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Okay, so recently I've gotten into losing weight again. This is mostly because of health reasons, and because I started noticing genuine discomfort.

But I've noticed a pattern. Generally, I don't feel all that bad about being overweight - I hardly think of it, it's just "me", you know?

But the second I actually try losing weight I suddenly feel fat, and get irritated by all the imperfections. It's some weird psychological shit,I tell you.

Anyone else have the same phenomenon? Also tips to keep going are appreciated!

The only thing I can suggest is that you should write yourself a letter telling you how awesome you are for working out/losing weight, how great you will feel once you've lost that weigh, how healthy you will be, etc. Then read that letter every time you feel fat.

That's actually a good idea, I'll try that!

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

iceyred - 2014-05-22 23:38 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

kallanda_lee - 2014-05-23 00:30 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

iceyred - 2014-05-23 01:34 (UTC) - Expand

It is all mental, all in the mind. Just like fear is the mind killer, stress is the mind killer and we are own worst enemy!

I feel fat even when the scale says I'm in my normal level. I felt fat as I lost weight, I feel fat when I gain.

I don't know if I helped you out in any way.

Yeah, I know it's in the mind - doesn't make it less real, though. Haven't been average weight for a while, so not sure I'd still feel that way if I actually lost a significant amount.

Nah. It is probably because you are focusing on your weight. I feel much better honestly since I started losing weight. Not just physically but emotionally as well! I have lost almost 50 pounds since the beginning of the year.

That's amazing! Congrats! Are you just counting calories or doing anything special?

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

kaijinscendre - 2014-05-22 23:46 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

kallanda_lee - 2014-05-23 00:12 (UTC) - Expand

I...honestly, my feeling fat is what motivates me to workout, so I don't have quite the same issue as you.

HOWEVER. I think I might have some tips to keep going.

1) Set goals and reward yourself for them with "decadent" things. For example, when it comes to running, whenever I hit a distance goal, I get to have a beer (I keep beer drinking to a minimum because of its caloric content).

2) Vary your workouts. If you do the same thing every day, then a) you'll get bored and b) you'll plateau faster. Look up different routines and challenge yourself.

3) Aim for something other than weight loss. One of the things that keeps me going is the knowledge that I'm stronger than I once was. Think of something that you can't do or that's hard for you to do because you don't have the strength for it, and aim toward being able to do it. It's really motivating, and when you get to where you're able to do it, you feel so good, and it makes you want to get even stronger.

4) Try to exercise as early in the day as possible, even if that means getting up a little earlier. I know, that probably sounds counter-intuitive to the mission of "keep going," but we have more motivation early in the day, so it's easier to get into a workout. Also, it gives you an energy boost, and you start craving that boost.

Edited 2014-05-22 23:37 (UTC)

1) The the risk of rewarding myself is that I just binge. Non-food rewards could be interesting, though.

2) Oh definitely. I'm easily bored. Though I'm fairly limited in what I can/am allowed to do physically. So mostly it's just walking/dancing currently.

3) That's a large pat of wanting to lose weight for me, but its less tangible and harder to measure, I guess. But I like the idea of being stronger.

4) I'm reaaally not a morning person, so I'll keep this on in the back of my mind, in case I start plateau-ing.

Thanks for the input!

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

a_potato - 2014-05-22 23:59 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

kallanda_lee - 2014-05-23 00:03 (UTC) - Expand

I'm sorry. I just.
I can't concentrate on the content of your question of give an intelligent answer because I can't stop imagining your icon saying what you write.

Haha, that's quite okay. I've gone full Bucky. One should probably never go full Bucky, but too late now.

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Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

(Anonymous) - 2014-05-23 04:16 (UTC) - Expand

Me too! We should form a club.

Nothing stopping us!

Fatty Lard Club!

Don't be too frustated with the need to change you wardrobe, it's just a push to buy something nicer. At least the shoose should still be ok.

I'm actually going to keep my old wardrobe as long as I can, because I'm broke as hell. I also still have some stuff from when I was less heavy. Shoes are an issue anyway, because I have big nd difficult feet.

I kind of get you, I'm not trying to loose weight but I am trying to get into shape because I am horribly unfit and I just keep noticing all the things I don't like about my body more atm, it's weird.

But! I do feel better after working out, like I've accomplished something so I guess that keeps me going. I have changed when I do it though, it used to be in the morning after I got up but now I do it in the evening and it suits me so much better.

I'm trying not to miss a day however because I've done that before and I'll just slide back into not doing any exercise if I'm not careful.

I'm also unfit, but that's an even longer road for me as there are a few health reasons that make it harder. I do want to get there eventually, though. And yeah, having "days off" is also a risk for me.

