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In case anyone needs it.

Second comment to hide triggery stuff.

I got less than six hours of sleep last night finishing a homework assignment that was due today, using information I got from section that day. It wasn't even a hard assignment! My code just kept throwing up errors because the TA had barely explained how to program it. (And of course coding is only taught in section, even though it's a huge part of our grades.)

There's a tumblr post going around about how You Should Stop Saying "I'm Going To Die Alone" Because We ~All Die Alone~ and it's irrationally pissing me off because this is something that terrifies me, because I live by myself and will often have weekends where I don't see any of my friends, and really could drop dead on a Friday night and no one would know until I didn't show up at work on Monday, so this "Everyone's loved and it just matters what you do with your life!" bullshit is pissing me off, because, really, I could totally fall and crack open my head and no one would know for days STOP ACTING LIFE THIS IS SOME BULLSHIT WORRY OF SAD SINGLE PEOPLE AND WE ALL JUST NEED TO LOVE OURSELVES MORE.

(whoo, that felt good to get out)

I feel that.

I suspect that most people who're reblogging something like that haven't actually experienced what it's like to truly be alone without a support system.

Most of Tumblr is inexperienced kids reblogging platitudes and soundbites that seem profound but have very little to do with reality.

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(Anonymous) - 2015-05-22 00:05 (UTC) - Expand

I hear you on that. Before texting was a thing I'd have days where I simply wasn't on the computer very much because I was playing games on consoles. I remember when MGS3 came out, I was basically incommunicado for like a week and when I got back online it was like coming home to an army of pets who thought you were dead.

Nowadays with a smartphone and always-on internet I'm in contact with at least SOMEONE pretty much all the time, even if I don't actually leave my house often.

Am I the only one afraid to talk about specific people on these sorts of threads, in the off-chance they happen upon it? Even if there'd be no reason for them to know about fandomsecrets (or even fandom)?

No, I'm the same way. People never seem like the type to post on F!S, but you never know...

As long as you vague it up enough - change names, change the type of fandom if you need to - then I don't think it'd be an issue.

Have you ever noticed how many people reply to semi-specific posts with some variant of "I'm scared this is me"? Or how many posts where people are venting about some personal experience that many others can relate to? I think that something that feels specific to you, the one experiencing it, can be interpreted many different ways by many different people, so in truth is never actually as specific as you think.

While I'm not (I've talked plenty about an ex-friend of mine who was a very manipulative emotional vampire) I can understand that fear.

If it bugs you that much, make it purposely vague.

I think I have a crush on a friend and I really really don't want to. I haven't dated anyone in 5 years and I really don't want to, because I'm terrible at dating and I don't want to hurt people but I always do and I just want to not have a crush, please.

I just want my knee to get better and not keep me awake at night. :(

I'm sorry. I recently had some knee trouble, and it was a real eye-opener for me. Even if it takes a while to get better, I hope you quickly get past the point where it's painful enough to keep you awake. Fingers crossed for you!

Man I sure would like to have a normal sex life with my girlfriend without my crippling depression and anxiety getting in the way! That sure would be great. Sure would like to be able to do that one thing without messing it up for myself. But here we are.

hey (1) i'm sorry you're in that position, it sucks (2) have you looked into therapy / medication at all

So...I have a crush on a guy at work. He's very nice eye candy and has been pleasant (if not necessarily super friendly) to me. Thing is, in the training class where I met him, he came across as a bit of a suck up. I've had crushes on brown nosers before, which is perplexing because the concept of brown nosing is something I find hard to stomach. I need some place where I can ramble about this totally stupid crush (or someone who's willing to put up with my stupidity).

Unfortunately my husband doesn't really fit the bill (even though he is aware of this crush).

I am just fucking tired of going through incompetent vets in this town.

