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Hmph. Someone I know just posted about "not trusting" anyone who wants their favorite characters to have happy endings. They know I'm a big happy ending fan, but I don't expect them to withhold their opinions for the sake of one acquaintance, and the fact that they hang out with me in the first place knowing my feelings on endings means it's probably an exaggerated statement and I definitely shouldn't take it personally. The fact that I'm bothered by this is my own problem. *sigh* Still, I'm bothered. I kind of feel like being a dickbag and saying "Funny, I don't trust anyone who doesn't." But that would be stupid.

...why the fuck would anyone "not trust" someone who wants a happy ending for a character? Like...what is even the logic behind that?

And no, that's not your problem. If she said "I hate my favorite characters to have happy endings" that's one thing. But not trusting people who like something different is something else entirely.

"Don't trust anyone who ____" is memetic phrasing at this point, I think. It's not always about literally not trusting, it's just a way to say "I strongly disagree with anyone who ___."

It's still annoying, though.

It still makes no sense, IMO. A lot of people like happy endings, so it should be obvious to that person why people like them, so unless they "strongly disagree" with probably 90% of everyone they know...

If 90% of the people I knew liked happy endings, I'd have a lot more to read.

That said, it's completely possible to strongly disagree with 90% of the people you know.

Sure, but to the point of saying you "don't trust them"?

Yeah, I take it in the same vein as "if you don't like _____, we can't be friends." Few people who say that mean it literally. I think this version, at least when said by this person, is less lighthearted and jokey, but no more literal.

Ugh I hate this "I can't trust people who have this opinion" thing.

and honestly anyone who said that to me, I would probably think is being an oversensitive whinebag.

If they honestly claim they can't trust you for that, the problem is with them.

Yes, this. And I'd be strongly tempted to reply, "I can't trust people who make ridiculous value judgements like that." But I'm a cranky old bag who no longer let's other people make me feel bad over my harmless fannish opinions.

That might be my answer to OP as well: you'll be able to handle it when you get to be a cranky old bag. That might not be helpful.

when you stop thinking of "things you love" as the same as your identity

so when people criticize the things you love, you realize that they are not criticizing YOU as a person

Except that what you like does actually say something about what kind of person you are, and that when people criticize the things you love, there's usually a strong implication of "and the people who like these things are stupid/bad/morally depraved."

Solution: Stop being friends with Joss Whedon.

Either that, or you should get your sarcasm on - "I know, right? What psychos, wanting nice things to happen to fictional people they like! Next thing you know, people will start wanting nice things to happen to real people they like, and then there'll be anarchy! Cats and dogs living together! Communism!"

But I might also have a problem with people being jerks about things they know I like. So maybe you shouldn't listen to me. (Or do; it'll be hilarious.)

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