you find some of them soon. :)

Re: advice for socially awkward people still in the closet

[(Anonymous)]

I'd recommend going back. I know it'll be tough, but think of it like this: the first time you went, everyone was thinking "Who's this? I don't know her." This time, everyone will be thinking "Oh hey, I remember her, she was here once before." So you're going into a LESS awkward situation, which actually requires less bravery. And clearly you've got some reserves of bravery to draw on. :)

Then, once you're there, ask "Hey, can anyone recommend some good movies with queer themes? Something I can actually relate to, not fake like [queer movie you don't like]. Maybe something like [queer movie you do like]? I heard [some other queer movie] is pretty good, do you think it's worth checking out?"

If the person you're talking to says "I don't really watch movies" you just say "That's cool; do you know anyone here who does? I really want to get some recommendations from someone who understands, you know?"

And then you're having a conversation about movies. You have trained your whole life for this moment, young one. :)