We have an elderly cat, and she's a good baby with some long-term health problems, including hyperthyroidism. But every time she develops an additional short-term issue - kitty sniffles, an infection - no matter which vet we take her to, they end up diagnosing her incorrectly, prescribing her meds which she turns out to be allergic or intolerant to, and/or sending her into respiratory distress. The worst? Because of her hyperthyroidism, she can't gain weight. She's extremely thin, and no matter how much we feed her she just can't gain weight. Then she gets sick, goes to the vet, and goes off any and all food for days at a time and loses even more weight.

She's in good health outside of these instances (it seems to happen every 6 months or so) so it's not her time yet, but I really wish we could find a vet who wouldn't make her worse instead of stable. One moron lowered her thyroid meds dose for the wrong reason and sent her into an accelerated weight loss, so when we brought her in out of sheer terror that she was starving to death, they only shrugged and said oops.

That's a shitty situation, but unfortunately it's one that's hard to fix. There's not really a definitive treatment for hyperthyroidism because part of the problem is it tends to compensate for other common geriatric feline illnesses like renal insufficiency, so most vets are wary of over-treating. There are surgical interventions that knock out the thyroid entirely, but again, those generally aren't recommended in an elderly animal.

The last part of the equation is that although your cat may seem active (hyperthyroidism is like having a nitrous oxide valve on your metabolism engine; so they appear to have a lot of energy and playfulness even for older cats) that doesn't mean your cat is healthy. In fact, with the rate of infections s(he) is having, I'd wager the overall health probably isn't great, and there might be some immunity issues to worry about.

That sort of thing is as common to cats as it is to humans, unfortunately, and it's just something to be dealt with and treated as it arises. The best thing you can really do for your pet is to continuously see one vet who does an okay job of treating the small things. Ideally the one who diagnosed the hyperthyroidism in the first place.

Re: Support/Vent Thread

(Anonymous) - 2015-05-22 02:07 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Support/Vent Thread

herpymcderp - 2015-05-22 02:14 (UTC) - Expand

The person I love is dead.

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(Anonymous) - 2015-05-22 04:57 (UTC) - Expand

I'm kind of afraid I weirded a friend out and hurt our relationship. But maybe I'm reading too much into the situation? I have an anxiety disorder, so I know I can make myself crazy sometimes over things that other people had no idea were even bothering me.

Here's the run down: fairly close friend of mine, known each other for like 5 years, recently did some self-examination and came out as bisexual. One night we and her bf were drinking, and she asked him if he'd want to have a threesome with a girl if she found someone willing, because while she has no intention of leaving him, she would like to experience sex with a woman. He agreed.

In the few months afterward, I started thinking maybe I should offer. I have no interest in her romantically, but we're friends and thought maybe that would make it easier for her, since she's quite shy about meeting people, and I've never actually been in a threesome, so I'm curious and would like to try it. So we went out to lunch one day and I brought up the subject. Wasn't pushy, and said I'd understand if she thought it would be awkward or she wasn't into the idea, but I wanted to let her know it was an option if they so desired. She said she was on board, and she would ask her bf.

That was months ago, and I never heard anything more about it. The three of us have hung out a few times since then, though more rarely than we normally do, and I never brought it up, because they didn't bring it up. I'm not sure if she even asked him about it, so I don't want to talk about it in front of him because I wasn't sure it was my place. The thing that's mostly bothering me is, she seems to be avoiding spending any time alone with me recently, whereas before we would go out to lunch or go to the movies without bf on a fairly regular basis. I don't even know if she's actually avoiding me, or if I'm just reading too much into our schedules not meshing, or what. This is something I normally would just ask her about, but I haven't had a chance to, because we've not had any one-on-one time. Arrgh.

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blitzwing - 2015-05-22 00:54 (UTC) - Expand

It was an extremely long and stressful day and I just feel sad and exhausted now. I hate that I let people who don't do their job get to me but I did.

I have to work all weekend but I'm working with friends, I hope and pray it's a good weekend because I am about to break down.

I'm not going to Animazement.

My transportation plans fell through.

you ever get that feeling where you just want to go to bed so you can fall asleep and skip ahead to the part when you eat breakfast the next morning

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