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ranting here because this is driving me insane. you know when you're sitting there in the same room with someone and the person insists on loudly reacting to something in order to get your attention? like you're busy reading or checking your phone or w/e else and the other person is watching something on tv or a video on their computer and they can't help but exclaim loudly about how they can't believe what some celebrity said or how shocking something was, while glancing at you every now and then to see if you're paying attention yet?

drives me fucking nuts. listen asshole i'm not even watching the tv show, i have no idea what you're talking about, i don't care why you find the color blue so appalling for something i clearly haven't been paying attention to nor do i care if two characters i don't know in a show i don't watch have done some thing and it's terrible, and your attempts to grab my attention with your verbal-clickbait-in-real-life antics is obvious and painful

i can't stand people that do this

How dare they try to communicate socially, or involve you in a group activity. How fucking dare they, hey Brian, COME LOOK AT THIS FUCKWAD HERE. c'MON!

lol, involve in a group activity? by what, watching tv with them so they're not alone?

when someone is sitting and reading a book in peace, i don't keep elbowing them to watch football with me. this is the equivalent of what they're doing.

Then leave the room.

NAYRT - Well, yeah, but the OP is saying (or at least I think they're saying) that people know they're obviously trying to do something else and instead of waiting for the person to be done or asking politely if they have a minute, they're forcing OP to pay attention.

(And I hate that too, OP.)

yes, that was what i meant. this person passive aggressively pesters without directly asking for attention until you give in and either engage or leave the room. they do it to everyone, not just me.

1) It is 100% possible to communicate in a non passive aggressive way.
2) Trying to involve someone in a group activity* when they clearly do not want to participate is douchey.

* Although since when is watching TV or or a video on one's computer a "group activity"?

Careful with that edge mate.

not wanting to be interrupted every few minutes while doing something else, by someone's inane comments about a tv show that i don't even watch, and expected to respond to them with interest and attention... is edgy?

if that's what constitutes edge to you, you need some perspective. that's basic politeness

Perhaps leaving the room and moving to a quiet place where your delicate sensibilities won't be disturbed by raucous television watchers might help?

that's exactly what i do. i can't be in the same room with this person because they do it every time.

thing is, i know it's not them being raucous because when they're alone in the room, i never hear a peep. it's only when other people walk in that they demand everyone else's attention. oh, it's not just at me btw. it's at everyone. they must have their attention and everyone must be engaged in their show

Have you tried asking them not to bother you? Or just plain stating you are not in the least bit interested in their show and would they mind shutting the fuck up about it already?

It's so much better to respond to passive aggression with more passive aggression though.

op -

yes. they don't understand why i'm getting annoyed, they were just enjoying their show!! out loud, very loudly! which they never ever do when nobody is in the room with them. if you're in the room next to them where they can't see you but you can hear the tv, not a peep

Sadly this is not always an option.

omg I know exactly what you mean. There's this girl in one of my classes who makes sure to laugh SO LOUDLY when she's on her phone, while surreptitiously glancing over at other people in the class to see if we're interested in whatever she's looking at. UGH.

yes thank you that's what i mean! it's so obvious they're putting on a show to try to get everyone else's attention, not reacting on their own without caring whether people hear. there's always that surreptitious look to check how many people are watching and seeing how much fun they're having and it's never a look of guilt at being too loud, it's a gauge of who's paying attention

Not OP, but I think everyone's missing his or her point.

OP ISN'T saying "people walk in the room and talk to me." OP says "when people can tell I'm busy, they decide to distract me until I have to listen to them."

Imagine a five year old kid poking their parent and kicking their feet against the walls until Mommy has to give him what he wants. That's what the OP is talking about.

yes thank you! :) if people walk in and talk to me and ask for my attention and it's something important i have no problem at all giving it to them. it's the passive aggressive attention demanding while i'm obviously busy doing something else and not interested in their tv show or whatever it is that drives me insane

Ahh, I see.

This is basically my parents and to some extent my boyfriend.

You have my condolences.

My dad's newthing is asking if I have windows 10 yet incessantly (I don't want it) and talking about how great WhatsApp is even though I do not have a smartphone, preferably at the exact moment I'm trying to send out CV's.

Edited 2015-11-29 21:54 (UTC)

So...use your words. Better yet, don't be in the room while they are watching TV/you are checking your phone.

I swear you are trying too hard to be offended by something that isn't malicious in the least.

i have done both. sometimes it can't be avoided.

if i'm trying too hard to be offended by something that isn't malicious, you are trying too hard to get angry at a post you could have scrolled past, no?

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