[ SECRET POST #3179 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3179 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Rupaul's Drag Race season 7]


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[The Mighty Boosh, Noel Fielding]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I closed my askbox because of that stuff. It just feels so fake to me that it stresses me out.

[(Anonymous)]

No offense, you sound really cynical.

Nice messages feel fake? I guarentee you no one is going through the trouble to send you a fake nice message. Most nice anon messages are people who are shy but see you might be feeling down and want to lift your spirits. Followers send nice messages because they might consider you a friend.

But if you want to assume the worst that is your problem.

[(Anonymous)]

It's fake in the sense that they don't know me. The random people walking into my askbox have no meaningful relationship with me. They're not there for me when I need them.
Leaving a cute message doesn't demand anything from you. You drop it and go. To me, compliments on my art is sincere, because there's something behind it. I know why they are happy.

When I was actually miserable and half-suicidal nobody bothered saying anything. They're not there for me, they're there for themselves. I'd rather not deal with it.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

Woooooowwwwww, projecting much? You seriously have issues, and if that's you attitude towards people being nice, that's probably why you never see anyone being sincerely nice -- you've already decided they're their for themselves and not for you, so if they were being sincerely nice, you have pre-emptively blinded yourself to it and made it impossible for you to see niceness.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Yeah, I mean who cares that they said no one was there when they needed someone? It's much better to tell them they have issues and are projecting! Totally what depressed and suicidal people need to hear :D Yay ultimate niceness~!

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, that was an inappropriate response.

[(Anonymous)]

NA

Yeah, I get what you're saying. tumblr interactions seem really superficial to me. Like people are way more interested in your output than anything else about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes! superficial is the word I wanted.

On tumblr if you stop output for some time, that's it, everybody forgets. I'm ok with tumblr being all about looking at pretty art, but I don't like pretending it's much beyoond that.

[(Anonymous)]

Personally I appreciate people who go out of their way (even just a little bit) to spread positivity (even just a little bit). I do agree with you that whatever anyone says in that context is going to be fairly on-the-surface. And yeah, sometimes when I see a comment that seems like an incredibly personal peptalk, I think "God, I never want anyone to say that to me." Like when anons tell someone they're "an incredible person" and that they "have so many people who love them" or something, that feels a bit...like...thanks for being nice and meaning well but no thanks?

I just don't think it's all as black-or-white as you're making it out to be. The options aren't just "sincere" or "insincere." I think most nice comments, both online and in RL, come from a place of preferring to leave most people a tiny bit happier than when you encountered them, especially if they're someone you know a little and actually like. That's not insincere, it's just a casual sort of kindness.

You do sound pretty cynical, anon, but I don't really agree with the other anons who are jumping on you about it. Unless you're one of those people who would post about how depressed you were and then snap at people who tried to comfort you. Those people really are taking their issues out on others, and it sucks.

[(Anonymous)]

Seconding the above anon - no one is gonna go through the trouble to send you fake nice messages. If someone takes the time to send you a nice message, it's because they want to say something nice to you. What other motive would they have? This isn't RL where people have great motivation to be fake-nice to get favors and shit. Get the fuck over yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

lol I like how both of you are throwing a shitfit over this.
I didn't tell anybody why I closed my askbox, I didn't make drama. If I'm happier like this, what do you care? I draw my art and people reblog and nobody has to get stressed out.
Sorry I'm not tumblring like you want me to.

It's like people asking "how are you" when they don't actually care. Everybody knows it's meaningless etiquette. tumblr is a hugbox so people send cutesy messages. I'd rather just talk to my actual friends.

[(Anonymous)]

FWIW as someone who does leave anon niceness? I totally get you and I suspect the other anons are partly reacting because they don't want to admit the above can be true or that random niceness is, well, random and don't take much effort.

[(Anonymous)]

wow

such niceness

much convincings

Seriously though, as someone who does send niceness anon? It /is/ a great way to send support to someone, but let's not pretend anon has no reason to feel what they do. I don't feel any ~deep connection~ when I leave the niceness nor do I expect it to have a long lasting effect, especially if it's a "general" niceness.

Besides... there's plenty of people who do it just to pat their backs and brag to their friends about this.

[(Anonymous)]

SA
*pat their own backs

[badass_tiger]

I feel this way too. I appreciate the thought, but a nice message from someone who doesn't know me doesn't make me feel nice. It makes me feel like they want to feel nice for being nice to other people. I mean, if you don't know me, how do you know I'm pleasant and kind and all that you're saying?