[ SECRET POST #3012 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3012 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Grounded For Life]


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(Beasts of the Southern Wild)


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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[fscom]

22. [ WARNING for rape, child abuse ]
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[(Anonymous)]

Millions of folks have the same kinks without the backstory. Unless you hear from alternate-universe you who never met that boy, and is totally kink-free, don't beat yourself up or feel ashamed.

But if you DO hear from alternate-universe you, please notify leading physicists at once, because that's important new information.

[quirkytizzy]

Sounds like you experienced "top drop", which is where tops often feel shame and confusion with their roles in sex scenes they've done. It's perfectly normal and it does not make you a bad person. It does not mean you have anything to be ashamed of. It's the natural course of a person processing those sorts of scenarios with loved ones. We come to our kinks however we come to them. I think you finding this about yourself while helping a loved one move through his past trauma is beautiful and noble. Don't be ashamed. You are not wrong, you didn't do anything wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[a_potato]

Well put.

[(Anonymous)]

sorry, that's harsh. even if you know you could developed that fantasy anyway, yeah, your relationship might have influenced it.

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[(Anonymous)]

Image: pink-and-purple castles surrounded by pink, purple, yellow, and green diamond designs

Text: Here’s a story: many moons ago I fell in love with a boy. He was handsome and smart and Charming. I was young and naïve and I thought our love would last forever, as one does at that age.

But our story was not a fairy tale. I found out that this boy I loved so much had been repeatedly raped and abused when he was still a child. Looking back, this was way beyond anything I could realistically handle then, but I tried, because I felt it shouldn’t matter and love should Conquer All.

The things that had been done to him steill were very present in him. At some time we started RPing rape scenarios (not real life, but though Chat) because I think that was sort of his way of working through things.

So here’ sthe secret: I grew to like it. Love did not Conquer All and we broke up, but I think it’s the reason why I still get off on dubcon and noncom in fanfic. It only got more pronounced over the years. I think my reasons are so much more fucked up than just “having a kink” and I could never ever tell.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, that's a difficult situation to be in. I will say what others have said--it's not your fault. Kinks are kinks, and we have them for whatever reason. You're not a bad person for having them, not matter how you got them.

[(Anonymous)]

I see where you come from. My better half was abused as a teen and because of that I was ashamed for getting off on dubcon slash for a long time. But eventually I came clean and after discussing many sides of it, and us, I've learned that it's more too it than me profiting from his hurt. That might be woven in, because there's crossing lines, but we've found that the details of my kinks and what he has to carry around has little to do with each other. Which is a relief of course. But we wouldn't have known if we hadn't talked about it in a scarily honest way.

And any way, we like what we like and must find ways to help each other get that. Fantasizing is not the same as doing. (This can't be stated often enough, it seems.) Think forward: what's done is done and we must carry the baggage we have regardless. If you care about being respectful, you probably are.