[ SECRET POST #2749 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2749 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 073 secrets from Secret Submission Post #393.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

02. http://i.imgur.com/7KbBqjY.png

[(Anonymous)]

Not gonna lie, that's slightly freaky even if there's almost no chance the BNF intends to follow through on that threat. But it's a shame it's driven you out of the fandom, OP. :(

Personally, I'd screencap that shit and let someone else know. Not just because it'd blow up in the BNF's face-- that's just a side benefit-- but because if someone's made a death threat against you, having other people know about it is some measure of protection.

[misty_anon]

I agree with screencapping it all.

OP, I don't think you're pathetic. People have been put in jail for making death threats, and some of them had the attitude that it wasn't serious because it was "only the internet". They found out they were wrong when the police turned up on their freaking doorstep.

I hope your therapy helps you.

[dinogrrl]

This, I know this particular incident happened years ago but if this ever happens, screencap everything. Death threats are not a game, and people who treat them like a game need to be called on their crap.

Like other commenters have mentioned, make sure at least one other (trusted) person knows what's going on. People who make threats of any sort can only operate with the relative anonymity of private conversations and their victim's feelings of fear and guilt to prevent them from speaking up. If nobody else knows, they're free to keep doing this kind of thing, and they DO keep doing it. The more people who know what they've done, the less of a chance they have to make such threats to begin with, and their chance of following through with it is even lower.

I hope you can work through the anxiety. Anxiety issues are no fun and situations like this one don't help.

(sorry for multiple edits, having issues writing tonight apparently)

[(Anonymous)]

that's a pretty extreme reaction, op.

not OP

[(Anonymous)]

Well, to be fair, so is a fucking death threat over number of reviews. The OP has no control over how many people review their fic. BNF needs to chill the fuck out.

Re: not OP

[sdk]

Seriously. I hope the BNF is in therapy too because wtf.

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously, I don't want to be a bitch but I'm thinking "troll". Nobody - barring severe anxiety issues - can still be afraid of something that happened 8 years before, especially not a threat on the internet. The BNF probably don't remember threatening you! And if she did, how would they find you?
If it's real though, I'm sincerely sorry for you and glad you're getting help.

[(Anonymous)]

The OP outright says they have severe social anxiety issues. You just answered your own question.

[(Anonymous)]

That BNF is a nut. Seriously, document all interactions you have with this person and make sure friends know and have access to the screencaps/e-mails/whatever, just for safekeeping.

[elaminator]

Wow, I don't know who the fuck would be such an asshole as to send you death threats over reviews, but that person has some serious issues. I get why you were upset over it (and I hope you did document the threats at the time!), though not to the extent. Still, anxiety can be terrible and I imagine you latched onto this threat and couldn't shake the memory of it. That sucks, OP. Hopefully your therapist can help you overcome this!

I would say, "There's very little chance that the BNF will be able to find you" (or even remembers, if it was that long ago), but irrational fears are an unpleasant part of anxiety so you already know this. :/ (I've had a bit of experience with them too, OP. Sorry you're going through this.)

[(Anonymous)]

tbh, the entire first paragraph describing the OPs amazing popularity made me a bit skeptical. Why do we need to know that OP is a gift to every fandom they touch?

[(Anonymous)]

It gives context and a severe contrast to the OP's actual state of mind, yielding more impact for the secret.

[(Anonymous)]

Some people are naturally good at writing. I don't see anything arrogant about the OP stating what people have said about their works. I can see where some butthurt BNF might think a fandom nobody writing a better fic than theirs is stealing their spotlight.

Also social anxiety sucks.

[(Anonymous)]

Because it explains what motive the BNF had to go after the OP.

[silvereriena]

It's good that you're getting help, OP. If this BNF is still active you can maybe report them?

[(Anonymous)]

Crazy bitches gonna be crazy.

[(Anonymous)]

OP, there's almost zero chance you developed agoraphobia/social anxiety disorder "all because of" that person threatening you, so don't feel bad. You're not pathetic. It's probable that they played a pretty minor role in your SAD and that your brain just now tries to rationalize (as brains do) your anxiety using this thing that happened to you, and you happened to be in the age bracket where the disorder usually starts to appear.

[(Anonymous)]

That really sucks, OP. I received several death threats (the person was going to run me over in her car) for leaving mild con-crit after being asked to do so. Even though I knew she was in a different country to me and didn't know my real identity, it was quite disturbing. Especially as I ride my bicycle everywhere and it made me jumpy every time a car came up behind me. It definitely worsened my depression for a while, but I did get over it.

Best wishes to you and I hope your therapy is helping.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey OP.

I'm a CS for a large video game company. We piss people off all the time.

Don't just screen cap and forget. Send that shit to the police. Take it down town, and let them know that you'd just like to have a record of it.

When we receive death threats, this is what we do with it. Yes, we're a large company, but we take death threats very, very seriously. In all probability, nothing is going to happen, but it's best to just…take care of things such as this. Especially if it has made you feel uncomfortable.

[(Anonymous)]

It happened 8 years ago though?

[gabzillaz]

You are not pathetic, anon. The person that sent you death threats is.

[diet_poison]

In a nutshell, this. Boom.

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry that happened to you, OP, and that it's causing you anxiety issues even now.

IMO after eight years, it's probably safe to say crazy BNF is a coward who never intended to follow through with anything anyway. This is not to invalidate your reaction or anxiety in any way, since you're the one who received the death threats. I hope you'll be able to get past this and not let some psycho from your past dictate your everyday life.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sorry you had that experience and are still having to deal with it. I'm glad you and your therapist are working on it. You have love and support coming from me. You are not pathetic. I am glad you are still able to go outside when you want to, even if it takes a lot of work.