High five, Bucky! We are doing the same thing. LOL

I have not exercised since my daughter was born almost a year ago. Now that this terribly stressful semester is over, I am ready to start exercising again, and I started yesterday. Two days in a row, whoooooo!

Here's what I am going to do. I am going to swim every day if possible and also do some walking around the track while my daughter practices for cross country.

I am not going to do much with diet. I have found that once I get into the groove of exercising regularly that my diet tends to regulate itself at least in part. I go to sleep earlier because I'm tired and I don't feel like eating as much junk. I will continue to drink the massive amounts of water I drink every day. My one thing as far as diet goes is that I am going to only drink one baby coke each morning and No More!

I find that when I start trying to diet, it's like part of my brain goes wacko and I feel like I need to eat more or I'm being deprived and I think about it constantly. dieting is so counter productive for me. I am healthy already; my BP and stuff is great. I am focusing on being strong and powerful instead of thinking of it as losing weight. which also helps me not obsess.

Good luck to you!!

Just exercise won't cut it for me but yeah, this resonated with me: my brain goes wacko in the same way, thinking it's deprived.

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

lunabee34 - 2014-05-24 15:49 (UTC) - Expand

I agree with what everyone else said: once you start focusing on losing weight you pick apart your flaws so much more. You're so intensely focused on losing weight; that changes things.

I used to not like to think about my weight. I knew I was way out of shape but I still didn't realize how much. It can be a bit of a shock.

I want to lose 25 more pounds and I'll be at my “ideal” weight. (For me, anyway. I'll be considered healthy then, and I already feel much better about myself, so that's all I want.) I find that thinking about all the cute clothes I'll be able to wear and the energy I'll have keeps me in check. I've never lost this much weight, and I've never been this dedicated, and tbh most of it is just how much better I feel since losing the weight. I got tired SO easily before, and while I might not be running any 5K marathons anytime soon, I feel like a different person. It's amazing how much more I can do now.

Maybe think of it like that? Not only will you be healthier, but the energy you'll have will be incredible.

As for tips, for me I get up early and excercise. As long as you excercise I don't think it matters when, but for me (And I'm not a morning person, tbh) I'm more likely to do it if I get it out of the way first thing in the morning. If I wait until the evening I lose motivation because I'm tired. Doing it in the morning actually makes me feel a bit more energized and gives me a nice sense of, “Hey, you accomplished something”. It's a good way to start off a day.

Other than that.. Drink lots of water, especially after working out, and then having a bottle of water an hour or so before meals makes it so you aren't as hungry. If you decide to calorie count it might be good if you plan ahead? Don't know if it would work with you, it doesn't with everyone, but for me I find it useful. I'll decide what to eat the next day before I go to bed so there's no scrambling to find something that fits my plan. It also takes the pressure off finding something to eat, and makes it less likely that you'll splurge on something you don't need. (Or, alternatively, that you CAN splurge on what you want, and not have to fret about it because you're still getting the amount of calories you want.)

I already have more energy , but that's also from experimental medication I'm taking, which actually gave me the motivation to start losing weight again. But yeah, I feel like I could climb a damn mountain (though my body wouldn't let me yet). I hope it lasts, and isn't just a temporary effect.

I actually feel a little bit better about my weight when I'm actively doing something about it, but being extra conscious of it sounds logical, too. After all, it's a subject that's in your thoughts a lot, so it's only natural you're going to notice the issue(s) you're working on.

No real tips to keep going except... keep going. I find the worst obstacles are to do with my own laziness and wanting to skip a day of exercise, etc. It snowballs and one day becomes two, then three, then I lose momentum and think fuck it, I can't do this, might as well quit and bake a cake. I started small re: exercise. 15 minutes a day, then half an hour. I also remind myself often of how far I've come and how I need to keep that ball rolling. Good luck! :)

I have the same - mostly with eating. "One slice of pizza won't hurt" - and then, I've eaten half the pizza. Thanks for the encouragement!

Edited 2014-05-23 08:10 (UTC)

I'm like that a bit - I think it's that once you say 'I'm losing weight' there's suddenly a thinner you that you're comparing yourself to.

I usually overcome it by not thinking about numbers on the scale or appearance so much, and just concentrating on making healthier choices, one choice at a time. And I remund myself that this isn't just for a few months, this is for forever so I can be healrhy for the rest of my life. And when you're thinking big like that bodily imperfections start seeming so much less important.

Good luck!

Re: Does anyone else only feel fat when they're trying to lose weight?

kallanda_lee - 2014-05-23 08:12 (UTC) - Expand

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